Anonymous
Post 01/17/2025 09:23     Subject: In your opinion where is the best place for a woman to meet a man?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Volunteering, joining political groups, place of worship


Great places to meet fringe weirdos, not normal people.


Pp you are not a nice person. A hiking group is fringe?


Hiking is not:
Volunteering
Political
Or a place of worship.

Hiking is a shared activity. One can do this through the community although you'd want to do it with a friend regularly. Then maybe you'd start to meet people.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2025 09:09     Subject: In your opinion where is the best place for a woman to meet a man?
Anonymous wrote:This long discussion confirmed what I already knew, which is that dating apps are much more efficient. They probably work best if you are clear about how you like to spend time and if you focus on people with overlapping interests. Low pressure first and second dates are also good. Meet for coffee or a walk. Go to a museum or a park. Some apps focus on interests like Christianity or fitness. Avoid Tinder.


If you are a high value man or woman, you will be high in demand online and real life. 80% of the women want the top 20% if men and 80% of the men want the top 20% of women. If you are bottom half, you won’t do well on the apps either.

I got married before I even had a smart phone so I never got to do OLD. From the times I have swiped for men and women, I was really surprised at how bad the women were. The kids and I had a great time swiping for my BIL. Unfortunately, you will be judged harshly on looks and if you put your best photo up and it still isn’t very good, we will assume you will be worse in real life.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2025 08:45     Subject: In your opinion where is the best place for a woman to meet a man?
This long discussion confirmed what I already knew, which is that dating apps are much more efficient. They probably work best if you are clear about how you like to spend time and if you focus on people with overlapping interests. Low pressure first and second dates are also good. Meet for coffee or a walk. Go to a museum or a park. Some apps focus on interests like Christianity or fitness. Avoid Tinder.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2025 08:38     Subject: In your opinion where is the best place for a woman to meet a man?
Anonymous wrote:"Hobbies" is theoretically a good idea, except women hate most male hobbies.

You ready to take up hunting, fishing, shooting? Warhammer 40k?

Weightlifting is certainly achievable and the gym bros would love it if you approached them. Just don't expect them to approach you because too many women have said "never approach me at the gym!"


My dh has none of those hobbies. What a sterorypical man!
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2025 08:37     Subject: In your opinion where is the best place for a woman to meet a man?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Volunteering, joining political groups, place of worship


Great places to meet fringe weirdos, not normal people.


Pp you are not a nice person. A hiking group is fringe?
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2025 08:36     Subject: In your opinion where is the best place for a woman to meet a man?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Volunteering, joining political groups, place of worship


Great places to meet fringe weirdos, not normal people.


Anonymous
Post 01/17/2025 08:36     Subject: In your opinion where is the best place for a woman to meet a man?
Anonymous wrote:Church.


Not if you aren't a religious person. If he is super religious and you pretend it isn't going to go well
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2025 08:26     Subject: In your opinion where is the best place for a woman to meet a man?
Anonymous wrote:I’ve lived here all of my life other than college and here’s where my 12 closest friends met their spouse:

-Work (law firm) (2)
-Work (journalism)
-Grad School (Med)
-Grad School (Business)
-Undergrad (Williams of course)
-High School! Insane. They’ve been together since junior year.
-Coed adult basketball league
-Random karaoke bar in Alexandria
-Random bar while on work trip in Kansas City
-Online (It was tinder, but they claim otherwise. Ha.)
-Setup by sister with a work friend




These places. Start a cheap grad degree program preferably law school or international affairs program like SAIS, it’s cheap. Ask your friends who are already lawyers to hook you up with someone or try to meet some FP&A dudes
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2025 07:53     Subject: In your opinion where is the best place for a woman to meet a man?
Anonymous wrote:Volunteering, joining political groups, place of worship


Great places to meet fringe weirdos, not normal people.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2025 07:52     Subject: In your opinion where is the best place for a woman to meet a man?
Anonymous wrote:Church.


Hahahahaha!!

No normal single guy spends a lot of time in church. The only single guys there are elderly widows.

OP - work and school have always been the best places. Followed by "through friends".
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2025 07:42     Subject: In your opinion where is the best place for a woman to meet a man?
My 25-year-old DD has recently married to a 30-year-old investment banker. He traveled to DC for business, and played pickleball after work at one of the many locations in the DMV where there is an "open play" paddle system. My 27-year-old DD is also recently engaged to a 29-year-old who is a product manager for Facebook that she met while playing golf at a Marriott vacation club resort. Pickleball or golf activities are the best place for women to meet single men, IMHO.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2025 05:50     Subject: Re:In your opinion where is the best place for a woman to meet a man?
Running in parks with my headphones on. When I was in my 20s, I ran after work and always had nice, attractive men stopping to tie their shoe near me making eye contact, smiling and inviting a conversation with me if I wanted it. When my kid turned into a teenager and I had more time to resume running after work hours in the park I experienced the same thing. I'm mean at 48, 49, 50. Same deal. I had a wedding ring on. Not too pushy. Would notice I had a ring on and just be casual after that. I mean with "grey highlights" no less . Met my husband at the shared bus stop to campus 30 years ago but this is what I recommend to friends and what I would do if I wanted to meet someone nice, normal and healthy.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2025 05:38     Subject: Re:In your opinion where is the best place for a woman to meet a man?
By all means at the Home Depot!
Look around you…..it is mostly men who are doing the shopping there.

💘
You’re welcome
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2025 02:36     Subject: Re:In your opinion where is the best place for a woman to meet a man?
Washington Auto Show in a few weeks
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2025 01:32     Subject: In your opinion where is the best place for a woman to meet a man?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Some kind of hobby or activity that you actually enjoy. Find someone with a common interest.


This.

If you’re religious, join a large church, synagogue, etc. with like-minded believers. If you have a cause you believe in, volunteer. If you are intellectually curious, take a class, ho to museum events, etc. Join a civic group to find civic minded individuals. Join a choir, sports team, garden club, hiking group, ballroom dance class, D&D gamers, etc. - whatever it is that you love.

Basically, live your life doing what makes you happy. The people you meet in doing so will be more likely to be compatible, either as friends or romantic partners, because of your common interests. If a romance develops, you’ll have something to build on and know that they accept you for who you are, and if it doesn’t, you’ll still have spent that time living your best life, rather than staying in a holding pattern waiting for someone else to make you happy. There’s an opportunity cost for everything, and while romance can be wonderful, every relationship requires compromises. While you’re waiting for the right person to come along, you are free to do whatever you want, without having to accommodate someone else’s opposing preferences. Take advantage of it while you can, and maybe you’ll find a sympathetic spirit along the way whose preferences will (mostly) align with your own.


Thank you this is helpful. I am not in college and not in my twenties at all. Never went to grad school though I didn't lack the GPA or the crates to attend. I am intellectually curious though and I love museums. I am not in DC proper but I live in Nova. I haven't been to church in some years but I agree that it is a great place to meet people. I might try to look for volunteer in my area or taking up a hobby or a class.


Bookstores and libraries may also have lectures/events that you might find interesting.