Anonymous
01/12/2025 16:45
Subject: Packing Lunch for Teenagers
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Let me clarify: what do your kids pack? I want to have options for them.
And by the way, there is nothing wrong with packing for your kid. It’s a really nice thing to do if you have a hardworking teen. Mine are way busier than I am, so I sometimes like to do this for them.
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Sometimes my kids pack sometimes I pack. I don’t think this was controversial.
My kids like hot lunches so they will pack leftovers in a thermos.
Pasta, meatballs, chicken, and rice.
We do a lot of tuna sandwiches, deli meats, and wraps.
When we’re short on time and imagination, we do peanut butter jelly.
They always pack a couple of fruits, nuts, and sometimes cheese and yogurt.
Anonymous
01/12/2025 16:38
Subject: Packing Lunch for Teenagers
Anonymous wrote:
I make my 16 year old's lunch 1-2 days per week (every day that I am also packing my own to work at a client site), but I don't expend mental energy wondering what he would like - he gets a dupe of whatever I am having. The other 3-4 days, he makes his own from what we have in the house.
I do think that overall, there is something wrong with the way teens want to be treated like younger children these days. I drove my son to a dentist appointment this weekend, and when the dentist walked him out and stressed that he needed to floss more, my son's response was that I was not reminding him often enough. I was floored by him thinking I am responsible for this. Also, two of his friends who are almost year older than him seem to have no interest in moving from a learner's permit to getting an actual driver's liscene. I don't get it.
Kids making excuses for not flossing is as old as dental floss.
Anonymous
01/12/2025 16:37
Subject: Packing Lunch for Teenagers
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s time to stop packing your kids’ lunches.
No it’s not. I pack my hs kids lunch.
My teenager would be embarrassed to have a lunch packed by mom.
haha. My kid has a friend whose mom still packs their lunch (older HSers). The friend hates that the mom keeps doing this, and told the mom that none of his friends mom's pack their lunches. I don't pack DC's lunches, but I do make sure there is something in the fridge for them to pack.
When DC told me this I laughed, but I said that the mom is a sahm and this is her way of taking care of her kids. DC told me they thought the mom needed to get a job or something.
Raising judgmental followers is the ultimate goal, right? Great job, mom! (Bonus points for the seeds of misogyny you have successfully planted.)
haha at least he packs his own lunch, and I don't baby him. And yes, a sahm is more likely to pack her kids lunch than not. My sister did the same. What else do they do?
It’s healthier and more variety than if they pack it themselves. WTF do you care? Your post reeks of insecurity. You do you.
the point is to teach your kids to do this themselves as they get older, not always have mommy tell them to do it.
Why would I be insecure. I make sure we have healthy food in the fridge for kids to pack their own lunches. My older kid in college cooks fairly healthy meals. Why would I be insecure about that?
How the hell could you possibly know this?
Anonymous
01/12/2025 16:33
Subject: Packing Lunch for Teenagers
I make my 16 year old's lunch 1-2 days per week (every day that I am also packing my own to work at a client site), but I don't expend mental energy wondering what he would like - he gets a dupe of whatever I am having. The other 3-4 days, he makes his own from what we have in the house.
I do think that overall, there is something wrong with the way teens want to be treated like younger children these days. I drove my son to a dentist appointment this weekend, and when the dentist walked him out and stressed that he needed to floss more, my son's response was that I was not reminding him often enough. I was floored by him thinking I am responsible for this. Also, two of his friends who are almost year older than him seem to have no interest in moving from a learner's permit to getting an actual driver's liscene. I don't get it.
Anonymous
01/12/2025 16:28
Subject: Packing Lunch for Teenagers
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s time to stop packing your kids’ lunches.
No it’s not. I pack my hs kids lunch.
My teenager would be embarrassed to have a lunch packed by mom.
haha. My kid has a friend whose mom still packs their lunch (older HSers). The friend hates that the mom keeps doing this, and told the mom that none of his friends mom's pack their lunches. I don't pack DC's lunches, but I do make sure there is something in the fridge for them to pack.
When DC told me this I laughed, but I said that the mom is a sahm and this is her way of taking care of her kids. DC told me they thought the mom needed to get a job or something.
Raising judgmental followers is the ultimate goal, right? Great job, mom! (Bonus points for the seeds of misogyny you have successfully planted.)
haha at least he packs his own lunch, and I don't baby him. And yes, a sahm is more likely to pack her kids lunch than not. My sister did the same. What else do they do?
NP. You seem like someone who dropped the rope back in preschool. Kids like yours have to be pretty resilient, it’s true
You seem dense. No one is talking about letting ES kids pack their own lunches. We are talking about HSers.
Yes, we do teach our kids to be resilient, though. It appears that more parents need to.
Are you the PP above teaching her kid to mock other parents? It’s not the parenting flex you think it is.
Anonymous
01/12/2025 16:24
Subject: Re:Packing Lunch for Teenagers
If your teen likes you to pack it and happily eats it, what’s the problem? If they’d prefer to pack their own, that’s fine too.
Why is the decision entirely governed by what the teen wants in your framework? I do many things for my 15 year old, this is something I would prefer he did for himself (with ingredients and food that we procure). That's fine too.
Anonymous
01/12/2025 16:20
Subject: Packing Lunch for Teenagers
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s time to stop packing your kids’ lunches.
No it’s not. I pack my hs kids lunch.
