Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I used to see the same woman on a trail for many months. I also saw her at a coffee shop we both liked. One time i approached her on the trail and said something like "I seem to see you everywhere!" We decided to meet for coffee and then had a few more dates, but I decided not to pursue a relationship.
Nothing really bad happened. She seemed happy that I recognized her on the trail and she was happy to go out with me a few times. The one awkward thing is that I still sometimes see her on the trail or in the neighborhood.
Yeah. Because that’s where she runs. You made it awkward.
Yep, you're the a'hole. I hope you learned your lesson.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I used to see the same woman on a trail for many months. I also saw her at a coffee shop we both liked. One time i approached her on the trail and said something like "I seem to see you everywhere!" We decided to meet for coffee and then had a few more dates, but I decided not to pursue a relationship.
Nothing really bad happened. She seemed happy that I recognized her on the trail and she was happy to go out with me a few times. The one awkward thing is that I still sometimes see her on the trail or in the neighborhood.
Yeah. Because that’s where she runs. You made it awkward.
Anonymous wrote:I used to see the same woman on a trail for many months. I also saw her at a coffee shop we both liked. One time i approached her on the trail and said something like "I seem to see you everywhere!" We decided to meet for coffee and then had a few more dates, but I decided not to pursue a relationship.
Nothing really bad happened. She seemed happy that I recognized her on the trail and she was happy to go out with me a few times. The one awkward thing is that I still sometimes see her on the trail or in the neighborhood.
Anonymous wrote:Truth is a confident attractive man in his 20s to 40s (max, see Patrick Dempsey on Grey’s) can jog by a random gal, do a double take while passing and smiling. If she smiles, stop in your tracks and talk to her. Something corny like, “I’m sorry, I just wanted to say you’re gorgeous” will work. And if it doesn’t work, a confident attractive guy doesn’t care because he has lots of options and just continues on his jog. Worst case he made the random woman’s day calling her pretty. Women are only creeped out by ugly men, nebbish betas, low and middle class men, and old men. They can sense the desperation.
Anonymous wrote:Pretend you sprained your ankle?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:smile and nod when you pass them the first time and then take a long water break 1 mile up the trail with 2 packs of gus in hand and wait for them to pass again then open one for yourself and smile and nod again. if they don't stop you have your answer.
No.
Come on man, let it go. don’t make her have to change her running route.
Ok how about so the first nod and smile and if they respond positively then do the second part? That’s not intrusive at all to any normal people
Nope, don't even glance at her. Eyes straight ahead, or maybe cast upwards. Anything else is aggressive and pushy, and might make her uncomfortable.
What? Are you even a runner? Most runners acknowledge other runners they pass on a trail or a path unless it’s extremely busy. I’ve felt uncomfortable plenty of times while out running but never because a man simply nodded his head or said hello while passing me.
Seems like you're victim blaming. Do you speak for all women?
I’m not sure you understand what that phrase means
Why is your experience relevant if other women feel uncomforable when men look at them (and, even worse, smile)? You're saying they shouldn't feel uncomfortable?
I’m not the PP, I should have clarified. But she spoke in “I” statements about her own feelings and also stated a fact; which is that most runners smile and nod at one another if they pass each other on a trail. No one mentioned a victim , which is why the “victim blaming statement seemed misplaced.
The victims are the women being smiled at.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:smile and nod when you pass them the first time and then take a long water break 1 mile up the trail with 2 packs of gus in hand and wait for them to pass again then open one for yourself and smile and nod again. if they don't stop you have your answer.
No.
Come on man, let it go. don’t make her have to change her running route.
Ok how about so the first nod and smile and if they respond positively then do the second part? That’s not intrusive at all to any normal people
Nope, don't even glance at her. Eyes straight ahead, or maybe cast upwards. Anything else is aggressive and pushy, and might make her uncomfortable.
What? Are you even a runner? Most runners acknowledge other runners they pass on a trail or a path unless it’s extremely busy. I’ve felt uncomfortable plenty of times while out running but never because a man simply nodded his head or said hello while passing me.
Seems like you're victim blaming. Do you speak for all women?
I’m not sure you understand what that phrase means
Why is your experience relevant if other women feel uncomforable when men look at them (and, even worse, smile)? You're saying they shouldn't feel uncomfortable?
I’m not the PP, I should have clarified. But she spoke in “I” statements about her own feelings and also stated a fact; which is that most runners smile and nod at one another if they pass each other on a trail. No one mentioned a victim , which is why the “victim blaming statement seemed misplaced.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:smile and nod when you pass them the first time and then take a long water break 1 mile up the trail with 2 packs of gus in hand and wait for them to pass again then open one for yourself and smile and nod again. if they don't stop you have your answer.
