Anonymous
Post 08/02/2024 12:12     Subject: If you pair well with “alpha” men
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Anonymous wrote:I need someone who is more alpha than me. I am pretty ambitious myself, but also want to feel like the woman.


Can you talk a little more about what this looks like in your relationships? What makes you feel like a woman?


Someone who is as successful professionally as I am (both money and prestige-wise). Someone who stands up for himself and doesn’t let others walk all over him in general. Someone not afraid to go after what he wants in life, and exhibits confidence.

However, I also want to feel like the woman dating and sexually. I love chivalry… things like the guy holding the door or carrying my luggage. I like the guy perusing me… him being the one asking for my number and asking me out, picking the restaurant, etc. Once in a relationship, I don’t mind taking the traditional female tasks and him the male (me taking the lead in the kitchen, him helping me get my car fixed if it breaks down, etc…). I realize everyone won’t agree with this, but it works for me.

You are the dream woman.
Most men like women like you.


No, most men like women like that but don’t put an effort sufficient to be dominant enough in a true masculine way.
Just like a PP I LOVE when my man makes decisions for me like a restaurant we go to, the dress I wear to a party etc. By far not all men “get” how sexy it is. How it shows me that he cares and wants me!


This has to be sarcasm right?


Absolutely not - “honey, wear whatever you want “ sounds like a total turn off to me.


Aka I don’t care. I don’t even care to take a look. I also don’t care to think about an outfit I liked before. I. Don’t. Care. About. You.


Picking out the outfit is not about you. It’s about their control, their desire. You are just a prop.

No. Grow up.

That’s only if they are demanding you wear their selected outfit all the time.

Thinking of you in the sexy orange dress for your last Hawaii trip and saying Wear That!, is thoughtful.


Orange dress? ORANGE DRESS? Now I know you’re a man. Whoever said orange is the new pink was seriously disturbed.
Anonymous
Post 08/02/2024 12:09     Subject: If you pair well with “alpha” men
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Anonymous wrote:I need someone who is more alpha than me. I am pretty ambitious myself, but also want to feel like the woman.


Can you talk a little more about what this looks like in your relationships? What makes you feel like a woman?


Someone who is as successful professionally as I am (both money and prestige-wise). Someone who stands up for himself and doesn’t let others walk all over him in general. Someone not afraid to go after what he wants in life, and exhibits confidence.

However, I also want to feel like the woman dating and sexually. I love chivalry… things like the guy holding the door or carrying my luggage. I like the guy perusing me… him being the one asking for my number and asking me out, picking the restaurant, etc. Once in a relationship, I don’t mind taking the traditional female tasks and him the male (me taking the lead in the kitchen, him helping me get my car fixed if it breaks down, etc…). I realize everyone won’t agree with this, but it works for me.

You are the dream woman.
Most men like women like you.


No, most men like women like that but don’t put an effort sufficient to be dominant enough in a true masculine way.
Just like a PP I LOVE when my man makes decisions for me like a restaurant we go to, the dress I wear to a party etc. By far not all men “get” how sexy it is. How it shows me that he cares and wants me!


This has to be sarcasm right?


Absolutely not - “honey, wear whatever you want “ sounds like a total turn off to me.


Aka I don’t care. I don’t even care to take a look. I also don’t care to think about an outfit I liked before. I. Don’t. Care. About. You.


Picking out the outfit is not about you. It’s about their control, their desire. You are just a prop.

Say the cat lady. Stay with your cats. Lol


Vance, is that you?
Anonymous
Post 08/02/2024 12:07     Subject: If you pair well with “alpha” men
Anonymous wrote:My DH is very masculine: stoic, dominant, high earner, strong. He is also a decade older, so when we started dating in my early 20s, the relationship dynamic has always been a little power imbalanced.

The pros: I don’t pay for anything. I work part time and my paycheck is mine. He also buys me whatever I want. He takes care of all the bills.
We have several children and I stayed home with them for as long as I wanted.
He is very attracted to me and is very affectionate. He definitely loves me.
He is very protective of me and the children and will not let anyone speak ill of me or hit on me without consequence.
He is very hardworking.
The cons: He doesn’t care very much how people feel. He won’t lie ever, even to protect my feelings.
He won’t let me do things he deems “unsafe” (like driving far at night).
He never takes vacations.
He won’t do anything he really doesn’t want to do.

I love my DH very much, but I definitely think you have to have a very easygoing personality to deal with men like him.



