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Anonymous wrote:Marriage is typically a better deal for men. Women can take or leave it.

Not anymore. Its a better deal for people of both genders if they are good partners and lucky enough to find good spouses.

Lies, men always benefit more.

Pendulum is moving and nightmare wives[/[b]b] are also becoming a norm so not a given for men to benefit.

Anonymous wrote:My 38-year-old son is still single, and actively looking for a wife. He received his BS degree at the age of 22, MS at 24, and a Ph.D. at 28. He spent the last ten years advancing his career in tech at Apple and Nvidia, and he didn't pay much attention to looking for a wife. He has enough money to generate 3M per year in interest, and never has to work again. However, according to him, it is so much harder now because he will never know if a woman will like him for him or because of his money. He has gone on many dates, and most of the women that he goes out with are either divorced, single mothers, or both, and emotionally damaged. In other words, so much baggage. He said his prospect of finding a wife without baggage is almost slim to none. YMMV.

Anonymous wrote:FFS, it is 2025. People do not need to perpetuate out-dated patriarchal culture.

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Anonymous wrote:You want your siblings to “worry” that their - checks notes - 35 year old children are not married?

Your siblings must be around 60 yrs old…you don’t think they have more pressing matters to be worried about?? (Health, meds, parents, retirement, whether to downsize/relocate)…I think you are the only one who wants to worry about their marriage prospects. I feel like I’m in Pride & Prejudice reading this…

In my family - all of my siblings worry about our parents, each other's lives, our extended family (spouse side of the family) and the well being and success of our nieces and nephews. We have been successful only because we all are standing with each other.
And no, they are most unhappy about the fact that their children are not well settled and married.

Family enmeshment has its pros and cons.

Anonymous wrote:OP, is there any chance that your nieces and nephews had to act as caregivers for their parents or siblings? I'm not even 35 yet and an only child and have already had to be caregiver for both of my parents on top of working full-time. My mom is dead now (cancer) and my dad's health issues are thankfully improving, but it really takes a toll in every way. Part of my dad's issues stemmed from my mom's death. The thought of having to take care of a romantic partner or baby makes me want to run for the hills to be blunt and honest. Instead of dreaming about wedding dresses and baby snuggles, I'm fantasizing about girls' nights out and solo trips to Europe to blow off steam from these past few years. I know I sound selfish and shallow, but it's my feelings!

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Anonymous wrote:My 38-year-old son is still single, and actively looking for a wife. He received his BS degree at the age of 22, MS at 24, and a Ph.D. at 28. He spent the last ten years advancing his career in tech at Apple and Nvidia, and he didn't pay much attention to looking for a wife. He has enough money to generate 3M per year in interest, and never has to work again. However, according to him, it is so much harder now because he will never know if a woman will like him for him or because of his money. He has gone on many dates, and most of the women that he goes out with are either divorced, single mothers, or both, and emotionally damaged. In other words, so much baggage. He said his prospect of finding a wife without baggage is almost slim to none. YMMV.

Guess he should have tried when he was much younger. Likely he wanted women way out of his league in looks and thought he could impress them with wealth.

It's obvious he has baggage himself. PP's attitudes toward women are sickening. She is that mom who thinks no woman is good enough and every woman wants to snare her darling little prize. Reality is probably quite different.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a whole bunch of nieces and nephews who are well educated and have good jobs, but they are not finding partners to marry.

Why are the parents not worried about it? Why is this happening? These are not young adults children either, these are over 35+ years. As they grow older they are looking less attractive also, and they are dating people with more baggage - divorced people, single parents, not a good match in looks, education, SES, red flags.

When do you think is a good age for your kids to get married? How much HHI do you think they should have?

If they are 35+ they are probably more worried about it than they let on, OP. They just aren't telling you the whole story.

I am sure.
I do want to help more. They have progressively become quieter and sadder and it is breaking my heart and it is making me wonder what obligations the parents or elders have in helping them find partners.

It's not your business. You don't understand boundaries and in no way would you be able to help.

