Anonymous wrote:For those opposed, how does this compare to a lap dance in terms of martial infraction. Hard to find in the DMV, but available elsewhere.

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Anonymous wrote:New nightmare unlocked: being at what I thought was a legit massage business when police bust it for being… not legit.

You’re good as long as they don’t catch you mid-jerk.

Anonymous wrote:New nightmare unlocked: being at what I thought was a legit massage business when police bust it for being… not legit.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you weren't 'handling' business at home.

That’s not why most men go.

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Anonymous wrote:To the pp who went to amp, how much did it cost? Suspect my dh went before covid. Regular amount of cash withdrawn every two weeks. No explanation provided. Can you give more details about prices and schedule etc?

Sorry I didn't see this before. They only quote regular rates for a massage. $80 for an hour. Less for a 1/2 hour. They ask you to shower which I think is strange so I declined and told them I showered before I came there which was true. Maybe there was some kind of shower service I missed out on? Anyway, I tipped another $80 but it wasn't negotiated or asked for. Maybe $50 would have been enough? I don't know but I've paid $125 for a massage at Massage Envy with no HE of course and tipped $20 so $160 for a damn good massage with a HE seemed pretty reasonable. I wasn't bold enough to ask for anything more than that and don't know if it's on the menu but I'll assume the right amount of money could buy more.

I've only gone there twice and the place is shut down now. I'm not looking for another one. The atmosphere there is very sketchy and of course it is illegal so there is that. Every once in a while I read where two or three of these Asian spa type businesses in town get busted the same day so their must be some kind of underground where people know where to find them and the cops allow it to a point until they decide to crack down. This one place I went to has been there for a few decades and always manages to not get busted so they must have the proper connections with the law. This is all my speculation.

It just doesn't seem to me like something that should be illegal when it's just a few extra minutes of an otherwise legal hands-on body service. But yeah, I get it, no woman wants their husband sneaking off for HJs in one of those places. I wouldn't want my wife, if I was married, going to a spa to get fingered either. If I was getting it at home there is no way I'd go there.

I know there are a few women here who always chime in loudly that men with great sex lives at home will still seek it outside the home just for variety but I doubt that's a universal truth. More the rare exception. Us men are pretty lazy when it comes to that. And cheap. When I was married and satisfied I would never have taken that step, even out of curiosity and I had opportunities. Not even during dry spells that I knew were temporary. If I thought the situation was hopeless and a sexless marriage was my only future, then I'd be highly tempted, even motivated but paying for HJs can't be anything but a very short-term relief. There is no future in it. There needs to be a more permanent change in circumstances. Just my opinion.

You say that now, but you aren't married, so you have no idea if that is how you would react if you were married.

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Anonymous wrote:To the pp who went to amp, how much did it cost? Suspect my dh went before covid. Regular amount of cash withdrawn every two weeks. No explanation provided. Can you give more details about prices and schedule etc?

Sorry I didn't see this before. They only quote regular rates for a massage. $80 for an hour. Less for a 1/2 hour. They ask you to shower which I think is strange so I declined and told them I showered before I came there which was true. Maybe there was some kind of shower service I missed out on? Anyway, I tipped another $80 but it wasn't negotiated or asked for. Maybe $50 would have been enough? I don't know but I've paid $125 for a massage at Massage Envy with no HE of course and tipped $20 so $160 for a damn good massage with a HE seemed pretty reasonable. I wasn't bold enough to ask for anything more than that and don't know if it's on the menu but I'll assume the right amount of money could buy more.

I've only gone there twice and the place is shut down now. I'm not looking for another one. The atmosphere there is very sketchy and of course it is illegal so there is that. Every once in a while I read where two or three of these Asian spa type businesses in town get busted the same day so their must be some kind of underground where people know where to find them and the cops allow it to a point until they decide to crack down. This one place I went to has been there for a few decades and always manages to not get busted so they must have the proper connections with the law. This is all my speculation.

It just doesn't seem to me like something that should be illegal when it's just a few extra minutes of an otherwise legal hands-on body service. But yeah, I get it, no woman wants their husband sneaking off for HJs in one of those places. I wouldn't want my wife, if I was married, going to a spa to get fingered either. If I was getting it at home there is no way I'd go there.

I know there are a few women here who always chime in loudly that men with great sex lives at home will still seek it outside the home just for variety but I doubt that's a universal truth. More the rare exception. Us men are pretty lazy when it comes to that. And cheap. When I was married and satisfied I would never have taken that step, even out of curiosity and I had opportunities. Not even during dry spells that I knew were temporary. If I thought the situation was hopeless and a sexless marriage was my only future, then I'd be highly tempted, even motivated but paying for HJs can't be anything but a very short-term relief. There is no future in it. There needs to be a more permanent change in circumstances. Just my opinion.

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Anonymous wrote:To the pp who went to amp, how much did it cost? Suspect my dh went before covid. Regular amount of cash withdrawn every two weeks. No explanation provided. Can you give more details about prices and schedule etc?

The guys at work say that a visit to a full service AMP will run you about $200.

Full service meaning P in V?

Anonymous wrote:To the pp who went to amp, how much did it cost? Suspect my dh went before covid. Regular amount of cash withdrawn every two weeks. No explanation provided. Can you give more details about prices and schedule etc?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, OP.

You put on your oxygen mask right now. Let go of anything non-essential.

Confide in a couple of trusted people. You need support and outside perspectives.

Therapy.

Lawyer.

Make sure you have access to all of your finances and accounts.

You don't have to know what you're going to do today. You just have to keep breathing.

Hugs. I don't see how you could trust him again either. Or like him. And that's totally on him. He caused that. Now you just need to figure out what your best moves are, out of your (unfortunately) limited choices. But you WILL be OK. You are strong and you can handle this.

Guy got a handjob and now the world is coming to an end lmao

DP- I think that PP was sarcasm.

"But you WILL be OK. You are strong and you can handle this"

Did OP even confirm someone touched her husbands genitals?

Of course not! But DCUM will DCUM regardless.

Give me a break. There's a million places to get a massage. If you're sneaking out of one of these places, it's not because your shoulders were sore.

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Anonymous wrote:More exploitation, certain men get off on that

They are doing it willingly and making a lot of money. Not sure how you came to the conclusion that they are being exploited.

You don't know how willingly they are doing it. Maybe some are. But I used to live in a place where there really was a lot of human trafficking. Women in strip clubs and massage joints had their passports confiscated by the owners and they were essentially forced into prostitution. But if you met them at work they'd be friendly and smiling. You learn how to survive.

Outliers

You just want to believe that.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, OP.

You put on your oxygen mask right now. Let go of anything non-essential.

Confide in a couple of trusted people. You need support and outside perspectives.

Therapy.

Lawyer.

Make sure you have access to all of your finances and accounts.

You don't have to know what you're going to do today. You just have to keep breathing.

Hugs. I don't see how you could trust him again either. Or like him. And that's totally on him. He caused that. Now you just need to figure out what your best moves are, out of your (unfortunately) limited choices. But you WILL be OK. You are strong and you can handle this.

Guy got a handjob and now the world is coming to an end lmao

DP- I think that PP was sarcasm.

"But you WILL be OK. You are strong and you can handle this"

Did OP even confirm someone touched her husbands genitals?

Of course not! But DCUM will DCUM regardless.