Anonymous
Post 08/12/2024 03:07     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
Anonymous wrote:I have a medical issue where I need to wear a brace that sits in my shoe. I literally can’t walk without it. When I am asked to remove my shoes at someone’s house I explain to the host and keep my shoes on. It has lead to some awkwardness as I have my shoes on as everyone else has to take them off. I did have one neighbor who said that taking shoes off wasn’t optional, so I apologized and left the party.


Just being shoe covers.
Anonymous
Post 08/12/2024 02:32     Subject: Re:Party requesting guests to take shoes off
What about guests who use a cane, a walker, or a wheelchair?
Anonymous
Post 08/12/2024 01:01     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
Anonymous wrote:I would be so pleased if you didn't attend my party because we are a no-shoe household. It tells me everything I need to know about you as a person.

We keep guest slippers on hand in a separate basket.


Do your guest slippers provide proper arch support? My “indoor shoes” cost about $100.
Anonymous
Post 08/12/2024 00:48     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
We are Minnesotan and have always taken shoes off. Part of it is coming from a climate with a long season of snow. You need to remove your shoes or you track slush everywhere. The habit carries into warmer seasons. And when you think about what you might step in outside, I don’t want that on my floors where kids play! No shoes for us in this house and I don’t hesitate to request it of guests.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 22:48     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
Anonymous wrote:My family is asian-american and we don't wear shoes in the house but we are not super anal about it. If we are home and staying home then we don't wear shoes. I go in and out from the deck with or without shoes. I don't want people walking around in the house with nasty contractor boots or even in their socks. They have to wear booties or not come in the house at all. I wouldn't expect private school parents to be wearing nasty shoes so I probably wouldn't make anybody remove their shoes.


People who send their kids to private school walk on different sidewalks than other people so their shoes don't get dirty? hah OMG that is a new one. Aren't they all walking the same walkway up to your house?
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 18:40     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
People need to experience other cultures. It is your home. I would totally respect it.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 18:28     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
I have a medical issue where I need to wear a brace that sits in my shoe. I literally can’t walk without it. When I am asked to remove my shoes at someone’s house I explain to the host and keep my shoes on. It has lead to some awkwardness as I have my shoes on as everyone else has to take them off. I did have one neighbor who said that taking shoes off wasn’t optional, so I apologized and left the party.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 18:23     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you have the no shoes party, some of your guests are going to feel uncomfortable, mortified or even offended whether you think they’re unreasonable/wrong or not.

If you have a party at your house with shoes, you’re going to be stressed and unhappy about the dirt.

If you host it somewhere else, everyone wins. This seems like a no brainer to me.


We haven’t started school yet. From my understanding, you are supposed to host at your house.

We are members at a country club and can host there or at a restaurant. I believe it is to promote bonding at people’s homes though.

Are you sure everyone hosts? That would be a ridiculous number of events. At our school there is one per class in the lower grades. Most people never host. Our school does have a rule that they need to be held at your house vs a club.


No, it is voluntary. Not everyone has to host. I don’t mind hosting. I just want people to take their shoes off if we host. I don’t have all the details yet.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 18:23     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
Anonymous wrote:We are an Asian American family and are a no shoe house. Our new private school has grade wide dinners where families take turns hosting.

Will it be strange to ask guests to take their shoes off?

We have hosted birthdays in preschool and no one seemed to mind. This would be many more people.


Just have the shoe covers there and a sign that says either put these on or shoes off, thanks! It’s so much work to host these grade wide parties so other parents should be understanding.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 18:19     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
White people will throw fits
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 18:13     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
Offer guest slippers. Let people know it’s going to be shoe free. People need to realize when you go into someone else’s home, the norms may be different— exactly like we teach our kids.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 18:00     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
Anonymous wrote:OP, I don't know, but I just moved to an East Asian country for work and I am having the opposite problem. It is shoes-off-at-home everywhere; every family in our very expensive building has a big shoe rack in the hall outside their door to keep all of their shoes.

But I don't want people walking in their bare feet in my home, especially because it is hot outside and many people are wearing sandals with no socks. I don't want the sweat and oil from other people's feet on my wood floors or rugs. Over and over, I ask people to please keep their shoes ON as they enter my home, but they refuse and take them off anyway.

I'm ready to just buy a rack of cheap flipflops and tell each visitor to choose one at the door. Maybe you could do the same, OP? Get some cheap flipflops that are new, and people may be more comfortable doing that than going barefoot (I'm hoping my guests and contractors will feel comfortable enough to do this and stop walking on my floors and rugs in their nasty bare feet).


In the East Asian country I’m from, people don’t entertain much at home, but when you do, guest slippers are always offered, and as a courtesy you don’t go into people’s houses barefoot. If you’re wearing an outfit with sandals, you pack little socks in a pouch in your purse.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 17:50     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
Anonymous wrote:Host it in your backyard and offer shoe covers for those that need to come inside to use the restroom or whatever. Get cleaners to come the next day anyway bc there will be folks who wear their shoes inside the house anyway.


Outside in August in DC will be lovely. Yes, do this.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 17:48     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you have the no shoes party, some of your guests are going to feel uncomfortable, mortified or even offended whether you think they’re unreasonable/wrong or not.

If you have a party at your house with shoes, you’re going to be stressed and unhappy about the dirt.

If you host it somewhere else, everyone wins. This seems like a no brainer to me.


We haven’t started school yet. From my understanding, you are supposed to host at your house.

We are members at a country club and can host there or at a restaurant. I believe it is to promote bonding at people’s homes though.

Are you sure everyone hosts? That would be a ridiculous number of events. At our school there is one per class in the lower grades. Most people never host. Our school does have a rule that they need to be held at your house vs a club.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 17:42     Subject: Party requesting guests to take shoes off
I'd attend, but I would appreciate a note that you request guests take shoes off in the foyer (or some convenient place with a bench or chairs and shoe storage) and offer shoes covers as an alternative. Make it easy for them to comply and help you out.