Anonymous
09/12/2025 14:17
Subject: Private School
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Don’t put your kids in private school. It’s a complete waste of money. My three kids all went to publics and then went on to graduate from top 20 universities. They are killing it in their careers.
My kids as well. We moved to an area that had so to say good schools .
My kids didn’t go on to graduate from any top 20 universities.
It all turned out a mess and I still blame myself. I don’t know what I did wrong. Wish I could turn back the clock
Environment matters
Home environment matters much more---if your kid is expected to do well academically and has the support at home, they will go far (in public or private).
Home influence decreases as the kid gets older
Not really when it comes to education. Both my DH and I did not graduate from college. We currently have one kid at Stanford who just landed an amazing NYC finance internship and another at TJ with nearly perfect GPA, and awards from academic completions on the national level. Even though we didn’t graduate college we have maintained a very high standard and our kids have risen to it.
Are you Asian?
My kids didn't go to private school or Stanford or attend TJ, but they have employees working for them that did.
Anonymous
09/12/2025 14:17
Subject: Private School
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Don’t put your kids in private school. It’s a complete waste of money. My three kids all went to publics and then went on to graduate from top 20 universities. They are killing it in their careers.
My kids as well. We moved to an area that had so to say good schools .
My kids didn’t go on to graduate from any top 20 universities.
It all turned out a mess and I still blame myself. I don’t know what I did wrong. Wish I could turn back the clock
Environment matters
Home environment matters much more---if your kid is expected to do well academically and has the support at home, they will go far (in public or private).
Home influence decreases as the kid gets older
Not really when it comes to education. Both my DH and I did not graduate from college. We currently have one kid at Stanford who just landed an amazing NYC finance internship and another at TJ with nearly perfect GPA, and awards from academic completions on the national level. Even though we didn’t graduate college we have maintained a very high standard and our kids have risen to it.
My kids didn't go to private school or Stanford or attend TJ, but they have employees working for them that did.
Are you Asian?
Anonymous
09/12/2025 13:59
Subject: Private School
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The private school obsession of Americans lol. Your child will be okay in public school lol. They can get into a top 10 college don't worry. My twins went to Publix school and they are both at Stanford. Now of course you will agree all private schools are not created equal. That's true, ours wasn't the best. But I was my kids tutor and it worked out for us.
The point of private isn’t to get into Stanford. It’s just a better well rounded experience k-12.
"It’s just a better well rounded experience k-12." LOL...says who??
Wow, the marketing dept of your kids' private school certainly did their job. I have plenty of friends whose kids are at some well-known private schools in the DMV area. There is nothing they experienced during their K-12 years that my kids didn't get at public school except perhaps smaller classroom sizes and hanging out with a bunch of kids of similar socioeconomic backgrounds. And those parents paid dearly for that. Meanwhile my kids had a great experience at K-12 public schools and are killing it in the professional world. One went to Wake Forest and now owns a IT business and the other one went to Navy is no longer in the military and is a real estate developer.
Anonymous
09/11/2025 14:36
Subject: Private School
Anonymous wrote:No. My children attend a private boarding school in England. We will be fine.
Are you in imminent threat of being laid off? That's what OP posted.
Anonymous
09/11/2025 13:56
Subject: Private School
No. My children attend a private boarding school in England. We will be fine.
Anonymous
09/11/2025 13:40
Subject: Private School
Anonymous wrote:We are on a waiting list for a top DMV private. If enough people pull their kids out, will they admit us during the academic year, or do they typically wait until the next full year to accept off the wait list? Thank you!!
It really depends on the school, classroom, grade level, etc.
I do know one family had to suddenly leave our class and since it's early in the year and a lower grade, they might add a student but it has to be the right fit.
Anonymous
09/11/2025 13:38
Subject: Private School
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Don’t put your kids in private school. It’s a complete waste of money. My three kids all went to publics and then went on to graduate from top 20 universities. They are killing it in their careers.
