My 2024 college grad has a serious boyfriend and they talk about the future a lot but both have told me they don’t want to get married until they are closer to 30. Thank goodness! Her friends are also not at all close to getting engaged. I have heard of some Gen Zs outside of her circle getting engaged but they all have partners in the military.

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Anonymous wrote:Let her get married. My husband and ai have been married since our very early 20s. Met in Uni. Waiting until your mid-30s is awful.

I met my wife senior year in college. Everything going great 20 years later.

If you find the right person, it’s great.

+1

Engaged at 23, married at 24. Everything is still going great three kids and almost 20 years later.

My daughter is a 3rd year med student, K-MD (as is most of her social circle at med school, or maybe took 1-2 years off) and there are tons of marrieds or engageds in her class.

Why focus on a career? focus on life-careers come and go and you can literally do anything. Focus on life's experiences no matter what they are.

Not a big percentage of early 20's crowd has stability, means or partners to commit to so unlikely for many to marry early.

Most of early 20's are trying to finish undergrad, find a job, collecting debt, hooking up, drink, lack happily married role models, etc. Everyone's reality is different.

I find it humorous that there is this thread and there is another competing thread which claims no 20-somethings are getting married.

Somehow, on this thread there are tons of 23-year-olds getting married...but on the other thread no 20 year olds are getting married.

I guess you need to average the two threads.

I don't think getting married young is a distraction or bad at all. I got married at 25 (we met at 19) and it has been great. It didn't prevent us from achieving personal and career goals, which included grad school in different, far away areas. We got married right after that. I think it's better than all the troubles of dating a bunch of guys and all the emotional up and downs and eventual heartbreaks.

Friend's DD recently got engaged, dating for 2 years, marrying next year. She is 23 and so is the guy. He got a job in finance and she is in Physicians Assistant school. Both from upper middle class background, no debt and having a simple wedding, largely funded by both sets of parents.

Anonymous wrote:Most people I know are having babies without getting married.

Nobody I know had a baby before getting married and that includes seculars.

My DD is marrying her college sweetheart. They graduated 4 yrs ago. Now in grad school/working. They have supported each other since college days and seen the ups and downs together and they appreciate what they have together. Their friend groups also comprises of motivated individuals who are either working or in grad school or doing both. Both get along with each others friends group. They are inclusive, open minded and have diverse friends. Product of East Coast. Both sides of parents have advanced degrees from college. By the time the wedding will happen, they both will be 28. They have socked away 3 years of income between them by being strategic with their finances (staying with parents, roommates). They have fully furnished the apartment they will live in . No student debt. Parents paying for the wedding. No plans to have kids until they are in their 30s and have their support structure in place.

Well op maybe you will get to be a young grandparent which is a real blessing.

Anonymous wrote:Let her get married. My husband and ai have been married since our very early 20s. Met in Uni. Waiting until your mid-30s is awful.

I met my wife senior year in college. Everything going great 20 years later.

I’d you find the right person, it’s great.

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Anonymous wrote:Biology doesn't change with changing demands of higher education and careers. You are only young once.

Actually, biology in the way you're using the term does change. Everything is in a constant state of change.

I meant age for puberty, fertility, perimenopause etc didn't change much.

Let her get married. My husband and ai have been married since our very early 20s. Met in Uni. Waiting until your mid-30s is awful.

Anonymous wrote:I doubt its a trend, more like refusal to follow the trend.

the new new trend,
trend within a trend, trnd backlash