Um why would anyone avoid having a Leo. We are the best!

Anonymous wrote:Just don't go for an October birthday because it'll be annoying to have to pay for daycare for an extra year. And the kid will be at a disadvantage for sports with a birth year cutoff.

Anonymous wrote:I’m doing a frozen embryo transfer, so we can choose the date.

On the one hand, I have been waiting so long and we don’t know if it will work, so I’m inclined to transfer as soon as possible (Nov).

On the other hand, an August birthday means that I am “holding them back” for school.

You had better believe that I would never send a child 2 weeks from the cut-off!

Should I just transfer in December and avoid the controversy?

Seriously? Counting your chickens before they have hatched? The controversy is being created by you.

FWIW, my youngest missed the cutoff by 10 days. We thought he was ready to join his peers even if he was the youngest, He had to take an Early Entrance to Kindergarten test at his public school to get admitted. He is the youngest in his classroom at a T20 college.

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Anonymous wrote:I would only hold back if the school said the child wasn't ready. It's in the school's interest to have kids in K who are ready for K.

I think often parents struggle to see their kids as ready for the next step. Especially when kids are still young we tend to see only what they can already do and not their potential for growth. I think it's good for the most part -- young children should be protected. But if you always default to waiting you can become bad at seeing how ready they are. Don't limit your kids.

I love all the anti redshirt posters and your faux concern for the welfare of strangers’ children. As if you seriously believe that any child will suffer from being a redshirted. Why can’t you guys ever just be honest and admit that you don’t want your kids’ competition to have unfair advantages?

My two older kids have high school where the cut off was December when they started school. My youngest it is September. The oldest have plenty of friends born September through December and none of the girls were held back.

Plenty of boys were held back and I can’t see the advantage. They don’t stand out, they’re still shorter than the girls. There is absolutely no advantage to wait unless the child is socially immature or has shown difficulty with the most basic preschool activities.

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Anonymous wrote:I would only hold back if the school said the child wasn't ready. It's in the school's interest to have kids in K who are ready for K.

I think often parents struggle to see their kids as ready for the next step. Especially when kids are still young we tend to see only what they can already do and not their potential for growth. I think it's good for the most part -- young children should be protected. But if you always default to waiting you can become bad at seeing how ready they are. Don't limit your kids.

I love all the anti redshirt posters and your faux concern for the welfare of strangers’ children. As if you seriously believe that any child will suffer from being a redshirted. Why can’t you guys ever just be honest and admit that you don’t want your kids’ competition to have unfair advantages?

By "your kids' competition" you mean "other kids in my kids' classes"?

That is quite a worldview.

PS I don't know if it counts as suffering, but I know parents who held their kids back and it wasn't great for the kids socially. Teachers are used to dealing with a range of academic abilities, so that part was fine. But recess was not. And yes, I am more concerned about how recess is for K-2 kids than I am about academics, which were never an issue for my kids. I realize not everyone has that luxury.

You are overthinking this. Even when you transfer, you may not get pregnant. It may not stick. Worry about the important stuff like getting pregnant and having a heathy baby.

My August DS did fine in school. I didn’t delay his start. He had some learning issues but they wouldn’t have disappeared by being the oldest. His teachers always told me he was among the most emotionally and socially mature students. He actually gravitated towards older kids in the class. He was a stellar HS student and has had straights As over 4 semesters of college. The only downside to being an August birthday was that a lof of his friends were away in August when he had parties.

We did fertility treatment and it never occurred to me to avoid an August bday

Stop trying to control everything. You will drive yourself crazy and it’s not healthy for your future kid/s. I have July and August babies and we sent “on time.” They are both doing great socially and working well above grade level.

Anonymous wrote:I would only hold back if the school said the child wasn't ready. It's in the school's interest to have kids in K who are ready for K.

I think often parents struggle to see their kids as ready for the next step. Especially when kids are still young we tend to see only what they can already do and not their potential for growth. I think it's good for the most part -- young children should be protected. But if you always default to waiting you can become bad at seeing how ready they are. Don't limit your kids.

I love all the anti redshirt posters and your faux concern for the welfare of strangers’ children. As if you seriously believe that any child will suffer from being a redshirted. Why can’t you guys ever just be honest and admit that you don’t want your kids’ competition to have unfair advantages?

I would only hold back if the school said the child wasn't ready. It's in the school's interest to have kids in K who are ready for K.

I think often parents struggle to see their kids as ready for the next step. Especially when kids are still young we tend to see only what they can already do and not their potential for growth. I think it's good for the most part -- young children should be protected. But if you always default to waiting you can become bad at seeing how ready they are. Don't limit your kids.

I don’t understand why you would hold back an August or September child. If they’re ready, I would send them to school.

My 3 kids have earlier birthdays so we never had to think about this but I’ve had friends with September birthdays that did hold their kids back due to “maturity” concerns and it never made sense to me.

Anonymous wrote:I would not avoid an August birthday. This doesn't matter.

This. Don’t delay.