My kids as well. We moved to an area that had so to say good schools .
My kids didn’t go on to graduate from any top 20 universities.
It all turned out a mess and I still blame myself. I don’t know what I did wrong. Wish I could turn back the clock
Environment matters
Home environment matters much more---if your kid is expected to do well academically and has the support at home, they will go far (in public or private).
Home influence decreases as the kid gets older
Not really when it comes to education. Both my DH and I did not graduate from college. We currently have one kid at Stanford who just landed an amazing NYC finance internship and another at TJ with nearly perfect GPA, and awards from academic completions on the national level. Even though we didn’t graduate college we have maintained a very high standard and our kids have risen to it.
Are you Asian?
Anonymous
09/11/2025 12:53
Subject: Private School
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Those of you who say public is better than private haven't experienced a bad public school. You really have no clue unless you do. Private school can be a huge contrast for some. Private can offer smaller classes, order in classroom, and consequences for bad behavior. Also increased teacher and parent support. Due to those things, it provides the environment for a better education.
I don’t think anyone believes public is better but there is always “good enough” vs possibly $60k per year in tuition.
There are some horrific “private” schools but those usually prey upon marginalized communities or care more about religious indoctrination vs real learning.
Both of these things (religion and "real learning") can occur together. A few schools with excellent outcomes come to mind: Georgetown Prep, Stone Ridge School of the Sacred Heart, Georgetown Visitation, Gonzaga College High School, St. Anselm's, etc. Also there are many Catholic parochial schools that you might consider to be "indoctrination" that do a much better job at educating the whole student vs. public schools. I don't even know where to start to list all the problems in public school. If you can afford private, go for it.
Uh…I was referring to crazy evangelical schools or Madrasas schools that exist in the US and literally don’t teach anything beyond religious nonsense. Kids are barely literate and learn nothing of Math and science.
Maybe use the 1/2 of your brain that still works next time.
I have seen the most ridiculous made up things promoted and taught in public schools and I'm someone who is nowhere sympathetic to evangelicals. Just sayin'
Also, you won't win friends by insulting people.
Wow...I've lost you as a friend.
It's just that I thought it was clear when horrific private schools were mentioned, that I wasn't referring to reputable schools like Gonzaga or Visitation or St Anselms or the like.
Once more, if you are fine sending your kid to a Madrasas school or the Christian equivalent, then I guess you wouldn't understand.
Anonymous
09/11/2025 11:19
Subject: Private School
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you are living that close to the edge, you shouldn't be in private school to begin with. My sister's kids are all in private school and she can't afford to buy blinds for her new house.
this!
we have money set aside so that no matter what happens to us financially our kids won’t be impacted. It’s CRAZY to have your kids in a school that depends on your employment.
I mean, is it crazy to have bought a house based on employment? People make choices based on the most likely future scenario. You have no idea why her kids are in private
True, but in reality, unless you have 12Month+ emergency fund, fully funded for life as you currently know it, you shouldn't be doing private school in most cases. Because job loss is a thing, and I personally woudlnt' want to have to yank my kids out of school and move them elsewhere mid year, unless it involved an actual physical move for work. So I wouldn't put mine into private until I could withstand getting thru the year no matter what. I also wouldn't do private until I could also be well set for college, because attending college is more important to me than attending private K-12.
Yes! I know people whose kids are taking out loans for college, but they went to k12 private school. If I were their kids, I would appreciate no loans more than private school! (And their public school is totally fine!) Seems very irresponsible to me.
Anonymous
09/11/2025 11:15
Subject: Private School
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Those of you who say public is better than private haven't experienced a bad public school. You really have no clue unless you do. Private school can be a huge contrast for some. Private can offer smaller classes, order in classroom, and consequences for bad behavior. Also increased teacher and parent support. Due to those things, it provides the environment for a better education.
I don’t think anyone believes public is better but there is always “good enough” vs possibly $60k per year in tuition.
