Everyone here is bagging on Ben. She seems like a complete narcissist. I’m sure he’s no prize, but is probably at least living on this planet. I hope he goes back to banging Playboy bunnies and playing poker in Vegas. Life’s too short. Ya know? Why shack up with an annoying diva who is probably insane behind closed doors.

No prenup because they were in love and had an understanding.

All the meetings over the last few months were likely aimed at separating their finances: the house they built and settling any business themselves. They obviously opted not to lawyer up or make this any more of a spectacle. They are just walking away.

And on some level, I bet Lopez is hoping that acting rational right now (in terms of keeping it quiet and not fighting) will help get him back…eventually.

Ben clearly was the one who bailed.

FTR, I am not a fan of any of these people. But I’d love to see Ben and Garner reunite. I’ve seen it happen IRL with another couple (alcoholic dad blew up his happy home, shacked up with a younger woman for years, etc. but eventually cleaned up and proved himself to his ex-wife and young adult kids).

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Anonymous wrote:He lasted so much longer with Garner. LOL

Only because of the kids. He was mentally “out” after a few years just as he’s been with everyone else. Once she was “mom” and not “hot Elektra,” he seemed to bore quickly. He’s very immature.

I don't think so. JG seems more flexible and loving. There is much more of a companionship between them, which is why they have a strong relationship even today. This might not be enough to sustain marriage, but it is still important and almost certainly played a role in how long he stayed with JG. He likes her more as a friend, and not just because of the kids. In contrast, he will never speak to JLo again.

I've said this before: if I were in the celebrity stratosphere he would be one of the dudes I avoided. So. many. red. flags!

Anonymous wrote:He lasted so much longer with Garner. LOL

Only because of the kids. He was mentally “out” after a few years just as he’s been with everyone else. Once she was “mom” and not “hot Elektra,” he seemed to bore quickly. He’s very immature.

Anonymous wrote:J Lo is proof that looks can’t keep a man

Because she's obviously a psychopath with vanity to the moon. I bet she blows through so much she'll bankrupt the both of them within 10 years. No wonder why so many rich guys dump her ass. She spends too much on stupid crap. No one wants to blow millions of dollars because a succubus like JLow wants her 200th bag that costs $40k.

Give him half. He deserves it.

Wait, they didn't get a prenup? Who has more money?

He lasted so much longer with Garner. LOL

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Anonymous wrote:She should have stuck with ARod. That was her most mature relationship.

She should have stuck with a cheater? Please. But she does need to give up the stupid power couple fixation. She's tried three times and in all three cases the men were not loyal/reliable. Because it is unbelievable hard to find a mature, loyal guy in that world. But also no back-up dancers. A successful professional in a different field who can live with her need for constant adulation.

She’s a gun toting abuser. Ask anyone in her and Puffs entourage

Who cares. JLo and Puff started dating in 1999, split two years later.

I called this shit a long time ago. There is a reason it did not work out the first time.

Some people are not meant to be married. Big forehead Ben is one of them.

Live in your fancy house and STFU and stop making publicity with marriages when you know they will not work. Also, JLo should have gotten a prenup.

It is a wild story. They got back together after years of being apart. It would be interesting to know the real story vs. all of this gossip.

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She's very disappointed and sad, but Ben hasn't given her any signs that he wants to continue their marriage," says the insider.

"She tried really hard to make things work and is heartbroken," adds the source. "The kids are a top priority, as they always have been.”

Her kids are in no way a priority. Poor little rich messed up souls.

Her poor kids have been through every breakup with Jennifer and it does seem like her kids really loved Ben. 2 stepdads since they started high school (Arod and Ben)

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Anonymous wrote:I’m with the poster who said Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton.

As they get older and their respective dating pools continue to shrink, I can totally see them getting back together.

her pool is shrinking much faster than his unless she starts dating very young men. the problem is, she is in her mid fifties and still looking for the big true love story. ben worked perfectly for that because they had their past.

A narcissist isn’t looking for true love. They look for ego boosters. Neither of these people know what true love it.

I actually agree with you. But she is looking for what she thinks looks like true love from the outside. This limits her options.

Ben was perfect in this respect, even more now than 20 years ago. And he played his part perfectly, albeit briefly. She can't make "the greatest love story" ever again.

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Anonymous wrote:I think parading around buying Chanel bags for Violet during their Hamptons summer was a last resort to salvage or try to win Ben back.

I feel for her because the public embarrassment from this divorce in particular must sting. She put so much emphasis on Ben being her first and only true love

No, I don't think there is any embarrassment. They are both mature and experienced enough to decide things for themselves, and not worry too much about what people think.

Only an emotionally abnormal person would not feel embarrassment over multiple relationships, 2 broken engagements, and 4 marriages by age 55.

It seems like more than 4 marriages. What about the repeats w Mark A, A Rod, and now this one? Who else am I missing?

Wasn’t she married to one of her backup dancers?