There is a YouTube? TikTok? guy I saw who interviews people on the street on their jewelry and tests their diamonds. I saw several where young women in their 20s had $50-100k in accessories and it was wild to me. When someone has 5+ pieces in one outfit, all recognizable designs you can buy at Tysons or City Center, it strikes me as sad. There is nothing particularly stylish, creative, or unique about only wearing mass market luxury items. It also strikes me as poor judgement for a younger person to have so much invested in accessories - assuming they don’t already have a house, are saving for retirement, etc. I don’t know where the money comes from or why they would spend it that way.

My MIL and her friends are in their 70s and they all have Rolex and Cartier watches, Van Cleef and other brands I only recognize as “fancy”. Tiffany and David Yurman are their “every day” jewelry for going to the grocery store or grabbing coffee. It doesn’t phase me because they are:
1. Of an age where I know they accumulated their collection over decades of birthdays, anniversaries, and other holidays.
2. They all live in an area where their husbands worked long hours in Manhattan, many on Wall Street, before retirement and they were not around much - and jewelry was how they showed love.
- and before you ask, my SILs have daughters and I have sons. I hope all the jewelry goes to my SILs to keep and pass down.

I don’t begrudge younger women a few pieces of nice jewelry, even if it is the flashy/trendy designer type. When it’s just a piece or two, it seems meaningful. I have a pair of diamond earrings that my husband bought for my 40th BD and a necklace he got me for our 10th wedding anniversary. They are special because of the milestone they represent, not the expense.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those I know who wear designer all the time grew up without much and are very insecure and need to show off to feel better about themselves.

Those who grew up well off don't need to flaunt it.

That isn't my experience

Really?

Then let’s drill down.

The WASPy old money Rich absolutely do not show labels.

Other ethnicities tend to.

I know trust fund kids who went to Choate. They would never wear showy labels. Everything is very nice and well tailored, but most people can’t pinpoint brands.

Heh WASPs who went to Choate aren't the only type of people who grew up rich, my friend. Get out of your bubble a little!

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Yes, I shouldn’t judge. But it seriously makes me feel like she’s trying to visually show that she’s better than me and my family because I don’t have anything like this stuff. Am I jealous? Yea, a little.

So what do you think if you see a woman with this much designer stuff on?

The OP is painfully insecure, and that is sad.

She needs to work on her self esteem.

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Anonymous wrote:Those I know who wear designer all the time grew up without much and are very insecure and need to show off to feel better about themselves.

Those who grew up well off don't need to flaunt it.

That isn't my experience

Really?

Then let’s drill down.

The WASPy old money Rich absolutely do not show labels.

Other ethnicities tend to.

I know trust fund kids who went to Choate. They would never wear showy labels. Everything is very nice and well tailored, but most people can’t pinpoint brands.

Anonymous wrote:Those I know who wear designer all the time grew up without much and are very insecure and need to show off to feel better about themselves.

Those who grew up well off don't need to flaunt it.

That isn't my experience

I wouldn’t be able to identify any of the items you rattled off despite the fact that I have a big six figure salary and enjoy nice things.

It sounds like you value these luxury brands enough to recognize them. It also sounds like you centered yourself and made a big leap that your relative bought and wore these things with the goal of rubbing your nose in it…and that’s delusional. You should try to avoid assuming malicious intent and centering yourself.

Your guest obviously likes wearing popular/recognizable brands. Maybe they were gifts from her husband or parents? Maybe she’s had them for a while? Maybe that’s how she prioritizes her money? Doesn’t matter.

I can’t imagine going through life noticing such things. I had thanksgiving yesterday with relatives who are far wealthier than I am. My observations didn’t go beyond thinking everyone looked nice: cute outfits, happy and healthy vibes. No clue what brands anyone was wearing.

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Anonymous wrote:Woah, there are some extremely nasty responses here- lay off of OP a bit, will you?

OP thought she had herself an easy lay up, projecting her own insecurity onto a woman she’s happens to find threatening. That’s what is nasty - disliking women simply because they dared to have more money/better hair/a smaller waist than you.

Women like OP should know their behavior says everything about them, and nothing about the women they’re so deeply jealous of.

+1. These responses are helping the OP. Now she has real honest feedback on how petty and jealous she sounds before she embarrasses herself in real life.

Anonymous wrote:Woah, there are some extremely nasty responses here- lay off of OP a bit, will you?

OP thought she had herself an easy lay up, projecting her own insecurity onto a woman she’s happens to find threatening. That’s what is nasty - disliking women simply because they dared to have more money/better hair/a smaller waist than you.

Women like OP should know their behavior says everything about them, and nothing about the women they’re so deeply jealous of.

Honestly, when I see people like this, dressed in obvious designer labels, I assume they’re a-holes

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't wear all of these things at once, but some of what you described are classic, timeless pieces - the van cleef earrings, a cartier bracelet. I don't wear a ton of jewelry but I love timeless classics like a cartier tank watch, van cleef earrings, etc.

What do you think “timeless” means?

Signature styles that companies have been making for decades and centuries

Those I know who wear designer all the time grew up without much and are very insecure and need to show off to feel better about themselves.

Those who grew up well off don't need to flaunt it.

Anonymous wrote:The outfit OP described is a Tuesday school pickup outfit for a lot of private school moms.

This. I once sat in the pick up line at DS' school sandwiched between an Aston Martin and Lamborghini. You can't make that crap up. (I took a pic to send to DH!)

A lot of recognizable designer items may be high end dupes, keep that in mind. Now the best dupes are still kind of pricey - I’ve heard the best Hermes dupe bags can cost upwards of $600. And for that price I’d rather have a no name leather tote from Thursday or Portland Leather and maybe a new pair of shoes to go with it. But some people like the labels and the recognizable styles.

Anonymous wrote:I find it kind of tacky and nouveau riche but it doesn't impact how I think of them as a person.

I agree. Anyone else get the feeling DCUM is becoming more Dallas than DС?

I find it kind of tacky and nouveau riche but it doesn't impact how I think of them as a person.