Anonymous wrote:There was a bit on WTOP this morning about “trad wives” and they mentioned it is “sweeping Sweden” and there was an interview with a woman in Sweden who was going on about how her life is “softer.”

Weird.

Anonymous wrote:This is interesting! Noticed on the BBC site this AM that the latest trend out of Sweden is for employed women to abandon careers to become what the Swedish call 'Soft girls.' This is the artical:


https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c0j1wwypygxo

At first I was kinda horrified; NGL. But maybe this could be overall good? Im intrigued.

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Anonymous wrote:For once in my life I feel ahead of the trend! I have been a SAHM since 2008 and became minimalist shortly after. I'm happy for these people that they are realizing a calmer, simpler life without so much consumerism can be extremely fulfilling.

What will you do once the kids don't need you as much? What would happen if your DH dies or you divorce? Is his life insurance worth $10mil? Because $1mil would not be enough if you have kids and a mortgage. Or maybe you have wealthy parents.

Most women should not rely on a man as their plan long term. Sure, if you have kids, take some time off, but if you completely step back from the workplace, you are basically playing Russian Roulette with your and your kids' futures.

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Anonymous wrote:For once in my life I feel ahead of the trend! I have been a SAHM since 2008 and became minimalist shortly after. I'm happy for these people that they are realizing a calmer, simpler life without so much consumerism can be extremely fulfilling.

What will you do once the kids don't need you as much? What would happen if your DH dies or you divorce? Is his life insurance worth $10mil? Because $1mil would not be enough if you have kids and a mortgage. Or maybe you have wealthy parents.

If he dies I am set for life and more. We have a lot of assets. If we divorce, I’m still totally fine on half the assets. We have no mortgage, the kids are teens and their college is already saved fully. I also sub at our local preschool and probably will work there on a more regular basis once my youngest leaves for college.

Most women should not rely on a man as their plan long term. Sure, if you have kids, take some time off, but if you completely step back from the workplace, you are basically playing Russian Roulette with your and your kids' futures.

Anonymous wrote:For once in my life I feel ahead of the trend! I have been a SAHM since 2008 and became minimalist shortly after. I'm happy for these people that they are realizing a calmer, simpler life without so much consumerism can be extremely fulfilling.

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Anonymous wrote:My mother and grandmother were both in traditional marriages, both widowed in their 50s/60s and both urged me in the strongest possible terms to have a career and be able to provide for myself financially. A man, even a good man, is not a plan.

That's why every family needs to earn, save and invest and insure so if needed you've a backup plan. This option isn't for broke people with debt.

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Anonymous wrote:My mother and grandmother were both in traditional marriages, both widowed in their 50s/60s and both urged me in the strongest possible terms to have a career and be able to provide for myself financially. A man, even a good man, is not a plan.

My mom has been proud of me my whole life for my career and advanced degree, but as I approach 40s she is starting to pity me for having long commute, working 2 shifts at home and being fat (at size 2) lol!

Conversely, think about your SAH mom friends.

- do you pity them? Look down on them?

And the mothers of your SAH friends: do you think their mothers are ashamed of their own daughters?

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Anonymous wrote:My mother and grandmother were both in traditional marriages, both widowed in their 50s/60s and both urged me in the strongest possible terms to have a career and be able to provide for myself financially. A man, even a good man, is not a plan.

My mom has been proud of me my whole life for my career and advanced degree, but as I approach 40s she is starting to pity me for having long commute, working 2 shifts at home and being fat (at size 2) lol!

Anonymous wrote:This is being fueled by the internet, largely tiktok, across the world. It will have serious ramifications on women in the workplace and I predict we will see more women opting for the tradwife lifestyle.

But I'm focusing on the upside, which is that more women dropping out of the workplace means more opportunities for smart ambitious women like me.

Anonymous wrote:Very mindful. Very demure.

Anonymous wrote:My mother and grandmother were both in traditional marriages, both widowed in their 50s/60s and both urged me in the strongest possible terms to have a career and be able to provide for myself financially. A man, even a good man, is not a plan.