Anonymous wrote:Most of the ones I’ve seen are for the death of a spouse or child, and to cover medical or funeral expenses. It’s usually organized by a close friend, not the family themselves. Happy to give $25 if it’s someone loosely known to me.

Most people don’t have life insurance, most people don’t have a lot of savings, most people are financially wrecked by a cancer diagnosis or the death of the bread winner.

Anonymous wrote:Suppose you were financially very well off and had done a good bit to support family members in need. One certain family member, though, just cannot get their act together financially and spends frivilously. You have offered them assistance with therapy, job hunting and coaching services etc. but they just want a blank check.

They approach you, yet again, for support and you've finally had enough, so you put your foot down. In response, this family member creates a very public gofundme about all of their trials and travails and suggesting in subtle but obvious enough ways that family has not been supportive.

Your inclination is to ignore all of this, but you've done a great deal to build a reputation in your community and this GoFundMe is starting to get back to people in your personal and professional circles. It makes you look uncharitable and cruel to family, but you would rather not go through the backstory of your family drama with your circle.

Would you just continue to ignore it all and hope that it washes over?

Not too dissimilar from what happened to football player Bo Jackson, but less of a public profile.

https://www.nbcnews.com/news/crime-courts/bo-jackson-awarded-21-million-georgia-blackmail-stalking-case-family-m-rcna138236

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Anonymous wrote:It really is shocking how little shame people have. One blogger who comes from extreme wealth (know people who know her family) went through a tragic situation with a child. My heart went out to her and I even supported her little business.

Then she allowed a Gofundme to pay for medical expenses. this is someone who lives in a mansion, goes on multiple exotic vacations a year, owns a vacation home, buys crazy expensive clothes, and gets cosmetic procedures. Low and behold after the Gofundme closed, she got a boob job and was off on another vacation.

One of our kids has medical issues that required hospital stays, etc. We could afford to pay. We didn't go on vacations for years, we bargain shop and we live modestly. We don't expect friends and strangers to fund life's twists and turns for us.

We have had a lot of medical expenses too. We don't post about them, don't ask for donations. I don't contribute to others' go fund me's, whenever I feel that I should, I think of our own family's needs.

Anonymous wrote:It really is shocking how little shame people have. One blogger who comes from extreme wealth (know people who know her family) went through a tragic situation with a child. My heart went out to her and I even supported her little business.

Then she allowed a Gofundme to pay for medical expenses. this is someone who lives in a mansion, goes on multiple exotic vacations a year, owns a vacation home, buys crazy expensive clothes, and gets cosmetic procedures. Low and behold after the Gofundme closed, she got a boob job and was off on another vacation.

One of our kids has medical issues that required hospital stays, etc. We could afford to pay. We didn't go on vacations for years, we bargain shop and we live modestly. We don't expect friends and strangers to fund life's twists and turns for us.

Anonymous wrote:Why aren't these taxed?