Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a really hard time spending money even if it's something I need, I can't buy it. For example $15 pizza, $13 deodorant, $25 water bottle, $50 dollar jeans, $60 jacket. Normal things that people buy everyday for those prices and it just seems too hard to buy it and when I do I feel a lot of guilt. Growing up my parents were super cheap though. I can afford it all but I physically can't.

Is it not wanting to spend or not wanting more stuff? I can afford things but after listening to lots of decluttering podcasts, just want things out of the house. I figure I have enough things like socks and cooking equipment etc to last me the rest of my life.

DP: for me it is not wanting more stuff to clutter up my life. So I only purchase things I actually need, and most often it is to replace items that need replacing.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't shop unless we need something. But I have no problem spending $50+ on a pair of jeans that I love, or a Lululemon sports bra for DD because that's what she really wants and will wear it once a week.

I consider it wasteful to buy a bunch of stuff that you don't love. I buy fewer, nicer things for my family. It doesn't seem to cost any more than buying a bunch of cheap, trendy stuff and we feel good wearing the items.

The problem is a lot of people confuse “more expensive” with “nicer.” The two are not the same. Teens in particular have not learned this yet.

Sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't. I don't buy designer handbags and I'm not a fan of logos on my clothes. Sometimes I can find high quality items that I love for low prices on sale or at discount stores. But that Lululemon sports bra really is higher quality than the ones at TJ Maxx.

Yes---my Lulu will last me 5-7+ years, basic stuff from target/TJ maxx will be finished in 3-4 years tops.

To a certain point, you get what you pay for. However, once you hit Lulu level, you don't really get "higher quality" above that, most above that is about the Name and the name only. So a $300 sports bra from a luxury brand (above Lulu) is not any or much better.
So the key is finding the lowest level of "luxury" that is still providing more quality. Once you hit that, realize anything else is just paying for the brand.

Like nobody in DCUM needs a Canadian Goose jacket, you simply don't. It does not get that cold here. And you can find really good Patagonia equivalents for 1/2 or 1/3 the price.

Sure you can wear a target jacket and it will "do the job decently" but the Patagonia will do the job for 10+ years and still be going strong

+1

Even Lulu and Patagonia are “paying for the brand.” Nike and Columbia are just as good.

I've had both Patagonia and Columbia. They are not "just as good". Columbia is good, but Patagonia is ethical and cares about sourcing material. They also have a guarantee they will fix any item or replace it. Had a $450 Patagonia that had broken zipper. Jacket was 4 years old. They couldn't replace with the right type of zipper (would no longer be waterproof) , so they gave me a gift card with $450+ sales tax on it. No questions asked. It was my choice to let them fix the best they could or get a refund.
I know aColumbia does not offer that level of service.
But beyond that, the Patagonia is a superior product. Now for most people the Columbia is "enough", it's a damn good jacket. But if you can afford it (and choose to spend it), the Patagonia is a Better product. You are paying for much more than just a brand name

Anonymous wrote:I know someone like this and she always looks inappropriately dressed (both for work and special occasions) because she’ll only buy clothing at thrift stores. It would be one thing if she truly didn’t have money but she has plenty ( 2 professional income family, no debt, plenty of savings and investments). I feel sorry for her, as she’s held hostage to something that borders on a mental illness.

Anonymous wrote:I have a really hard time spending money even if it's something I need, I can't buy it. For example $15 pizza, $13 deodorant, $25 water bottle, $50 dollar jeans, $60 jacket. Normal things that people buy everyday for those prices and it just seems too hard to buy it and when I do I feel a lot of guilt. Growing up my parents were super cheap though. I can afford it all but I physically can't.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't shop unless we need something. But I have no problem spending $50+ on a pair of jeans that I love, or a Lululemon sports bra for DD because that's what she really wants and will wear it once a week.

I consider it wasteful to buy a bunch of stuff that you don't love. I buy fewer, nicer things for my family. It doesn't seem to cost any more than buying a bunch of cheap, trendy stuff and we feel good wearing the items.

