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Anonymous wrote:The #1 issue for most married women over 40 is the lack of sex.

Seriously? I feel like this is a bigger problem for men. It’s women who lose desire much more quickly.

SOME women lose desire. Some women have an increased libido. I am the latter. I prefer sex daily.

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Anonymous wrote:The #1 issue for most married women over 40 is the lack of sex.

It’s amazing how many women ignore the husband for years, then expect them to jump when they’re ready in their 40s. Sorry, you couldn’t ,are time for him, its now your turn to feel unwanted.

Anonymous wrote:The #1 issue for most married women over 40 is the lack of sex.

Anonymous wrote:Because it’s a big part of relationships? How is this a question?

Anonymous wrote:They don't talk about sex as much as they talk about their DH mental illness either diagnosed or undiagnosed. If I were to make a wild guess as many as 80% of DHs mentioned here have some type of mental illness whether it's ADHD, or they are on the spectrum (despite being unofficially diagnosed).

Anonymous wrote:Genuinely curious why is the topic of sex mentioned so often partially by women on this forum?

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Anonymous wrote:Genuinely curious why is the topic of sex mentioned so often partially by women on this forum?

No they don’t.

They talk about their dysfunctional husbands and marriages.

Yeah. They do. Try posting about sex in the General Parenting forum. Maybe in a thread about your daily schedule or what you do after the kids go to bed. People will be horrified if you mention sex. Even though it’s literally the same site, etiquette is very different on different forums.

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Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

I have asked my wife many times what would really make her “happy” and she never gives an answer other than a non answer. She doesn’t like oral and mostly doesn’t like being touched down there. Massage and rubbing are effective and thankfully so is PIV. I don’t complain because we have sex at least weekly which after 36 years is pretty good and she often initiates. She is very quiet so I rarely know if she has had an O.

TBH this sounds very…assault-y.

If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no.

Fascinating how consent has now shifted from affirmative to now it has to be “hell yes” otherwise it’s rape.

Honestly you people are bizarre and you’ve hijacked an entire segment of public dialogue with your drivel.

DP. Your response is weird - do you have kids, particularly teens? You should advise them that both parties should be a totally enthusiastic “yes.”

DP. This is not a weird response. He said his wife doesn't outwardly appear to enjoy sex that much, he has repeated asked her what would make it better, no response. Weirdo poster's take: this feels assault-y.

What would make it not assault-y? She is still consenting to have sex with him. It's sad, but it's not assault-y.

A lot of women have sex when they don’t want to because they feel obligated or because their H pressured them or asks nonstop until they say yes. I was married to a man like that - I absolutely despised having sex with him, but if I didn’t “consent” he would nag me nonstop. It was easier to just go along with it but the entire time I wanted to crawl out of my own skin.

Remarried now to a man I love having sex with, and we have a very healthy sex life. If he was just laying there, obviously not enjoying it, there’s no way I could bring myself to have sex with him. Like I can’t imagine at all how someone’s head gets so twisted that they will gladly have sex with a person who so very obviously does not want to have sex with them.

At that point it’s better to have a conversation about opening the marriage. I brought up an open marriage to my xH multiple times so he could get his needs met but he refused. I just can’t understand why people insist on having sex with people who don’t want to have sex with them.

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Anonymous wrote:Genuinely curious why is the topic of sex mentioned so often partially by women on this forum?

No they don’t.

They talk about their dysfunctional husbands and marriages.

Anonymous wrote:Genuinely curious why is the topic of sex mentioned so often partially by women on this forum?

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Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

Everyone loves great sex and everyone is disappointed by bad sex. In the middle, men are still quite happy with mediocre sex and while women aren't.

Actually men invariably orgasm. It’s never really bad for them but often quite bad for women.

My ex never orgasmed. I believe he was actually gay. Newly divorced thank God.

I found this to be very interesting..when a man doesn't have the standard "reaction" following sex with a woman the woman says maybe he is gay. It is as if with women no matter what men may always react positively to a sexual experience with them.

When a woman doesn't orgasm I don't think men wonder whether they are gay...

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Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

I have asked my wife many times what would really make her “happy” and she never gives an answer other than a non answer. She doesn’t like oral and mostly doesn’t like being touched down there. Massage and rubbing are effective and thankfully so is PIV. I don’t complain because we have sex at least weekly which after 36 years is pretty good and she often initiates. She is very quiet so I rarely know if she has had an O.

TBH this sounds very…assault-y.

If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no.

Fascinating how consent has now shifted from affirmative to now it has to be “hell yes” otherwise it’s rape.

Honestly you people are bizarre and you’ve hijacked an entire segment of public dialogue with your drivel.

DP. Your response is weird - do you have kids, particularly teens? You should advise them that both parties should be a totally enthusiastic “yes.”

DP. This is not a weird response. He said his wife doesn't outwardly appear to enjoy sex that much, he has repeated asked her what would make it better, no response. Weirdo poster's take: this feels assault-y.

What would make it not assault-y? She is still consenting to have sex with him. It's sad, but it's not assault-y.

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Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

Everyone loves great sex and everyone is disappointed by bad sex. In the middle, men are still quite happy with mediocre sex and while women aren't.

Actually men invariably orgasm. It’s never really bad for them but often quite bad for women.

My ex never orgasmed. I believe he was actually gay. Newly divorced thank God.

I found this to be very interesting..when a man doesn't have the standard "reaction" following sex with a woman the woman says maybe he is gay. It is as if with women no matter what men may always react positively to a sexual experience with them.

When a woman doesn't orgasm I don't think men wonder whether they are gay...

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Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

Everyone loves great sex and everyone is disappointed by bad sex. In the middle, men are still quite happy with mediocre sex and while women aren't.

Actually men invariably orgasm. It’s never really bad for them but often quite bad for women.

My ex never orgasmed. I believe he was actually gay. Newly divorced thank God.

I had an ex like this. I think it was a combination of porn addiction, circumcision, and his member was way too big for him to be vigorous with me.

Similar experience here. I had a ex who could barely even get it up, let alone O.

I checked his laptop one day and found he was literally watching porn all day long. He’d also constantly talk about how hot certain celebrities were (most of which were extremely young).

A lot of men just prefer having sex with themselves.