Anonymous wrote:Is she mild mannered or on sensitives? Can you go through her purse when she gets up?

Anonymous wrote:I’m a lawyer. In my experience, there’s a 75% chance mom did something very bad (drug use, alcohol use + endangerment or, most commonly, problematic partner who did one of the aforementioned; courts actually defer to parents less in this last case, because they could easily choose to cut off partner) and a 25% chance dad outspent or out lawyered or the judge was unreasonable. So, in the abstract, it’s more likely mom did something very bad, but in the individual case, there’s really no way to know.

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Anonymous wrote:What would cause a court to fully strip a single mother of custody and grant it to her ex husband?

The woman in question is refusing to share the circumstances but she does have two DUIs from years ago.

She was otherwise a mild mannered, calm, gainfully employed at the same place (HS teacher) for 15 years.

She is apparently only permitted to have a 2 hour supervised visit once a month now.

Alcoholics and/or drug addict.

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Anonymous wrote:Having worked in family law there are all kinds of reasons women can lose custody. A lot of times they have vindctive ex husbands who will spend any amount of money to punish their ex wife for leaving them. Courts are biased against women, most judges/lawyers/police officers are male.

This is the truth. MRAs have perpetrated some mass brainwashing on this topic, and the system itself is full of abusers.

80% of cases settle without going to court. Abusive men weaponize the process and they get significant and sole custody more often than not. I have seen clear cases of severe abuse with incontrovertible evidence and the protective mother still loses custody.

OP, your friend or relative may feel deep shame and pain. Looking at this thread gives you a hint as to why. Statistically, it’s very likely she did nothing wrong. Be a listening ear and support her. They often make supervised visitations a humiliating and demoralizing experience, so if you can help in anyway there, do it. She likely still has rights to educational information, health information, conferences. She should exercise all of those rights, and be a Disney Princess while she’s doing it, even if people are downright nasty to her. Just ask pleasant open ended questions about her child, listen, and thank. Never speak negatively to these people about the other parent. This will be important for her children no matter what, and it may help in a future case. Judges and social workers are often swayed by teachers. If two years down the road, Dad is saying Mom is crazy, and teachers say well she’s always reasonable and seems like a good mom to me that is often more valuable than anything else you present. It’s like the one place teachers get respect.

You'd bet she lost custody, not because of something she refuses to mention, but..... because her ex..... manipulated the United States court system? And, further, you have the 'statistics' to prove this?

Go take your man hating someplace else, lady. The odds are astromically in favor of her having done something that endangered the child. There is no other explanation about court ordered supervised vists.

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Anonymous wrote:It could be a whole range of things. OP has told us very little.

OP has told us all we need to know. The courts decided the mom wasn't fit to raise the kids.

Anonymous wrote:It could be a whole range of things. OP has told us very little.