I’m trying to work up the strength to block him completely now. I’m struggling with feeling “mean” for cutting off his access to me but I need to protect myself.

I'm glad you blocked him. Also, remind yourself that you blocking him is not only necessary and healthy for you, but also for him. You're not doing him any favors by keeping open any tendrils of hope. And you only owe yourself anything here.

Anonymous wrote:OP here—no I haven’t spoken to him at all. I just blocked him on everything also.

NP. Good for you. This guy was a train wreck and you’re better off without him. And no you don’t owe him anything. Actually you’ve given him way more than he deserves. Whatever happens with that guy is outside your control. Now soak in the bath and read a good book.

OP here—no I haven’t spoken to him at all. I just blocked him on everything also.