Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a little weird that there isn't an age limit on undergraduate housing.

that would be grossly discriminatory.

I'd lawsuit it. I don't think any college wants to be known as the school that's forcing 18 year old girls to room with 37 year old men. Find that school. It doesn't exist. This was probably an administrative idiot and subsequent error. The moment the university lawyers get wind of this, it will be resolved. No university wants that limelight.

But they didn’t “force”—the girl opted into inclusive housing.
She just had her own narrowly-defined view of how much she was willing to “include”

The red line for some is sex-based.
Apparently for OP’s family, mixed sex is fine, but mixed-age was something they didn’t anticipate

But this is a totally different situation that what she initially signed up for. Signing up to live with a trans/non-binary person that you know well is COMPLETELY different than being put into a room with some random guy. I can't believe the colleges don't acknowledge that. And, honestly, any normal 37-year old guy would be EXTREMELY uncomfortable being put in a bedroom with an 18-year old girl. I mean, 18 is basically a child, and he's nearly a middle-aged man. He's old enough to be her father. Would your husbands be comfortable sharing a room with a teenage girl? Most likely not.

When I was in college in the 90s there was a male student in his mid-late 20s who was recently out of the military, and he threw himself into campus life. Joined a fraternity, etc. It was a little creepy at first but he just wanted the full college experience and got it. People accepted him and the age difference wasnt an issue at all after a few weeks.

Anonymous wrote:When I was in college in the 90's, I did a semester in France - with an adult student in her 50s who was one of my roommates in a French family's house. Not my choice.

Cool story, bro. Thoughts and prayers.

When I was in college in the 90's, I did a semester in France - with an adult student in her 50s who was one of my roommates in a French family's house. Not my choice.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a little weird that there isn't an age limit on undergraduate housing.

that would be grossly discriminatory.

I'd lawsuit it. I don't think any college wants to be known as the school that's forcing 18 year old girls to room with 37 year old men. Find that school. It doesn't exist. This was probably an administrative idiot and subsequent error. The moment the university lawyers get wind of this, it will be resolved. No university wants that limelight.

*You* can't "lawsuit it" (whatever TF that means). As a parent of a legal adult, you have absolutely no legal role or standing in this situation. Land the helicopter.

No standing? What about the 80 grand a year they're paying?

What about it? Assuming the student is 18 yo, the school's legal relationship is with her. If you give your kid $80k to buy a car, and she purchases a lemon, do you think you have standing to sue the dealership? Of course not.

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Anonymous wrote:I would be raising hell. Sorry. 37 is not 18. Creepy.

Agree. Why would a 37 year old want to live on campus?

One scenario - post military male as undergrad student on low budget and financial aid

What's the problem is this person is a student? The housing office assigned them - it's not like it was his choice to live with 18 yr old girls. Maybe they are also less thrilled about immature roommates. You make it sound like he's predatory.

Anonymous wrote:The school is crazy to be opening themselves up to potential liability here. Not to mention bad publicity. Sarah Lawrence was sued in a similar situation. a 40 yo would have a big power advantage over 20 year olds. It would not be an equitable arrangement.

Not an accurate comparison as the 40 year old ex-con living in a house with Sarah Lawrence co-eds had no relation to the college other than that his daughter was a current student at SLC.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a little weird that there isn't an age limit on undergraduate housing.

that would be grossly discriminatory.

I'd lawsuit it. I don't think any college wants to be known as the school that's forcing 18 year old girls to room with 37 year old men. Find that school. It doesn't exist. This was probably an administrative idiot and subsequent error. The moment the university lawyers get wind of this, it will be resolved. No university wants that limelight.

*You* can't "lawsuit it" (whatever TF that means). As a parent of a legal adult, you have absolutely no legal role or standing in this situation. Land the helicopter.

No standing? What about the 80 grand a year they're paying?

Anonymous wrote:I can’t understand why a 37 year old would have selected all gender housing.

Everyone is an idiot here, but this is the biggest red flag.

Enjoy your inclusivity.

Yeah - 18 year old girls excited to room with classmates of the same age and gender, who think there is a lot of fun and bonding and good experiences that come from that- they're the freaks.

The school is crazy to be opening themselves up to potential liability here. Not to mention bad publicity. Sarah Lawrence was sued in a similar situation. a 40 yo would have a big power advantage over 20 year olds. It would not be an equitable arrangement.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a little weird that there isn't an age limit on undergraduate housing.

that would be grossly discriminatory.

I'd lawsuit it. I don't think any college wants to be known as the school that's forcing 18 year old girls to room with 37 year old men. Find that school. It doesn't exist. This was probably an administrative idiot and subsequent error. The moment the university lawyers get wind of this, it will be resolved. No university wants that limelight.

*You* can't "lawsuit it" (whatever TF that means). As a parent of a legal adult, you have absolutely no legal role or standing in this situation. Land the helicopter.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes it’s weird but they are return to be inclusive or whatever and that’s what they got. A 37 year old guy.

Yup. You wanna be inclusive? Here it is.

And yes it’s creepy AF. And how is he not weirded out too?

and that’s the issue. a 37 year old who is not weirded out by this has something wrong with them.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes it’s weird but they are return to be inclusive or whatever and that’s what they got. A 37 year old guy.

Yup. You wanna be inclusive? Here it is.

And yes it’s creepy AF. And how is he not weirded out too?

Any 37 yo who feels perfectly fine encroaching on the space of young women is not going to be good news.

Anonymous wrote:Yes it’s weird but they are return to be inclusive or whatever and that’s what they got. A 37 year old guy.

Yup. You wanna be inclusive? Here it is.

And yes it’s creepy AF. And how is he not weirded out too?