The problem is a lot of people confuse “more expensive” with “nicer.” The two are not the same. Teens in particular have not learned this yet.

Sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't. I don't buy designer handbags and I'm not a fan of logos on my clothes. Sometimes I can find high quality items that I love for low prices on sale or at discount stores. But that Lululemon sports bra really is higher quality than the ones at TJ Maxx.

Yes---my Lulu will last me 5-7+ years, basic stuff from target/TJ maxx will be finished in 3-4 years tops.

To a certain point, you get what you pay for. However, once you hit Lulu level, you don't really get "higher quality" above that, most above that is about the Name and the name only. So a $300 sports bra from a luxury brand (above Lulu) is not any or much better.
So the key is finding the lowest level of "luxury" that is still providing more quality. Once you hit that, realize anything else is just paying for the brand.

Like nobody in DCUM needs a Canadian Goose jacket, you simply don't. It does not get that cold here. And you can find really good Patagonia equivalents for 1/2 or 1/3 the price.

Sure you can wear a target jacket and it will "do the job decently" but the Patagonia will do the job for 10+ years and still be going strong

+1

Even Lulu and Patagonia are “paying for the brand.” Nike and Columbia are just as good.

I've had both Patagonia and Columbia. They are not "just as good". Columbia is good, but Patagonia is ethical and cares about sourcing material. They also have a guarantee they will fix any item or replace it. Had a $450 Patagonia that had broken zipper. Jacket was 4 years old. They couldn't replace with the right type of zipper (would no longer be waterproof) , so they gave me a gift card with $450+ sales tax on it. No questions asked. It was my choice to let them fix the best they could or get a refund.
I know aColumbia does not offer that level of service.
But beyond that, the Patagonia is a superior product. Now for most people the Columbia is "enough", it's a damn good jacket. But if you can afford it (and choose to spend it), the Patagonia is a Better product. You are paying for much more than just a brand name

Anonymous wrote:I know someone like this and she always looks inappropriately dressed (both for work and special occasions) because she’ll only buy clothing at thrift stores. It would be one thing if she truly didn’t have money but she has plenty ( 2 professional income family, no debt, plenty of savings and investments). I feel sorry for her, as she’s held hostage to something that borders on a mental illness.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a really hard time spending money even if it's something I need, I can't buy it. For example $15 pizza, $13 deodorant, $25 water bottle, $50 dollar jeans, $60 jacket. Normal things that people buy everyday for those prices and it just seems too hard to buy it and when I do I feel a lot of guilt. Growing up my parents were super cheap though. I can afford it all but I physically can't.

Is it not wanting to spend or not wanting more stuff? I can afford things but after listening to lots of decluttering podcasts, just want things out of the house. I figure I have enough things like socks and cooking equipment etc to last me the rest of my life.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't shop unless we need something. But I have no problem spending $50+ on a pair of jeans that I love, or a Lululemon sports bra for DD because that's what she really wants and will wear it once a week.

I consider it wasteful to buy a bunch of stuff that you don't love. I buy fewer, nicer things for my family. It doesn't seem to cost any more than buying a bunch of cheap, trendy stuff and we feel good wearing the items.

The problem is a lot of people confuse “more expensive” with “nicer.” The two are not the same. Teens in particular have not learned this yet.

Sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't. I don't buy designer handbags and I'm not a fan of logos on my clothes. Sometimes I can find high quality items that I love for low prices on sale or at discount stores. But that Lululemon sports bra really is higher quality than the ones at TJ Maxx.

Yes---my Lulu will last me 5-7+ years, basic stuff from target/TJ maxx will be finished in 3-4 years tops.

To a certain point, you get what you pay for. However, once you hit Lulu level, you don't really get "higher quality" above that, most above that is about the Name and the name only. So a $300 sports bra from a luxury brand (above Lulu) is not any or much better.
So the key is finding the lowest level of "luxury" that is still providing more quality. Once you hit that, realize anything else is just paying for the brand.

