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Anonymous wrote:NP. Am I the only one who if I was the mother here would want any chance my baby had at life? I am pro-choice to be clear (or at least pro-choice as it used to be, not late term, reasonable limits), but God, if I was that mom I would not care what they did to me to give my baby a chance at survival.

I am confused by the reaction here. I’ve had multiple pregnancies and in any one of them, I would have done almost anything to ensure the survival of the baby.

if I was 35 weeks pregnant sure. But not 9 weeks. Because the baby will be gravely disabled. dead bodies cannot actually gestate healthy babies.

Well, it’s happened before at 16 weeks in the literature. I don’t know if it’s happened earlier. But 35 weeks is a far outlier position. Nobody is keeping anyone alive at 35 weeks. That baby would just be delivered. So you aren’t actually saying anything here.

Sustaining people for months on vents at their own expense (financially, ethically, biologically), against their own wishes, their families wishes, the medical team'a oath of "do no harm" is really effed up. You are a dead person's biological tissue to sustain a fetus against their will.

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If I died when the baby was nine weeks, no. Not a chance. There is no way to bring a healthy baby into the world given those circumstances and bankrupting my family while my body rotted from the inside is an absolute.no.

Maybe if I were 30 weeks.

Adding: it is not extreme at all to not want your body to shut down over 30 plus weeks and incur lifelong and crippling debt.

How on earth is THAT position extreme?

As a practical matter how is she incurring lifelong debt? She will die, and they can’t recover money from a corpse. Why the exaggerated references to lifelong debt and bankruptcy? The taxpayers and hospitals will pay for this, not her family. Georgia isn’t a community property state, which is the more common situation where medical debt before death can attach to the surviving spouse.

Also, comatose women on vents have birthed babies before. It’s a terrible situation but you are being extreme by not at least acknowledging that has happened.

Again, extreme language.

I get that you would not want to do this yourself. But the discussion here on DCUM has been so extremist that I find it baffling.

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Anonymous wrote:NP. Am I the only one who if I was the mother here would want any chance my baby had at life? I am pro-choice to be clear (or at least pro-choice as it used to be, not late term, reasonable limits), but God, if I was that mom I would not care what they did to me to give my baby a chance at survival.

I am confused by the reaction here. I’ve had multiple pregnancies and in any one of them, I would have done almost anything to ensure the survival of the baby.

I feel like you do. And I think the reactions here are pretty extreme. The mother is dead, so it really comes down to the feelings of her husband & parents, vs the survival of the baby. I would personally place survival over feelings.

How far does that go? If she was 3 weeks pregnant? Sustaining her on medications which can impact the fetus while her body gets contractures and pressure wounds till the end? If you place survival over feelings then you believe in forced organ donation against someone's will?

You believe your view should override someone else's desires for their own body?

But we don’t know what she desired for her own body.

We don't keep people brain dead on vents forever, we defer to the family in such cases as power of attorney, and the family indicated she would not have wanted this.

-RN

The family wished to remove her from life support, but the activist decided to use her body for a political show.

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Anonymous wrote:Not sure if this was covered already, but her estate would be bankrupt but not her mom or boyfriend. I agree that the health insurer should sue on her behalf but she might be on medicaid at this point.

+1

Yes, there are a lot of serious issues in this case but the people in this thread talking about lifelong debt or bankrupting the family are flatly ignorant and plainly irrational. There are enough serious real issues here that a fake one doesn’t need to be added to the list.

Oh but the baby will be alive to bill! And any small nest egg she had that should have gone to her actual living kid will go to the hospital.

The baby won’t inherit her medical debt. What are you talking about?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am copying and pasting my post:
If I died when the baby was nine weeks, no. Not a chance. There is no way to bring a healthy baby into the world given those circumstances and bankrupting my family while my body rotted from the inside is an absolute.no.

Maybe if I were 30 weeks.

Adding: it is not extreme at all to not want your body to shut down over 30 plus weeks and incur lifelong and crippling debt.

How on earth is THAT position extreme?

As a practical matter how is she incurring lifelong debt? She will die, and they can’t recover money from a corpse. Why the exaggerated references to lifelong debt and bankruptcy? The taxpayers and hospitals will pay for this, not her family. Georgia isn’t a community property state, which is the more common situation where medical debt before death can attach to the surviving spouse.