This seems more like a daddy/daughter relationship than one between two adult equals. 🤮
Anonymous
Post 08/02/2024 12:03     Subject: If you pair well with “alpha” men
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Anonymous wrote:Im a professionally successful woman, I was married for a decade to a “beta male”. I was in charge and he followed along. Clearly that didn’t work as we are no longer married. The professional environment in which I thrive is not the same in which I thrive personally.

I am now dating a man who you probably consider “alpha”. He just makes sure stuff gets done. He is as liberal politically as I am, and doesnt see me as a second class citizen at all. But he views it as his job to make sure Im good. Im safe. Im taken care of. Same with my kids, his kids, his parents and younger siblings, etc. He does things for me that I could do myself. He makes my life easier. To use the tik tok parlance that “alpha male” comes from, I am a passenger princess. He holds doors and carries heavy things and pushes the cart in the grocery store. I can go out with him without a purse and be fine (lack of makeup for a touchup aside) because he can take care of whatever I need. He is the head of the household and takes that responsibility very seriously. And he absolutely dominates me in bed, in a very consensual, safe manner.

10/10, highly recommend men who are “men”.

I am you. Also divorcing beta (or is there lower than that) male (his affair). I am so sick of carrying all the decisions and strength in our relationship and never having an initiator or protector. I pray I’ll find a good man and am so achievers in my career and life now that I crave to take the secondary role. Where do high moral alpha females go to find similar alpha males?


The good alphas are long gone. Know few true alphas whose wives have careers. Even then, those wives are part-time docs and the family doesn’t depend on the wife’s income.

Desirable men have the most options, and they rarely choose a woman who thinks her career should be more important than her family caretaking. Feminists don’t teach that pursuit of a career can have real, negative repercussions. So ladies, teach your daughters that it’s often an either-or situation when it comes to love and career.

Absolutely not. Are you a man? What kind of garbage are you trying to teach young girls? You need to be a submissive SAHW with no income, control or agency of your own life just to find "love"? No thank you.


No that’s not what PP suggested. Dominant alpha men are attracted to alpha women. I make over 500k/year and am deeply submissive to my man. Yes, I had to put my corporate career on back burner for a few years but I was building my own business in parallel and succeeded. Can’t stand beta men who want me to decide everything on their behalf and freak out when they need to make a crucial decision.
Anonymous
Post 08/02/2024 11:37     Subject: If you pair well with “alpha” men
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Anonymous wrote:Im a professionally successful woman, I was married for a decade to a “beta male”. I was in charge and he followed along. Clearly that didn’t work as we are no longer married. The professional environment in which I thrive is not the same in which I thrive personally.

I am now dating a man who you probably consider “alpha”. He just makes sure stuff gets done. He is as liberal politically as I am, and doesnt see me as a second class citizen at all. But he views it as his job to make sure Im good. Im safe. Im taken care of. Same with my kids, his kids, his parents and younger siblings, etc. He does things for me that I could do myself. He makes my life easier. To use the tik tok parlance that “alpha male” comes from, I am a passenger princess. He holds doors and carries heavy things and pushes the cart in the grocery store. I can go out with him without a purse and be fine (lack of makeup for a touchup aside) because he can take care of whatever I need. He is the head of the household and takes that responsibility very seriously. And he absolutely dominates me in bed, in a very consensual, safe manner.

10/10, highly recommend men who are “men”.

I am you. Also divorcing beta (or is there lower than that) male (his affair). I am so sick of carrying all the decisions and strength in our relationship and never having an initiator or protector. I pray I’ll find a good man and am so achievers in my career and life now that I crave to take the secondary role. Where do high moral alpha females go to find similar alpha males?


The good alphas are long gone. Know few true alphas whose wives have careers. Even then, those wives are part-time docs and the family doesn’t depend on the wife’s income.

Desirable men have the most options, and they rarely choose a woman who thinks her career should be more important than her family caretaking. Feminists don’t teach that pursuit of a career can have real, negative repercussions. So ladies, teach your daughters that it’s often an either-or situation when it comes to love and career.

Absolutely not. Are you a man? What kind of garbage are you trying to teach young girls? You need to be a submissive SAHW with no income, control or agency of your own life just to find "love"? No thank you.
Anonymous
Post 08/02/2024 10:58     Subject: If you pair well with “alpha” men
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Anonymous wrote:This thread is shocking to be honest. I am confused as to what women want. They are contradicting themselves. If you look at their positions regarding gender roles in other threads versus their positions here it's schizophrenic


Maybe, just maybe, women are not a monolith and different women want different things.

And maybe, just maybe, the women who reply on one thread are different people than those who reply on another.


Men need to stop caring about what women want and instead should care about what they want. If they cannot find a woman who they want then be it. Morphing yourself into a woman's perceived preference is a recipe for disaster.


