Anonymous wrote:This is how it can start. Innocently enough. Sorry, it can take away from your relationship with your spouse—-over time.

Oh, this, this! When I read your post it was almost an exact description of what happened in my marriage. My DH is now in the throes of a very sticky (haha) affair with this person, because that line was crossed. Devastating for the spouse!

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Anonymous wrote:The holding hands…that crossed a line. And texting into the night, too.

Exactly my thoughts.
Plus knowing every detail/ whereabouts everyday.
This is already subtle emotional affair.

The whereabouts thing is strange. Small talk about weekends, logistics talk when someone is away during work hours add needs to cover—yes, for sure. But I work in a job where we need to be ready to respond to clients 24/7 and even then it’s very odd to know where someone is all the time. And we text about work items sometimes late at night but not non work items at those hours

Anonymous wrote:How would you like if your wife communicated with a guy by text late into the night? You know this is a slippery slope. Be careful.

This and you crossed the line with the hand holding. I don’t think is an EA yet, but it could be.

cut the chatting, traveling.. etc.do this type of stuff with your wife. send texts, notes to your wife.


No late night chatting, period!

Op, this is too much time with a person.. cut some things off. please...

maintain a work relationship only. no need to go to work events together...