Anonymous wrote:OP is apparently heavily pregnant so I don't see the point in all "why are you having a kid with him" tut tutting.

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Anonymous wrote:Unless you signed DS up for scouts over DH’s objections or DH has something else very important to do, he sucks. Isn’t it mostly dads going anyway? I think my own DH would embarrassed NOT to attend and even worse- to send his pregnant wife instead…that looks really bad. That is verging into mega-jerk territory. It would be equivalent to sending him to a big mother daughter event with DD while you sit at home and relax, for no apparent reason. Lame.

I’d tell DS you can’t manage due to your pregnancy, and unless dad can take him- he unfortunately cannot attend. Maybe next year. What a lazy arse your DH is.

Op here. Thanks. And to all the women who are asking why I am pregnant that isn’t helpful. A lot of you have presumably been pregnant and know how bad stress is but yet you’re trying to make me feel bad. That’s just really a sh** way to treat another person. Shame on you. You have to be pretty miserable person to insult a stranger online.

Anonymous wrote:I’m a mom that had a son in sub scouts for 5 years. In our troop, we camped twice a year and at least one parent required to attend. My husband hates camping so I almost always went but he went once when I had a conflict and there was once or twice my son just didn’t go.
Clearly you should not go — with pelvic girdle pain and some risk factors you should not be camping. (Odds are another dad would step up to set the tent up for you, but still….). Tell your husband that he can step up or son can skip. This will probably mean kid skips it. It won’t be the end of the world but, yeah, it’s too bad. Cub scouts really is the easiest way to camp because they make all the reservations, plan the activities and someone else cooks for you. You just show up and set up your tent and make sure your kid pees before bed. Personally I loved it and the dads were always really nice. (For Pp that suggested talking up the other dads, that never worked for me — my husband was oblivious.). Once they hit 6th grade, parents aren’t expected to go.

Anonymous wrote:I feel bad for you OP. And it’s only going to get worse with three. Yet another reason why being a SAHM is a bad idea.

Anonymous wrote:NP. I'm not hearing what I'm here for.
I'm here for suggestions of consequences OP can inflict onto her shitty husband.
I'm here for suggestions of actions OP can take to radically show her DH that he's a selfish POS and she's not going to take it anymore.

Please give OP and myself those suggestions. My microwave popcorn is getting cold, and cold fake butter is nasty. We've wasted so many pages of "divorce him" and victim blaming.

Anonymous wrote:NP. I'm not hearing what I'm here for.
I'm here for suggestions of consequences OP can inflict onto her shitty husband.
I'm here for suggestions of actions OP can take to radically show her DH that he's a selfish POS and she's not going to take it anymore.

Please give OP and myself those suggestions. My microwave popcorn is getting cold, and cold fake butter is nasty. We've wasted so many pages of "divorce him" and victim blaming.

Anonymous wrote:Unless you signed DS up for scouts over DH’s objections or DH has something else very important to do, he sucks. Isn’t it mostly dads going anyway? I think my own DH would embarrassed NOT to attend and even worse- to send his pregnant wife instead…that looks really bad. That is verging into mega-jerk territory. It would be equivalent to sending him to a big mother daughter event with DD while you sit at home and relax, for no apparent reason. Lame.

I’d tell DS you can’t manage due to your pregnancy, and unless dad can take him- he unfortunately cannot attend. Maybe next year. What a lazy arse your DH is.

I think we would have much less anxiety and depression if people did value relaxing and downtime rather than the belief that if you aren’t rushing around nonstop and too busy to eat or sleep…then you are lazy.


+1000

Folks are constantly complaining about how exhausting modern parenting is and how stressed everyone is but they insist on doing the same thing

Anonymous wrote:NP. I'm not hearing what I'm here for.
I'm here for suggestions of consequences OP can inflict onto her shitty husband.
I'm here for suggestions of actions OP can take to radically show her DH that he's a selfish POS and she's not going to take it anymore.

Please give OP and myself those suggestions. My microwave popcorn is getting cold, and cold fake butter is nasty. We've wasted so many pages of "divorce him" and victim blaming.

Anonymous wrote:NP. I'm not hearing what I'm here for.
I'm here for suggestions of consequences OP can inflict onto her shitty husband.
I'm here for suggestions of actions OP can take to radically show her DH that he's a selfish POS and she's not going to take it anymore.

Please give OP and myself those suggestions. My microwave popcorn is getting cold, and cold fake butter is nasty. We've wasted so many pages of "divorce him" and victim blaming.