I think this post is more Project 2025 trolling.

One o of the main goals of Project 2025 is that we need more young marriages. They want people to get married as young as possible. It keeps them poor and dumb.

Anonymous wrote:Among my educated, UMC, immigrant American circle, most marriages are stable, supportive and nurturing.


DCUM crowd seems to lack these traits and relationships seem hostile and disposable.

I wonder if first generation American children would find loyal and loving partners to build nurturing relationships or end up like DCUM.

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Anonymous wrote:You want your siblings to “worry” that their - checks notes - 35 year old children are not married?

Your siblings must be around 60 yrs old…you don’t think they have more pressing matters to be worried about?? (Health, meds, parents, retirement, whether to downsize/relocate)…I think you are the only one who wants to worry about their marriage prospects. I feel like I’m in Pride & Prejudice reading this…

In my family - all of my siblings worry about our parents, each other's lives, our extended family (spouse side of the family) and the well being and success of our nieces and nephews. We have been successful only because we all are standing with each other.
And no, they are most unhappy about the fact that their children are not well settled and married.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You want your siblings to “worry” that their - checks notes - 35 year old children are not married?

Your siblings must be around 60 yrs old…you don’t think they have more pressing matters to be worried about?? (Health, meds, parents, retirement, whether to downsize/relocate)…I think you are the only one who wants to worry about their marriage prospects. I feel like I’m in Pride & Prejudice reading this…

In my family - all of my siblings worry about our parents, each other's lives, our extended family (spouse side of the family) and the well being and success of our nieces and nephews. We have been successful only because we all are standing with each other.
And no, they are most unhappy about the fact that their children are not well settled and married.

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Anonymous wrote:My 38-year-old son is still single, and actively looking for a wife. He received his BS degree at the age of 22, MS at 24, and a Ph.D. at 28. He spent the last ten years advancing his career in tech at Apple and Nvidia, and he didn't pay much attention to looking for a wife. He has enough money to generate 3M per year in interest, and never has to work again. However, according to him, it is so much harder now because he will never know if a woman will like him for him or because of his money. He has gone on many dates, and most of the women that he goes out with are either divorced, single mothers, or both, and emotionally damaged. In other words, so much baggage. He said his prospect of finding a wife without baggage is almost slim to none. YMMV.

Guess he should have tried when he was much younger. Likely he wanted women way out of his league in looks and thought he could impress them with wealth.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a whole bunch of nieces and nephews who are well educated and have good jobs, but they are not finding partners to marry.

Why are the parents not worried about it? Why is this happening? These are not young adults children either, these are over 35+ years. As they grow older they are looking less attractive also, and they are dating people with more baggage - divorced people, single parents, not a good match in looks, education, SES, red flags.

When do you think is a good age for your kids to get married? How much HHI do you think they should have?

If they are 35+ they are probably more worried about it than they let on, OP. They just aren't telling you the whole story.

I am sure.
I do want to help more. They have progressively become quieter and sadder and it is breaking my heart and it is making me wonder what obligations the parents or elders have in helping them find partners.

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Anonymous wrote:My 38-year-old son is still single, and actively looking for a wife. He received his BS degree at the age of 22, MS at 24, and a Ph.D. at 28. He spent the last ten years advancing his career in tech at Apple and Nvidia, and he didn't pay much attention to looking for a wife. He has enough money to generate 3M per year in interest, and never has to work again. However, according to him, it is so much harder now because he will never know if a woman will like him for him or because of his money. He has gone on many dates, and most of the women that he goes out with are either divorced, single mothers, or both, and emotionally damaged. In other words, so much baggage. He said his prospect of finding a wife without baggage is almost slim to none. YMMV.

Guess he should have tried when he was much younger. Likely he wanted women way out of his league in looks and thought he could impress them with wealth.

This is exactly what I thought. So many nerds who think they get a seat at the cool kids table because they have money. Unless your Bezos-level wealthy, that's not happening. You still need to be normal.