Anonymous
03/12/2025 13:08
Subject: interesting post in fbook group that caused a fight.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand this condemnation. They didn’t go on a killing spree. I would do everything to support my child and their partner in this situation.
I think I may have mentioned my cousin here before. She was pregnant at 15 and got married. Her first sweet child died at three from a congenital condition. She had several more children and a great marriage and family. There was not a more devoted mother in the world. Her husband started a business and made a good life for them. Family support was happily given, and I’m sure the story would not have been the same without it.
These stories of a few random people where it turned out ok are not the norm. At the very least the relationship between the parents will end and the child will be shipped back and forth. Yes, it happens when people are older and get divorced too but typically at least one of those parents has a degree and the ability to provide for a family. I don’t know any 18-19 year olds who already have a college degree-do you?
Also wanting to be a teenage parent ON PURPOSE should really let you know what kind of kids these are. Most teenagers who get pregnant will say it’s an accident, they didn’t know they could get pregnant so easily etc etc…this was a conscious choice.
It honestly depends on the SES of the parents and families IME. The teen parents I knew (my peers and my sisters' peers) who had family support systems - time, money, willingness - have turned out fine as have their kids who now around the ages of my kids or a little older. Our teen parent peers went to college and their kids are even - gasp - going to college or even graduated by now. And the kids have the benefit of super young grandparents.
That said, it is not what I would choose for my kids but it is not the end of the world.
I don’t know any kids from UMC families where this happened. Of course it happens somewhere, but let’s be honest…it’s not a UMC problem.
You must not know very many people. I know at least a dozen people this happened to in a UMC family.
The teen pregnancy rate is 1.36% for all teens 14-19 which is a record low. 90% come from the bottom 50% of the economic strata.
For you to know 12 UMC people personally with teen pregnancies, that means you need to know 8,823 people personally for the statistics to work.
Yes, I don't believe this PP. I grew up in a UMC neighborhood and live in one now and I have known ONE teen to become a parent (Catholic family, one of 9 kids) in 40+ years. Twelve is just not believable, that would be an epidemic and the teen pregnancy rates have never been lower, particularly with MC and up.
Anonymous
03/12/2025 12:29
Subject: interesting post in fbook group that caused a fight.
This is what Safe Haven Laws are for.
Anonymous
03/12/2025 12:14
Subject: interesting post in fbook group that caused a fight.
Anonymous wrote:Isn't this a situation for which abortion pills were invented?
The child is wanted, though.
Anonymous
03/12/2025 12:03
Subject: interesting post in fbook group that caused a fight.
Anonymous wrote:Is anyone else tired of “the brain is not fully formed” trope? We aren’t talking mentally challenged until pop! They are 26 and finally cognizant and fully formed adults. 18 is plenty old to understand life choices and consequences.
I don't disagree, but maybe take the inverse argument. An 18 year old is plenty old enough to understand they can get pregnant and life won't be easy having a kid at that age...but the inverse is that if my 18-year old tried to logically argue why they should have a child right now, I would not trust they fully understood the ramifications of that decision whatsoever.
Anonymous
03/12/2025 11:41
Subject: interesting post in fbook group that caused a fight.
Is anyone else tired of “the brain is not fully formed” trope? We aren’t talking mentally challenged until pop! They are 26 and finally cognizant and fully formed adults. 18 is plenty old to understand life choices and consequences.
Anonymous
03/12/2025 11:34
Subject: interesting post in fbook group that caused a fight.
If I thought that the girl was a good influence on my son, I would support them, even if being young parents is not the greatest thing.
If I thought the girl was a bad influence, I would want her out of my son's life.
Frankly, the baby would not play into the equation.
If I thought the girl was a bad influence, I would want her out of my son's life.
Frankly, the baby would not play into the equation.
Anonymous
03/12/2025 10:59
Subject: interesting post in fbook group that caused a fight.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand this condemnation. They didn’t go on a killing spree. I would do everything to support my child and their partner in this situation.
I think I may have mentioned my cousin here before. She was pregnant at 15 and got married. Her first sweet child died at three from a congenital condition. She had several more children and a great marriage and family. There was not a more devoted mother in the world. Her husband started a business and made a good life for them. Family support was happily given, and I’m sure the story would not have been the same without it.
These stories of a few random people where it turned out ok are not the norm. At the very least the relationship between the parents will end and the child will be shipped back and forth. Yes, it happens when people are older and get divorced too but typically at least one of those parents has a degree and the ability to provide for a family. I don’t know any 18-19 year olds who already have a college degree-do you?
Also wanting to be a teenage parent ON PURPOSE should really let you know what kind of kids these are. Most teenagers who get pregnant will say it’s an accident, they didn’t know they could get pregnant so easily etc etc…this was a conscious choice.
It honestly depends on the SES of the parents and families IME. The teen parents I knew (my peers and my sisters' peers) who had family support systems - time, money, willingness - have turned out fine as have their kids who now around the ages of my kids or a little older. Our teen parent peers went to college and their kids are even - gasp - going to college or even graduated by now. And the kids have the benefit of super young grandparents.
That said, it is not what I would choose for my kids but it is not the end of the world.
I don’t know any kids from UMC families where this happened. Of course it happens somewhere, but let’s be honest…it’s not a UMC problem.
You must not know very many people. I know at least a dozen people this happened to in a UMC family.
The teen pregnancy rate is 1.36% for all teens 14-19 which is a record low. 90% come from the bottom 50% of the economic strata.
For you to know 12 UMC people personally with teen pregnancies, that means you need to know 8,823 people personally for the statistics to work.