There are some horrific “private” schools but those usually prey upon marginalized communities or care more about religious indoctrination vs real learning.
Both of these things (religion and "real learning") can occur together. A few schools with excellent outcomes come to mind: Georgetown Prep, Stone Ridge School of the Sacred Heart, Georgetown Visitation, Gonzaga College High School, St. Anselm's, etc. Also there are many Catholic parochial schools that you might consider to be "indoctrination" that do a much better job at educating the whole student vs. public schools. I don't even know where to start to list all the problems in public school. If you can afford private, go for it.
Uh…I was referring to crazy evangelical schools or Madrasas schools that exist in the US and literally don’t teach anything beyond religious nonsense. Kids are barely literate and learn nothing of Math and science.
Maybe use the 1/2 of your brain that still works next time.
I have seen the most ridiculous made up things promoted and taught in public schools and I'm someone who is nowhere sympathetic to evangelicals. Just sayin'
Also, you won't win friends by insulting people.
Anonymous
09/11/2025 11:05
Subject: Private School
Anonymous wrote:Many of the private school kids in my neighborhood are complete a-holes
I think this is especially a risk in DC where there's so much wealth and so many arrogant parents. The private school kids I knew growing up were just as nice / kind as any other kids I knew. But here in DC, there's such a cultural divide and cult of "self-made" selfish parents that I think that it's a real risk when you group a lot of entitled kids together.
That said, I encouraged my son to apply to private school and he didn't. I don't think it's inevitable and I don't think it's every school. But I think it's something to guard against.
Anonymous
09/11/2025 07:24
Subject: Private School
Many of the private school kids in my neighborhood are complete a-holes
Anonymous
09/10/2025 20:58
Subject: Private School
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Those of you who say public is better than private haven't experienced a bad public school. You really have no clue unless you do. Private school can be a huge contrast for some. Private can offer smaller classes, order in classroom, and consequences for bad behavior. Also increased teacher and parent support. Due to those things, it provides the environment for a better education.
I don’t think anyone believes public is better but there is always “good enough” vs possibly $60k per year in tuition.
There are some horrific “private” schools but those usually prey upon marginalized communities or care more about religious indoctrination vs real learning.
Both of these things (religion and "real learning") can occur together. A few schools with excellent outcomes come to mind: Georgetown Prep, Stone Ridge School of the Sacred Heart, Georgetown Visitation, Gonzaga College High School, St. Anselm's, etc. Also there are many Catholic parochial schools that you might consider to be "indoctrination" that do a much better job at educating the whole student vs. public schools. I don't even know where to start to list all the problems in public school. If you can afford private, go for it.
Uh…I was referring to crazy evangelical schools or Madrasas schools that exist in the US and literally don’t teach anything beyond religious nonsense. Kids are barely literate and learn nothing of Math and science.
Maybe use the 1/2 of your brain that still works next time.
Anonymous
09/10/2025 19:38
Subject: Private School
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Private school kids can afford better drugs and their houses are more often available for partying because the parents are always working.
lol --- Private school kids parents do not work.
Wrong. I know many, many private school families where both parents work -- and too hard, leaving the house empty for drugs and sex -- and many public school families with a stay at home parent.
Anonymous
09/10/2025 19:31
Subject: Private School
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you are living that close to the edge, you shouldn't be in private school to begin with. My sister's kids are all in private school and she can't afford to buy blinds for her new house.
this!
we have money set aside so that no matter what happens to us financially our kids won’t be impacted. It’s CRAZY to have your kids in a school that depends on your employment.
I mean, is it crazy to have bought a house based on employment? People make choices based on the most likely future scenario. You have no idea why her kids are in private
You need a house to live in, and it is presumed to be an appreciating asset. Private school is a luxury.
Nah, have you seen what the government is doing to the education system?!
The federal government actually has very little control over what is happening at the local level. If they stop the fed funds, there will be a scramble, but they are not the only player in the room by a long shot.
Exactly.