Anonymous
Post 08/06/2024 07:36     Subject: Hobbies that are Dealbreakers?
Anonymous wrote:Agree with the horses! I'm a woman, but a very close friend of mine owns a horse and the expenses associated with it are unreal! She spends countless hours at the stable taking care of the horse in addition to the riding, and during the summer heat she takes it to a pond on the property to go for a swim very frequently. I went with her the other day and while it was fun going for the swim, it was the entire afternoon and she does this often times both weekend days and sometimes after work on weeknights. She's dated plenty of guys over the years, but I really think she can't prioritize a relationship over her horse at this point in her life. We're in our late 20's now, so I wonder if this will change in the next few years...


+1 Horseback riding is a lifestyle. Even for the very wealthy who have other people doing the stable work, it's a huge time commitment just gearing up, going to the stables, riding, going straight home (you smell!), and showering after. And that's assuming someone else cleans your gear after, brushes down the horse, and does all the stable work. Both people need to be really into it.
Anonymous
Post 08/06/2024 03:09     Subject: Hobbies that are Dealbreakers?
Dating someone now whose wife made him give up horses when they had their first kid. They are now divorced.
Anonymous
Post 08/06/2024 02:27     Subject: Hobbies that are Dealbreakers?
Anonymous wrote:Agree with the horses! I'm a woman, but a very close friend of mine owns a horse and the expenses associated with it are unreal! She spends countless hours at the stable taking care of the horse in addition to the riding, and during the summer heat she takes it to a pond on the property to go for a swim very frequently. I went with her the other day and while it was fun going for the swim, it was the entire afternoon and she does this often times both weekend days and sometimes after work on weeknights. She's dated plenty of guys over the years, but I really think she can't prioritize a relationship over her horse at this point in her life. We're in our late 20's now, so I wonder if this will change in the next few years...


It's the one hobby/sport I never encouraged with my kids. It's truly all consuming and extremely expensive. I am not interested in that world.
Anonymous
Post 08/06/2024 02:04     Subject: Hobbies that are Dealbreakers?
Camping
Anonymous
Post 08/06/2024 01:57     Subject: Hobbies that are Dealbreakers?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Any hobby done by someone who has an obsessive, perfectionistic personality would be a no for me.

A long as time / money the hobby itself requires is moderate and the person can be flexible, I don't care what they do.

With regards to collections. I was in a woman's house once who collected dolls. She had hundreds of dolls. It was very creepy. I can't imagine being her husband surrounded by all these faces staring emptily into every room. So for any collection, either it stays in a collection space (his office) or it is stored. I don't want a house full of any collection.


Yes! If you have a “collection” I’m not interested.


Your knee-jerk lack of interest in apparently ANY type of collecting will mean that many people aren't interested in you, either, so don't worry about it. Win-win.


Haha-what do you collect???


Butthurt.
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2024 23:00     Subject: Hobbies that are Dealbreakers?
Agree with the horses! I'm a woman, but a very close friend of mine owns a horse and the expenses associated with it are unreal! She spends countless hours at the stable taking care of the horse in addition to the riding, and during the summer heat she takes it to a pond on the property to go for a swim very frequently. I went with her the other day and while it was fun going for the swim, it was the entire afternoon and she does this often times both weekend days and sometimes after work on weeknights. She's dated plenty of guys over the years, but I really think she can't prioritize a relationship over her horse at this point in her life. We're in our late 20's now, so I wonder if this will change in the next few years...
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2024 22:55     Subject: Hobbies that are Dealbreakers?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was involved with a guy post-divorce who asked me if I wanted to try mountain biking. I did, he bought us both very nice bikes and we both got totally into it, I loved it.


Several guys at work have busted arms and collarbones mountain biking - needed surgery to install plates and pins. Another guy doesn't even know what happened, he was mountain biking and woke up in the hospital.

Kind of a red flag hobby if you ask me, but maybe there are more sedate trails you can ride on.


I've done quite a bit of mountain biking both with and without my BF and haven't gotten badly hurt and neither has he. We generally ride on a fairly challenging trail but I definitely do not do very risky things that might cause a serious injury. I have had injuries but I can handle that. Sorry about the guys you know, sounds like they are taking unnecessary chances.
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2024 22:50     Subject: Hobbies that are Dealbreakers?
Killing things.
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2024 22:38     Subject: Hobbies that are Dealbreakers?
Civil war reenactment groups . Who wants to recreate a bloody war?
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2024 22:21     Subject: Hobbies that are Dealbreakers?
NASCAR
Smoking
Weed
Any recreational drug
Gambling
Card counting in Vegas
Following any young female “influencer”
Yacht parties
Watching a lot of TV
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2024 21:25     Subject: Hobbies that are Dealbreakers?
Gambling, hiking, camping.
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2024 20:45     Subject: Hobbies that are Dealbreakers?
Anonymous wrote:Feels like all women replying here as no one has mentioned horses.


Totally. No dating horse people at all ever. You'll be in poverty the rest of your life.
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2024 20:34     Subject: Hobbies that are Dealbreakers?
Anonymous wrote:Underwater basket weaving
Unicycle hockey
Zorbing
Toe wrestling
Chess boxing


Chess boxing is the holy grail of smart + fit. That's a dealmaker, not a dealbreaker.
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2024 19:49     Subject: Hobbies that are Dealbreakers?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was involved with a guy post-divorce who asked me if I wanted to try mountain biking. I did, he bought us both very nice bikes and we both got totally into it, I loved it.


Several guys at work have busted arms and collarbones mountain biking - needed surgery to install plates and pins. Another guy doesn't even know what happened, he was mountain biking and woke up in the hospital.

Kind of a red flag hobby if you ask me, but maybe there are more sedate trails you can ride on.


Guy I knew in college is permanently confined to a wheelchair because of one single mountain biking accident.
Anonymous
Post 08/05/2024 19:41     Subject: Hobbies that are Dealbreakers?
Feels like all women replying here as no one has mentioned horses.