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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If they are a good match otherwise, with family and community support for their decision they are more likely to succeed then if they were not taken seriously or believed to “just” be doing it due to religious reasons. Plenty of marriages fail even when begun at 30 or 50!

Sure - but they are both still children at age 22.

The adult brain does not form until age 25, which is why it’s such a horrible ideal to let these 2 children get “married.”

Do they drive? Do they live away for college? Did they go for semester abroad? Do they drink? Do they have sex? Do they have a college degree? If yes then they sure can

They would not be allowed to.

Under age 25 = still a juvenile.

get married if they want to.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If they are a good match otherwise, with family and community support for their decision they are more likely to succeed then if they were not taken seriously or believed to “just” be doing it due to religious reasons. Plenty of marriages fail even when begun at 30 or 50!

Sure - but they are both still children at age 22.

The adult brain does not form until age 25, which is why it’s such a horrible ideal to let these 2 children get “married.”

Do they drive? Do they live away for college? Did they go for semester abroad? Do they drink? Do they have sex? Do they have a college degree? If yes then they sure can

Anonymous wrote:If they are a good match otherwise, with family and community support for their decision they are more likely to succeed then if they were not taken seriously or believed to “just” be doing it due to religious reasons. Plenty of marriages fail even when begun at 30 or 50!

Sure - but they are both still children at age 22.

The adult brain does not form until age 25, which is why it’s such a horrible ideal to let these 2 children get “married.”

None of your business

Anonymous wrote:We married right out of college and not for religious reasons. Just celebrated our 20th! 2 great teens and on track to retire early. Life is good.

massive congrats!

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Anonymous wrote:Twenty-two is grown up. It's a real problem in this country that OP and others think 22 years old are not yet adults.

Most young people today live at home until they are in their late 20's -30s. A 22 year old does not have good judgement. If the relationship is meant to be, they should wait a few years and if they are still going strong, go ahead and make it legal.

this

every college couple i know who married in their 20s is divorced
they grew apart
lots waited til the youngest left home

Most young people don't live at home until they are in their late 20's or 30's, at least not the successful and stable ones.

Anonymous wrote:Twenty-two is grown up. It's a real problem in this country that OP and others think 22 years old are not yet adults.

Most young people today live at home until they are in their late 20's -30s. A 22 year old does not have good judgement. If the relationship is meant to be, they should wait a few years and if they are still going strong, go ahead and make it legal.

OP, I think you are projecting your own biases onto the young couple. I don't think these types of young-ish marriiages are doomed, particularly if the partners have completed their education, are beginning a career track, are somewhat financially stable, and have family support. Spouse and I were both 24, and have been married for 26 years now. Never struggled or had any regrets.

Twenty-two is grown up. It's a real problem in this country that OP and others think 22 years old are not yet adults.

Anonymous wrote:*24-28 is ideal

I would have no qualms if my kids married at 22 or ended up as childless cat ladies (can my son be a childless cat lady? What is the equivalent? But I digress).

But I agree with the PP. 24-28 is ideal. I married at 25. Had my first kid at 30 and my second at 33. Had time to build our life together before the kids, just celebrated our 25th anniversary and settling into life as the parents of late high school/college kids. We can see our life opening up in wonderful ways into the future and I do think our relatively early marriage was a big part of that. I think it was important for us to build our wealth together. And our adult habits. I have become more annoying in my old age and not sure I could have learned to compromise when I was fully “adulting”.

It should be illegal to get married that young.

People are still juveniles until they reach age 26

We married right out of college and not for religious reasons. Just celebrated our 20th! 2 great teens and on track to retire early. Life is good.

If they are a good match otherwise, with family and community support for their decision they are more likely to succeed then if they were not taken seriously or believed to “just” be doing it due to religious reasons. Plenty of marriages fail even when begun at 30 or 50!