As a woman, I agree with this. Same advice applies to women too.
Anonymous
Post 08/02/2024 10:47     Subject: If you pair well with “alpha” men
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Anonymous wrote:This thread is shocking to be honest. I am confused as to what women want. They are contradicting themselves. If you look at their positions regarding gender roles in other threads versus their positions here it's schizophrenic


Maybe, just maybe, women are not a monolith and different women want different things.

And maybe, just maybe, the women who reply on one thread are different people than those who reply on another.


Men need to stop caring about what women want and instead should care about what they want. If they cannot find a woman who they want then be it. Morphing yourself into a woman's perceived preference is a recipe for disaster.
Anonymous
Post 08/02/2024 10:30     Subject: If you pair well with “alpha” men
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Im a professionally successful woman, I was married for a decade to a “beta male”. I was in charge and he followed along. Clearly that didn’t work as we are no longer married. The professional environment in which I thrive is not the same in which I thrive personally.

I am now dating a man who you probably consider “alpha”. He just makes sure stuff gets done. He is as liberal politically as I am, and doesnt see me as a second class citizen at all. But he views it as his job to make sure Im good. Im safe. Im taken care of. Same with my kids, his kids, his parents and younger siblings, etc. He does things for me that I could do myself. He makes my life easier. To use the tik tok parlance that “alpha male” comes from, I am a passenger princess. He holds doors and carries heavy things and pushes the cart in the grocery store. I can go out with him without a purse and be fine (lack of makeup for a touchup aside) because he can take care of whatever I need. He is the head of the household and takes that responsibility very seriously. And he absolutely dominates me in bed, in a very consensual, safe manner.

10/10, highly recommend men who are “men”.

I am you. Also divorcing beta (or is there lower than that) male (his affair). I am so sick of carrying all the decisions and strength in our relationship and never having an initiator or protector. I pray I’ll find a good man and am so achievers in my career and life now that I crave to take the secondary role. Where do high moral alpha females go to find similar alpha males?


The good alphas are long gone. Know few true alphas whose wives have careers. Even then, those wives are part-time docs and the family doesn’t depend on the wife’s income.

Desirable men have the most options, and they rarely choose a woman who thinks her career should be more important than her family caretaking. Feminists don’t teach that pursuit of a career can have real, negative repercussions. So ladies, teach your daughters that it’s often an either-or situation when it comes to love and career.


What about men? For men it’s ok to put family second? Or when men work, it’s FOR the family, but for women, it’s somehow not? Give me a break.
Anonymous
Post 08/02/2024 10:16     Subject: If you pair well with “alpha” men
Anonymous wrote:This thread is shocking to be honest. I am confused as to what women want. They are contradicting themselves. If you look at their positions regarding gender roles in other threads versus their positions here it's schizophrenic


Maybe, just maybe, women are not a monolith and different women want different things.

And maybe, just maybe, the women who reply on one thread are different people than those who reply on another.
Anonymous
Post 08/02/2024 09:14     Subject: If you pair well with “alpha” men
My advice to men is to be very careful when a woman tells you she wants a man who is labeled as XYZ. If you morph yourself into XYZ 10 years later she will dump you because the version of XYZ she got from you is toxic or whatever. Think twice.
Anonymous
Post 08/02/2024 09:11     Subject: If you pair well with “alpha” men
This thread is shocking to be honest. I am confused as to what women want. They are contradicting themselves. If you look at their positions regarding gender roles in other threads versus their positions here it's schizophrenic
Anonymous
Post 08/02/2024 08:40     Subject: If you pair well with “alpha” men
I wouldn’t call my DH an alpha but we have more traditional roles in our marriage. He is the main breadwinner, supports our family, does everything around the house (keeps up with our garden and landscaping), manages the finances, pays the bills etc. He also shares duties around the house like dish washing and laundry.
I work part time and have my own business and very involved with the kids and their schools/sports. I do all the cooking and grocery shopping, manage all the kids appointments and social schedules and activities, do all the school drop offs and pick ups except on rare occasions.

It works for us- my DH is the most responsible person I’ve ever met and he provides a lot of stability for our family, in both action and personality.
Anonymous
Post 08/02/2024 07:39     Subject: If you pair well with “alpha” men
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Im a professionally successful woman, I was married for a decade to a “beta male”. I was in charge and he followed along. Clearly that didn’t work as we are no longer married. The professional environment in which I thrive is not the same in which I thrive personally.