My teenager would be embarrassed to have a lunch packed by mom.
haha. My kid has a friend whose mom still packs their lunch (older HSers). The friend hates that the mom keeps doing this, and told the mom that none of his friends mom's pack their lunches. I don't pack DC's lunches, but I do make sure there is something in the fridge for them to pack.
When DC told me this I laughed, but I said that the mom is a sahm and this is her way of taking care of her kids. DC told me they thought the mom needed to get a job or something.
Raising judgmental followers is the ultimate goal, right? Great job, mom! (Bonus points for the seeds of misogyny you have successfully planted.)
haha at least he packs his own lunch, and I don't baby him. And yes, a sahm is more likely to pack her kids lunch than not. My sister did the same. What else do they do?
It’s healthier and more variety than if they pack it themselves. WTF do you care? Your post reeks of insecurity. You do you.
the point is to teach your kids to do this themselves as they get older, not always have mommy tell them to do it.
Why would I be insecure. I make sure we have healthy food in the fridge for kids to pack their own lunches. My older kid in college cooks fairly healthy meals. Why would I be insecure about that?
Anonymous
01/12/2025 16:17
Subject: Packing Lunch for Teenagers
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s time to stop packing your kids’ lunches.
No it’s not. I pack my hs kids lunch.
My teenager would be embarrassed to have a lunch packed by mom.
haha. My kid has a friend whose mom still packs their lunch (older HSers). The friend hates that the mom keeps doing this, and told the mom that none of his friends mom's pack their lunches. I don't pack DC's lunches, but I do make sure there is something in the fridge for them to pack.
When DC told me this I laughed, but I said that the mom is a sahm and this is her way of taking care of her kids. DC told me they thought the mom needed to get a job or something.
Raising judgmental followers is the ultimate goal, right? Great job, mom! (Bonus points for the seeds of misogyny you have successfully planted.)
haha at least he packs his own lunch, and I don't baby him. And yes, a sahm is more likely to pack her kids lunch than not. My sister did the same. What else do they do?
NP. You seem like someone who dropped the rope back in preschool. Kids like yours have to be pretty resilient, it’s true
You seem dense. No one is talking about letting ES kids pack their own lunches. We are talking about HSers.
Yes, we do teach our kids to be resilient, though. It appears that more parents need to.
Anonymous
01/12/2025 16:15
Subject: Packing Lunch for Teenagers
My mom made my lunch every day from k-12, and I went to college and a great law school, was fully launched and had a mortgage when I was 25. It was never a matter of not knowing how to pack a lunch. I have known how to pack a lunch and cook basic meals since I was in middle school. I now pack lunch for 2/3 of my kids every day (HS kid has hot lunch but I'd be fine with packing his). I also eat lunch with my own mom 2x/week to make sure she's getting a little socializing bc she's an elderly single lady living on her own in a condo. Sometimes I make it for both of us, and sometimes we go out!
Anonymous
01/12/2025 15:51
Subject: Packing Lunch for Teenagers
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s time to stop packing your kids’ lunches.
No it’s not. I pack my hs kids lunch.
My teenager would be embarrassed to have a lunch packed by mom.
haha. My kid has a friend whose mom still packs their lunch (older HSers). The friend hates that the mom keeps doing this, and told the mom that none of his friends mom's pack their lunches. I don't pack DC's lunches, but I do make sure there is something in the fridge for them to pack.
When DC told me this I laughed, but I said that the mom is a sahm and this is her way of taking care of her kids. DC told me they thought the mom needed to get a job or something.
Raising judgmental followers is the ultimate goal, right? Great job, mom! (Bonus points for the seeds of misogyny you have successfully planted.)
haha at least he packs his own lunch, and I don't baby him. And yes, a sahm is more likely to pack her kids lunch than not. My sister did the same. What else do they do?
NP. You seem like someone who dropped the rope back in preschool. Kids like yours have to be pretty resilient, it’s true
Anonymous
01/12/2025 15:43
Subject: Packing Lunch for Teenagers
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s time to stop packing your kids’ lunches.
No it’s not. I pack my hs kids lunch.
My teenager would be embarrassed to have a lunch packed by mom.
haha. My kid has a friend whose mom still packs their lunch (older HSers). The friend hates that the mom keeps doing this, and told the mom that none of his friends mom's pack their lunches. I don't pack DC's lunches, but I do make sure there is something in the fridge for them to pack.
When DC told me this I laughed, but I said that the mom is a sahm and this is her way of taking care of her kids. DC told me they thought the mom needed to get a job or something.
Raising judgmental followers is the ultimate goal, right? Great job, mom! (Bonus points for the seeds of misogyny you have successfully planted.)
haha at least he packs his own lunch, and I don't baby him. And yes, a sahm is more likely to pack her kids lunch than not. My sister did the same. What else do they do?
It’s healthier and more variety than if they pack it themselves. WTF do you care? Your post reeks of insecurity. You do you.
+1
A couple of granola bars and an apple for lunch is sad.
I am the PP whose kids are working adults now. They pack lunches when they go to the office.
Anonymous
01/12/2025 15:40
Subject: Packing Lunch for Teenagers
Anonymous wrote:I don’t get the hate for packing your kids’ a lunch. If your teen likes you to pack it and happily eats it, what’s the problem? If they’d prefer to pack their own, that’s fine too. Plenty of adults pack their spouses lunch for work. It’s an act of kindness and love. It in no way stunts independence.
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I packed my kids' lunches from K-12 and at 28 and 25, they are living independently and each is making a good living.