Also, comatose women on vents have birthed babies before. It’s a terrible situation but you are being extreme by not at least acknowledging that has happened.

Again, extreme language.

I get that you would not want to do this yourself. But the discussion here on DCUM has been so extremist that I find it baffling.

Every moment this woman is on life support the baby is experiencing medical.trauma that will follow the family and their finances for life.

Comatose women have given birth...not braindead women who were out on life support at NINE WEEKS!!

How specifically is the family going to have financial trauma follow them? If the child survives, are you referring to the cost of raising a child?

How do you know for sure there has not been a case of survival like this before? I do not know for sure one way or another but I did a quick NIH search and found the case below which is 16 weeks, and there are references to others. I don’t understand how you can be so certain. Are you a medical researcher?

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8141338/

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Anonymous wrote:NP. Am I the only one who if I was the mother here would want any chance my baby had at life? I am pro-choice to be clear (or at least pro-choice as it used to be, not late term, reasonable limits), but God, if I was that mom I would not care what they did to me to give my baby a chance at survival.

I am confused by the reaction here. I’ve had multiple pregnancies and in any one of them, I would have done almost anything to ensure the survival of the baby.

if I was 35 weeks pregnant sure. But not 9 weeks. Because the baby will be gravely disabled. dead bodies cannot actually gestate healthy babies.

Well, it’s happened before at 16 weeks in the literature. I don’t know if it’s happened earlier. But 35 weeks is a far outlier position. Nobody is keeping anyone alive at 35 weeks. That baby would just be delivered. So you aren’t actually saying anything here.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. Am I the only one who if I was the mother here would want any chance my baby had at life? I am pro-choice to be clear (or at least pro-choice as it used to be, not late term, reasonable limits), but God, if I was that mom I would not care what they did to me to give my baby a chance at survival.

I am confused by the reaction here. I’ve had multiple pregnancies and in any one of them, I would have done almost anything to ensure the survival of the baby.

if I was 35 weeks pregnant sure. But not 9 weeks. Because the baby will be gravely disabled. dead bodies cannot actually gestate healthy babies.

Well, it’s happened before at 16 weeks in the literature. I don’t know if it’s happened earlier. But 35 weeks is a far outlier position. Nobody is keeping anyone alive at 35 weeks. That baby would just be delivered. So you aren’t actually saying anything here.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. Am I the only one who if I was the mother here would want any chance my baby had at life? I am pro-choice to be clear (or at least pro-choice as it used to be, not late term, reasonable limits), but God, if I was that mom I would not care what they did to me to give my baby a chance at survival.

I am confused by the reaction here. I’ve had multiple pregnancies and in any one of them, I would have done almost anything to ensure the survival of the baby.

I feel like you do. And I think the reactions here are pretty extreme. The mother is dead, so it really comes down to the feelings of her husband & parents, vs the survival of the baby. I would personally place survival over feelings.

How far does that go? If she was 3 weeks pregnant? Sustaining her on medications which can impact the fetus while her body gets contractures and pressure wounds till the end? If you place survival over feelings then you believe in forced organ donation against someone's will?

You believe your view should override someone else's desires for their own body?

But we don’t know what she desired for her own body.

We don't keep people brain dead on vents forever, we defer to the family in such cases as power of attorney, and the family indicated she would not have wanted this.

-RN

The family wished to remove her from life support, but the activist decided to use her body for a political show.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. Am I the only one who if I was the mother here would want any chance my baby had at life? I am pro-choice to be clear (or at least pro-choice as it used to be, not late term, reasonable limits), but God, if I was that mom I would not care what they did to me to give my baby a chance at survival.

I am confused by the reaction here. I’ve had multiple pregnancies and in any one of them, I would have done almost anything to ensure the survival of the baby.

I feel like you do. And I think the reactions here are pretty extreme. The mother is dead, so it really comes down to the feelings of her husband & parents, vs the survival of the baby. I would personally place survival over feelings.

How far does that go? If she was 3 weeks pregnant? Sustaining her on medications which can impact the fetus while her body gets contractures and pressure wounds till the end? If you place survival over feelings then you believe in forced organ donation against someone's will?

You believe your view should override someone else's desires for their own body?

But we don’t know what she desired for her own body.

We don't keep people brain dead on vents forever, we defer to the family in such cases as power of attorney, and the family indicated she would not have wanted this.

