Baby showers are a nice way to get everyone together to celebrate! You absolutely can specify “no gifts” and/or “please bring your favorite children’s book” and/or “just donate to local diaper bank instead” or something. We also didn’t want gifts for a few reasons and did some combo of that. It worked out nicely. Few people still got cute onesies or diapers but we weren’t overwhelmed with stuff.

And I think you should celebrate now, not post-baby, because you have more freedom/energy. And you may not want a bunch of strangers around the baby for the first few months. I remember friends asking us to host a little sit down after the baby was born and we just didn’t get around to it- too tired to host.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. There are some bitter broke B’s on here. I don’t care what you socialists think - it’s not tacky or a gift grab.

I'm not one of the people who criticized you, but you asked if it was tacky, and people said yes. And now you're mad.

And it's 100% a gift grab.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. There are some bitter broke B’s on here. I don’t care what you socialists think - it’s not tacky or a gift grab.

Is this actually OP? Because this person is awful, and OP seemed to want advice.

Of course it is. Typical gen z response when people don’t agree with her salty ass

Anonymous wrote:OP here. There are some bitter broke B’s on here. I don’t care what you socialists think - it’s not tacky or a gift grab.

Is this actually OP? Because this person is awful, and OP seemed to want advice.

I don’t think it’s tacky at all, assuming it’s your first baby, which it sounds like it is. It is a time for celebration and if anyone does not want to come celebrate you, they are free to decline the invitation. You don’t want those people around anyway!

Keep it low key and don’t put anything crazy on the registry. Even middle class folks like buying cute baby clothes. I cannot imagine being offended by the invite unless I didn’t like the person, in which case the invite didn’t change that.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. There are some bitter broke B’s on here. I don’t care what you socialists think - it’s not tacky or a gift grab.

I'm not one of the people who criticized you, but you asked if it was tacky, and people said yes. And now you're mad.

Sorry, op, but you just confirmed that you are, in fact, tacky.

Tacky ho

Put things $30 and under, not $50, and a few higher priced things.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. There are some bitter broke B’s on here. I don’t care what you socialists think - it’s not tacky or a gift grab.

My dear you do protest much too much. Of course, we are all in awe to be in the presence (so to speak) of Lord and Lady Bountiful. Your occasional penny coin flip to the Little Match Girl is generosity to a fault. Now you take an Ambien and toddle off to bed.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. There are some bitter broke B’s on here. I don’t care what you socialists think - it’s not tacky or a gift grab.

I agree with you, but why did you ask then? Lots of people also said it was fine and suggested smaller ideas to account for the low-income people.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. There are some bitter broke B’s on here. I don’t care what you socialists think - it’s not tacky or a gift grab.

I'm not one of the people who criticized you, but you asked if it was tacky, and people said yes. And now you're mad.

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Anonymous wrote:Tacky.

They should not come out of pocket to celebrate your baby.

Most of you on here are so low IQ. We need tests to let people procreate these day. Baby showers have been a thing for 100+ years. It’s not tacky to celebrate a new life. If that’s tacky, so is celebrating holidays, birthdays, and weddings. You’re tacky if you celebrate your birthday then.

It starts getting into the tacky realm when you have a registry and tell people specifically what to buy you. It’s a nice idea for a young couple starting out, short on funds needing to set up a nursery or home. When you’re successful and in your late 30s what is the point? Buy your own crap instead of directing family and friends to a curated list.

OP here. There are some bitter broke B’s on here. I don’t care what you socialists think - it’s not tacky or a gift grab.

Anonymous wrote:Tacky.

They should not come out of pocket to celebrate your baby.

Most of you on here are so low IQ. We need tests to let people procreate these day. Baby showers have been a thing for 100+ years. It’s not tacky to celebrate a new life. If that’s tacky, so is celebrating holidays, birthdays, and weddings. You’re tacky if you celebrate your birthday then.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm going to dissent and say that I think it's a little tacky when high earning moms-to-be have a shower. Especially if she's 35+.

OP here. I’m 33 and that’s for you opinion. Stop bashing women and learn to be happy with your sad life and husband.

Get over your pregnant self! We dislike pushy, greedy, gift grabs. Why don't you do something altruistic and ask for major items to be donated to a pregnant woman who is only making $$/hr? You would never do this because you are narcissistic gift hoarder and want the $99.99 gifts.

OP here. You’re a mental case. My husband and I donate a lot of money to charity each year.

I bet you aren’t ever giving anything to anyone. You want to tell everyone else how to spend their money but keep it all to feed your gluttony.