No.
Come on man, let it go. don’t make her have to change her running route.
Ok how about so the first nod and smile and if they respond positively then do the second part? That’s not intrusive at all to any normal people
Nope, don't even glance at her. Eyes straight ahead, or maybe cast upwards. Anything else is aggressive and pushy, and might make her uncomfortable.
What? Are you even a runner? Most runners acknowledge other runners they pass on a trail or a path unless it’s extremely busy. I’ve felt uncomfortable plenty of times while out running but never because a man simply nodded his head or said hello while passing me.
Seems like you're victim blaming. Do you speak for all women?
The victims are the women being smiled at.
I’m not sure you understand what that phrase means
Why is your experience relevant if other women feel uncomforable when men look at them (and, even worse, smile)? You're saying they shouldn't feel uncomfortable?
I’m not the PP, I should have clarified. But she spoke in “I” statements about her own feelings and also stated a fact; which is that most runners smile and nod at one another if they pass each other on a trail. No one mentioned a victim , which is why the “victim blaming statement seemed misplaced.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:smile and nod when you pass them the first time and then take a long water break 1 mile up the trail with 2 packs of gus in hand and wait for them to pass again then open one for yourself and smile and nod again. if they don't stop you have your answer.
No.
Come on man, let it go. don’t make her have to change her running route.
Ok how about so the first nod and smile and if they respond positively then do the second part? That’s not intrusive at all to any normal people
Nope, don't even glance at her. Eyes straight ahead, or maybe cast upwards. Anything else is aggressive and pushy, and might make her uncomfortable.
What? Are you even a runner? Most runners acknowledge other runners they pass on a trail or a path unless it’s extremely busy. I’ve felt uncomfortable plenty of times while out running but never because a man simply nodded his head or said hello while passing me.
Seems like you're victim blaming. Do you speak for all women?
I’m not sure you understand what that phrase means
Why is your experience relevant if other women feel uncomforable when men look at them (and, even worse, smile)? You're saying they shouldn't feel uncomfortable?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:smile and nod when you pass them the first time and then take a long water break 1 mile up the trail with 2 packs of gus in hand and wait for them to pass again then open one for yourself and smile and nod again. if they don't stop you have your answer.
No.
Come on man, let it go. don’t make her have to change her running route.
Ok how about so the first nod and smile and if they respond positively then do the second part? That’s not intrusive at all to any normal people
Nope, don't even glance at her. Eyes straight ahead, or maybe cast upwards. Anything else is aggressive and pushy, and might make her uncomfortable.
What? Are you even a runner? Most runners acknowledge other runners they pass on a trail or a path unless it’s extremely busy. I’ve felt uncomfortable plenty of times while out running but never because a man simply nodded his head or said hello while passing me.
Seems like you're victim blaming. Do you speak for all women?
I’m not sure you understand what that phrase means
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:smile and nod when you pass them the first time and then take a long water break 1 mile up the trail with 2 packs of gus in hand and wait for them to pass again then open one for yourself and smile and nod again. if they don't stop you have your answer.
No.
Come on man, let it go. don’t make her have to change her running route.
Ok how about so the first nod and smile and if they respond positively then do the second part? That’s not intrusive at all to any normal people
Nope, don't even glance at her. Eyes straight ahead, or maybe cast upwards. Anything else is aggressive and pushy, and might make her uncomfortable.
What? Are you even a runner? Most runners acknowledge other runners they pass on a trail or a path unless it’s extremely busy. I’ve felt uncomfortable plenty of times while out running but never because a man simply nodded his head or said hello while passing me.
Seems like you're victim blaming. Do you speak for all women?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:smile and nod when you pass them the first time and then take a long water break 1 mile up the trail with 2 packs of gus in hand and wait for them to pass again then open one for yourself and smile and nod again. if they don't stop you have your answer.
No.
Come on man, let it go. don’t make her have to change her running route.
Ok how about so the first nod and smile and if they respond positively then do the second part? That’s not intrusive at all to any normal people
Nope, don't even glance at her. Eyes straight ahead, or maybe cast upwards. Anything else is aggressive and pushy, and might make her uncomfortable.
What? Are you even a runner? Most runners acknowledge other runners they pass on a trail or a path unless it’s extremely busy. I’ve felt uncomfortable plenty of times while out running but never because a man simply nodded his head or said hello while passing me.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes. Wave, smile, then start talking. Get to the point fast- plan a meet up
Bizarre that people think a woman will just meet up with a total stranger, simply because he has penis-feels for her.
Cringy Reddit lexicon teases out you’re a femcel.