Anonymous
Post 12/06/2024 20:31     Subject: Very sad today--home clean out

Anonymous wrote:Estate attorney here. I do both estates planning and estates settlements. It is heartless, selfish and cruel to expect people to give away their stuff at old age, just to make it easier for the next generation to clean up. Let them live among their "treasures". Emotionally it will be way easier for you to throw out the stuff once they have to move to assisted living or pass away, then for them to throw it out and live in a bare house/apartment.


so you can make money? got it.
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2024 12:58     Subject: Very sad today--home clean out

Anonymous wrote:Estate attorney here. I do both estates planning and estates settlements. It is heartless, selfish and cruel to expect people to give away their stuff at old age, just to make it easier for the next generation to clean up. Let them live among their "treasures". Emotionally it will be way easier for you to throw out the stuff once they have to move to assisted living or pass away, then for them to throw it out and live in a bare house/apartment.


You don't give away your stuff at the old age to make it easier for the next generation to clean up. You give away your stuff and make your house in order to come to terms with your own mortality. It's both a physical and mental cleanup before you pass on. There is nothing heartless, cruel or selfish for the young not to want to deal with your mess, because if you leave a mess, it is both physical and mental. We're not immortal.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2024 20:24     Subject: Very sad today--home clean out

NP. Fine, let them live in their clutter/ with their treasures. But they at least need to prioritize, identify — and communicate! — what makes the cut when overnight they have to downsize from an entire house to a one or two bedroom apartment. Life happens fast, and family members will be left to scramble. And no one is asking people to end their days in a bare house or apartment. But get your affairs /literal house in order! Start early. Take responsibility. No one is going to escape an inevitable decline and end of life. Don’t be selfish.

It’s the lack of planning that gets me. No one is magically going to get out of here