I struggle with this. My kids go to a Title 1 school. 40% of students are low income and mostly Hispanic. DD says the kids all play together during recess, but after school? Pretty much never. We've invited kids to playdates, invited the whole class to DD's birthday, but only the middle class kids (mostly white) come. We don't even get a response to any invites. We've also never received an invite from anyone outside of that bubble too. Some of it is a language barrier because they didn't speak the same language initially in K.

I am Asian-American and have always had a very diverse friend group. My DH is African-American and has social interactions with all different people but I would say almost 100% of his close friends are also African-American. It used to bother me bc I always have been so open to anyone and it felt limiting to form a community together when he only truly opens himself up to people like him. However with time I've just come to accept that this is one area where we will always be very different.

Anonymous wrote:Socializing with your own kind starts young. Our school busses Hispanic kids from another area. My kid says the Hispanic kids have their own groups, the white kids have their own groups, and the rest of the kids stick together.

That's because of the bussing aspect. My kids' school is 40+% Hispanic and everyone socializes with everybody.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a white woman in my 40s. I socialize with white women in their 40s and 50s and their significant others who are men in their 40s and 50s for the most part. Professional class and all have college degrees and beyond. 95% are parents.

So, yes.

^ Also I live in Texas and Hispanic people are "white" here.

Hispanic is not a race. White Hispanic people are as white in DC or Minnesota as they are in Texas.

You are both employing transphobic hate-terms.

The correct and respectful terminology is LatinX. Do better!

Latinx is a made-up term that a certain segment is trying to impose on Hispanic/Latino people. Most actually Hispanic/Latino people do not prefer the term
https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2023/09/05/who-is-hispanic/
53% prefer Hispanic
26% prefer Latino
2% prefer Latinx

Hispanic and Latino are made up terms as well. We have been tricked into thinking that Spanish speakers are an oppressed people group of color and therefore whenever we say we want to shut the border we are called racist.

It's also very regional. In TX, many people say Hispanic. In GA, most people say Latino. I'm talking about people who are Hispanic and Latino. In CA, it's Latino. You don't hear Hispanic in DC too much.

Anonymous wrote:I socialize with same socio-economic group only, people from all sorts of countries, backgrounds and religion.

Me too. We are all very wealthy, send our kids to the same schools, are members of the same clubs, travel to many of the same places yet we are all of different races, religions and backgrounds. The common bonds are achievement, means and related interests.

I socialize with same socio-economic group only, people from all sorts of countries, backgrounds and religion.

Yes.

Came across this related research article. As we might have suspected, there is benefit to social similarity (they studied age, education, income, and race) but that benefit drops at some point (see figure 2).

Variety Is the Spice of Life: Diverse Social Networks Are Associated With Social Cohesion and Well-Being
Both homophily and heterophily are observed in humans. Homophily reinforces homogeneous social networks, and heterophily creates new experiences and collaborations. However, at the extremes, high levels of homophily can cultivate prejudice toward out-groups, whereas high levels of heterophily can weaken in-group support. Using data from 24,726 adults (M = 46 years; selected from 10,398 English neighborhoods) and the composition of their social networks based on age, ethnicity, income, and education, we tested the hypothesis that a middle ground between homophily and heterophily could be the most beneficial for individuals. We found that network homophily, mediated by perceived social cohesion, is associated with higher levels of subjective well-being but that there are diminishing returns, because at a certain point increasing network homophily is associated with lower social cohesion and, in turn, lower subjective well-being. Our results suggest that building diverse social networks provides benefits that cannot be attained by homogeneous networks.

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/09567976241243370

I wish. I don't think my own kind exists in many places.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a white woman in my 40s. I socialize with white women in their 40s and 50s and their significant others who are men in their 40s and 50s for the most part. Professional class and all have college degrees and beyond. 95% are parents.

So, yes.

^ Also I live in Texas and Hispanic people are "white" here.

Hispanic is not a race. White Hispanic people are as white in DC or Minnesota as they are in Texas.

You are both employing transphobic hate-terms.

The correct and respectful terminology is LatinX. Do better!

Latinx is a made-up term that a certain segment is trying to impose on Hispanic/Latino people. Most actually Hispanic/Latino people do not prefer the term
https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2023/09/05/who-is-hispanic/
53% prefer Hispanic
26% prefer Latino
2% prefer Latinx

Hispanic and Latino are made up terms as well. We have been tricked into thinking that Spanish speakers are an oppressed people group of color and therefore whenever we say we want to shut the border we are called racist.

Socializing with your own kind starts young. Our school busses Hispanic kids from another area. My kid says the Hispanic kids have their own groups, the white kids have their own groups, and the rest of the kids stick together.

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Anonymous wrote:I think most people think they have diverse groups of friends but in reality they don’t. We live in a mostly Indian community and I’m not Indian. Would I like to be friends with them? Sure but it’s not worth the effort when they clearly would rather stay with their own race. People are not open to having other types of friends unless they HAVE to. If there were only a few Indian families in our community then I’m sure the other people would make an effort to include them but I can’t say the same when it’s reversed.

You will never be their friend. Ever. They only socialize with other Indians and even then discriminate.

Op here. I have noticed this but I can be friends with Bengali women! My husband is Bangladeshi and I do have Bengali women friends and I didn’t meet them through him. Since there are a lot of Indians that immigrant here I think they don’t have to put a lot of effort into making friends outside of their caste / state etc etc. even in my community they don’t all speak to each other. I thought it was South Indian vs North Indian but that’s not always the case. Even through all of this I don’t care too much because I don’t have a lot in common with them. They are polite to me and we do chat from time to time. It could be worse. I will say I have had Indian friends in other places we have lived but there wasn’t a large Indian community so they were more open to trying. Also I have friends who are south Asian and divorced. I no longer live in those cities but they were really sweet environment is everything .

You are NOT the OP, I am!!

OP = original poster; the person creates the thread.

You are PP. Or identify yourself with your time stamp.

The older I get, the more I socialize only with myself, because I am one of a kind.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a white woman in my 40s. I socialize with white women in their 40s and 50s and their significant others who are men in their 40s and 50s for the most part. Professional class and all have college degrees and beyond. 95% are parents.

So, yes.

^ Also I live in Texas and Hispanic people are "white" here.

Hispanic is not a race. White Hispanic people are as white in DC or Minnesota as they are in Texas.

You are both employing transphobic hate-terms.

The correct and respectful terminology is LatinX. Do better!

Latinx is a made-up term that a certain segment is trying to impose on Hispanic/Latino people. Most actually Hispanic/Latino people do not prefer the term
https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2023/09/05/who-is-hispanic/
53% prefer Hispanic
26% prefer Latino
2% prefer Latinx

People who have internalized their racism need White people too help them understand their intersectionality.