I am now dating a man who you probably consider “alpha”. He just makes sure stuff gets done. He is as liberal politically as I am, and doesnt see me as a second class citizen at all. But he views it as his job to make sure Im good. Im safe. Im taken care of. Same with my kids, his kids, his parents and younger siblings, etc. He does things for me that I could do myself. He makes my life easier. To use the tik tok parlance that “alpha male” comes from, I am a passenger princess. He holds doors and carries heavy things and pushes the cart in the grocery store. I can go out with him without a purse and be fine (lack of makeup for a touchup aside) because he can take care of whatever I need. He is the head of the household and takes that responsibility very seriously. And he absolutely dominates me in bed, in a very consensual, safe manner.

10/10, highly recommend men who are “men”.

I am you. Also divorcing beta (or is there lower than that) male (his affair). I am so sick of carrying all the decisions and strength in our relationship and never having an initiator or protector. I pray I’ll find a good man and am so achievers in my career and life now that I crave to take the secondary role. Where do high moral alpha females go to find similar alpha males?


The good alphas are long gone. Know few true alphas whose wives have careers. Even then, those wives are part-time docs and the family doesn’t depend on the wife’s income.

Desirable men have the most options, and they rarely choose a woman who thinks her career should be more important than her family caretaking. Feminists don’t teach that pursuit of a career can have real, negative repercussions. So ladies, teach your daughters that it’s often an either-or situation when it comes to love and career.
Anonymous
Post 08/02/2024 07:35     Subject: If you pair well with “alpha” men
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I need someone who is more alpha than me. I am pretty ambitious myself, but also want to feel like the woman.


Can you talk a little more about what this looks like in your relationships? What makes you feel like a woman?


Someone who is as successful professionally as I am (both money and prestige-wise). Someone who stands up for himself and doesn’t let others walk all over him in general. Someone not afraid to go after what he wants in life, and exhibits confidence.

However, I also want to feel like the woman dating and sexually. I love chivalry… things like the guy holding the door or carrying my luggage. I like the guy perusing me… him being the one asking for my number and asking me out, picking the restaurant, etc. Once in a relationship, I don’t mind taking the traditional female tasks and him the male (me taking the lead in the kitchen, him helping me get my car fixed if it breaks down, etc…). I realize everyone won’t agree with this, but it works for me.

You are the dream woman.
Most men like women like you.


No, most men like women like that but don’t put an effort sufficient to be dominant enough in a true masculine way.
Just like a PP I LOVE when my man makes decisions for me like a restaurant we go to, the dress I wear to a party etc. By far not all men “get” how sexy it is. How it shows me that he cares and wants me!


This has to be sarcasm right?


Absolutely not - “honey, wear whatever you want “ sounds like a total turn off to me.


Aka I don’t care. I don’t even care to take a look. I also don’t care to think about an outfit I liked before. I. Don’t. Care. About. You.


Picking out the outfit is not about you. It’s about their control, their desire. You are just a prop.


My exbf tried this and I was seriously creeped out.


In my experience this 100% depends on the delivery and how you feel and trust the person doing this. It can be hot if the elements are right.
It works when my DH tells me: I’d love to see you wear the blue dress. You look anmazing in it. And then later whispers about taking it off.

It didn’t work when an ex was like: wear this tonight.
Anonymous
Post 08/02/2024 00:41     Subject: If you pair well with “alpha” men
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I need someone who is more alpha than me. I am pretty ambitious myself, but also want to feel like the woman.


Can you talk a little more about what this looks like in your relationships? What makes you feel like a woman?


Someone who is as successful professionally as I am (both money and prestige-wise). Someone who stands up for himself and doesn’t let others walk all over him in general. Someone not afraid to go after what he wants in life, and exhibits confidence.

However, I also want to feel like the woman dating and sexually. I love chivalry… things like the guy holding the door or carrying my luggage. I like the guy perusing me… him being the one asking for my number and asking me out, picking the restaurant, etc. Once in a relationship, I don’t mind taking the traditional female tasks and him the male (me taking the lead in the kitchen, him helping me get my car fixed if it breaks down, etc…). I realize everyone won’t agree with this, but it works for me.

You are the dream woman.
Most men like women like you.


No, most men like women like that but don’t put an effort sufficient to be dominant enough in a true masculine way.
Just like a PP I LOVE when my man makes decisions for me like a restaurant we go to, the dress I wear to a party etc. By far not all men “get” how sexy it is. How it shows me that he cares and wants me!


This has to be sarcasm right?


Absolutely not - “honey, wear whatever you want “ sounds like a total turn off to me.


Aka I don’t care. I don’t even care to take a look. I also don’t care to think about an outfit I liked before. I. Don’t. Care. About. You.


Picking out the outfit is not about you. It’s about their control, their desire. You are just a prop.


My exbf tried this and I was seriously creeped out.