-RN

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Anonymous wrote:NP. Am I the only one who if I was the mother here would want any chance my baby had at life? I am pro-choice to be clear (or at least pro-choice as it used to be, not late term, reasonable limits), but God, if I was that mom I would not care what they did to me to give my baby a chance at survival.

I am confused by the reaction here. I’ve had multiple pregnancies and in any one of them, I would have done almost anything to ensure the survival of the baby.

if I was 35 weeks pregnant sure. But not 9 weeks. Because the baby will be gravely disabled. dead bodies cannot actually gestate healthy babies.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not sure if this was covered already, but her estate would be bankrupt but not her mom or boyfriend. I agree that the health insurer should sue on her behalf but she might be on medicaid at this point.

+1

Yes, there are a lot of serious issues in this case but the people in this thread talking about lifelong debt or bankrupting the family are flatly ignorant and plainly irrational. There are enough serious real issues here that a fake one doesn’t need to be added to the list.

Oh but the baby will be alive to bill! And any small nest egg she had that should have gone to her actual living kid will go to the hospital.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am copying and pasting my post:
If I died when the baby was nine weeks, no. Not a chance. There is no way to bring a healthy baby into the world given those circumstances and bankrupting my family while my body rotted from the inside is an absolute.no.

Maybe if I were 30 weeks.

Adding: it is not extreme at all to not want your body to shut down over 30 plus weeks and incur lifelong and crippling debt.

How on earth is THAT position extreme?

As a practical matter how is she incurring lifelong debt? She will die, and they can’t recover money from a corpse. Why the exaggerated references to lifelong debt and bankruptcy? The taxpayers and hospitals will pay for this, not her family. Georgia isn’t a community property state, which is the more common situation where medical debt before death can attach to the surviving spouse.

Also, comatose women on vents have birthed babies before. It’s a terrible situation but you are being extreme by not at least acknowledging that has happened.

Again, extreme language.

I get that you would not want to do this yourself. But the discussion here on DCUM has been so extremist that I find it baffling.

Every moment this woman is on life support the baby is experiencing medical.trauma that will follow the family and their finances for life.

Comatose women have given birth...not braindead women who were out on life support at NINE WEEKS!!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. Am I the only one who if I was the mother here would want any chance my baby had at life? I am pro-choice to be clear (or at least pro-choice as it used to be, not late term, reasonable limits), but God, if I was that mom I would not care what they did to me to give my baby a chance at survival.

I am confused by the reaction here. I’ve had multiple pregnancies and in any one of them, I would have done almost anything to ensure the survival of the baby.

I feel like you do. And I think the reactions here are pretty extreme. The mother is dead, so it really comes down to the feelings of her husband & parents, vs the survival of the baby. I would personally place survival over feelings.

Yeah, the reaction in DCUM seems pretty extreme to me. She is dead, so as you say this is the feelings of the family over the survival of the baby.

I think nine weeks is a factor, it’s not clear to be that the baby can survive (although in the grotesque rape cases of comatose women, they have survived), but it’s not like this is such an easy case.

For all the people screaming in here about how she is just an incubator, would you have said the same if she was 27 weeks and the family wanted to let her die, but her body could be kept alive to ensure delivery at 32 weeks? At what point do the feelings of her family stop trumping the survival of the baby for you?

I just do not understand the DCUM reaction here. It seems so extreme to me.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not sure if this was covered already, but her estate would be bankrupt but not her mom or boyfriend. I agree that the health insurer should sue on her behalf but she might be on medicaid at this point.

+1

Yes, there are a lot of serious issues in this case but the people in this thread talking about lifelong debt or bankrupting the family are flatly ignorant and plainly irrational. There are enough serious real issues here that a fake one doesn’t need to be added to the list.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. Am I the only one who if I was the mother here would want any chance my baby had at life? I am pro-choice to be clear (or at least pro-choice as it used to be, not late term, reasonable limits), but God, if I was that mom I would not care what they did to me to give my baby a chance at survival.

I am confused by the reaction here. I’ve had multiple pregnancies and in any one of them, I would have done almost anything to ensure the survival of the baby.

I feel like you do. And I think the reactions here are pretty extreme. The mother is dead, so it really comes down to the feelings of her husband & parents, vs the survival of the baby. I would personally place survival over feelings.