Like nobody in DCUM needs a Canadian Goose jacket, you simply don't. It does not get that cold here. And you can find really good Patagonia equivalents for 1/2 or 1/3 the price.

Sure you can wear a target jacket and it will "do the job decently" but the Patagonia will do the job for 10+ years and still be going strong

+1

Even Lulu and Patagonia are “paying for the brand.” Nike and Columbia are just as good.

Anonymous wrote:I have a really hard time spending money even if it's something I need, I can't buy it. For example $15 pizza, $13 deodorant, $25 water bottle, $50 dollar jeans, $60 jacket. Normal things that people buy everyday for those prices and it just seems too hard to buy it and when I do I feel a lot of guilt. Growing up my parents were super cheap though. I can afford it all but I physically can't.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't shop unless we need something. But I have no problem spending $50+ on a pair of jeans that I love, or a Lululemon sports bra for DD because that's what she really wants and will wear it once a week.

I consider it wasteful to buy a bunch of stuff that you don't love. I buy fewer, nicer things for my family. It doesn't seem to cost any more than buying a bunch of cheap, trendy stuff and we feel good wearing the items.

The problem is a lot of people confuse “more expensive” with “nicer.” The two are not the same. Teens in particular have not learned this yet.

Sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't. I don't buy designer handbags and I'm not a fan of logos on my clothes. Sometimes I can find high quality items that I love for low prices on sale or at discount stores. But that Lululemon sports bra really is higher quality than the ones at TJ Maxx.

Yes---my Lulu will last me 5-7+ years, basic stuff from target/TJ maxx will be finished in 3-4 years tops.

To a certain point, you get what you pay for. However, once you hit Lulu level, you don't really get "higher quality" above that, most above that is about the Name and the name only. So a $300 sports bra from a luxury brand (above Lulu) is not any or much better.
So the key is finding the lowest level of "luxury" that is still providing more quality. Once you hit that, realize anything else is just paying for the brand.

Like nobody in DCUM needs a Canadian Goose jacket, you simply don't. It does not get that cold here. And you can find really good Patagonia equivalents for 1/2 or 1/3 the price.

Sure you can wear a target jacket and it will "do the job decently" but the Patagonia will do the job for 10+ years and still be going strong

+1

Even Lulu and Patagonia are “paying for the brand.” Nike and Columbia are just as good.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't shop unless we need something. But I have no problem spending $50+ on a pair of jeans that I love, or a Lululemon sports bra for DD because that's what she really wants and will wear it once a week.

I consider it wasteful to buy a bunch of stuff that you don't love. I buy fewer, nicer things for my family. It doesn't seem to cost any more than buying a bunch of cheap, trendy stuff and we feel good wearing the items.

The problem is a lot of people confuse “more expensive” with “nicer.” The two are not the same. Teens in particular have not learned this yet.

Sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't. I don't buy designer handbags and I'm not a fan of logos on my clothes. Sometimes I can find high quality items that I love for low prices on sale or at discount stores. But that Lululemon sports bra really is higher quality than the ones at TJ Maxx.

Yes---my Lulu will last me 5-7+ years, basic stuff from target/TJ maxx will be finished in 3-4 years tops.

To a certain point, you get what you pay for. However, once you hit Lulu level, you don't really get "higher quality" above that, most above that is about the Name and the name only. So a $300 sports bra from a luxury brand (above Lulu) is not any or much better.
So the key is finding the lowest level of "luxury" that is still providing more quality. Once you hit that, realize anything else is just paying for the brand.

Like nobody in DCUM needs a Canadian Goose jacket, you simply don't. It does not get that cold here. And you can find really good Patagonia equivalents for 1/2 or 1/3 the price.

Sure you can wear a target jacket and it will "do the job decently" but the Patagonia will do the job for 10+ years and still be going strong

+1