Anonymous
04/14/2024 11:59
Subject: What has a lack of sex done to you?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Disconnection from myself, my life energy, my creativity, my light.
Thank you for posting this. I hope you can get these back- this is life
I am, thank you 🙏
I’m also realizing that my sexuality is not contingent on being in relationship - and that no one except me “owns” it. I can’t imagine staying in a situation where this part of me isn’t connected. Honestly, I don’t know what this means for future committed relationships for me - because my previous default has been monogamy even if we weren’t having sex … and also it makes me question my expectations of men I may be with. But I value my erotic / sexual autonomy. Part of the exploration.
Anonymous
04/14/2024 08:18
Subject: What has a lack of sex done to you?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
Not having it is not good for a person. I truly believe people who are healthy all through their lives are having plenty of sex. It’s good for you.
Why don’t you speak for yourself and stop condemning a significant portion of the human population that doesn’t require regular sex to be healthy both mentally and physically?
Why are you mad about someone saying sex is healthy? This is so interesting to me.
I agree with PP that sex is not necessary to have a happy, healthy life. I have had periods of my life where I had lots of great sex and that was fine. I have also had times when I had no sex and I have been able to be happy and healthy during those years as well. In fact, when I was sexually active while I was sexually satisfied I did have to deal with yeast infections, herpes and some emotional drama from being in a relationship that was quite unhealthy. So there's that. Two sides to this issue for sure.
Wow. Sounds like your problem was recklessness not sex.
Nope. My "problem" was not recklessness or sex. I've had good relationships and ones that end up problematic. You might want to try not to be so judgmental.
So the herpes was from you being safe?
Absolutely, and if you think only reckless people get herpes you are in serious denial. I was in a monogamous relationship with a man I loved. I got it one year into a three year relationship. I eventually realized he must have cheated on me but it was not in any way apparent during the relationship. Just so you know, one in eight people in the US have genital herpes and 90% do not even know they have it.
I Really wish the moderator would permanently ban people who post fake statistics. This is not even a little true.
So, you're asking the moderator to ban you?
https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jama/fullarticle/896698
This study says nothing about it being 1 in 8 people in the US that has genital herpes. But ok?
Anonymous
04/14/2024 08:17
Subject: What has a lack of sex done to you?
I had marriage problems and sex died with it. I have not been able to get the sex part back on track. We lost the lovin feeling and I stepped out. Also waiting for kids to get old enough
Anonymous
04/14/2024 08:06
Subject: What has a lack of sex done to you?
11 years no sex from wife after we had our child. We no longer love each other. We don't hang out or do anything together. We are roommates raising our child. In 1.5 years I plan to file for divorce. Waiting for our kid to be just old enough. Also, for sex I've moved on...
Anonymous
04/14/2024 00:15
Subject: What has a lack of sex done to you?
Anonymous wrote:We had marriage problems for awhile and DH declined to have sex with me.
It made me insane. I was late 30s and couldn’t imagine that this was the end of my sex life. I cried a lot. I eventually engaged in an emotional affair but cut it off because I realized I would rather divorce my husband than lose my integrity. The other man made me feel alive again. My husband and I eventually worked things out. Years ago I would have been very judgmental of someone who committed adultery but having been through the experience I had I don’t judge anyone who makes a bad decision when they have that kind of lonely desperation. It makes you nuts.
I wrote this and I also just realized… the “bad period” made me fall out of love with my husband. Before, he was the only man in the world to me. After he rejected me for a number of years, that was no longer the case. After we reconciled, I still love him, but it is not the same. I can see myself moving on and living my life without him, and having a positive life too. It is sort of sad, to lose that, and I would warn anyone who feels depriving their spouse of sex is not a big deal. It could destroy their love for you.
Anonymous
04/13/2024 23:29
Subject: What has a lack of sex done to you?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
Not having it is not good for a person. I truly believe people who are healthy all through their lives are having plenty of sex. It’s good for you.
Why don’t you speak for yourself and stop condemning a significant portion of the human population that doesn’t require regular sex to be healthy both mentally and physically?
Why are you mad about someone saying sex is healthy? This is so interesting to me.
I agree with PP that sex is not necessary to have a happy, healthy life. I have had periods of my life where I had lots of great sex and that was fine. I have also had times when I had no sex and I have been able to be happy and healthy during those years as well. In fact, when I was sexually active while I was sexually satisfied I did have to deal with yeast infections, herpes and some emotional drama from being in a relationship that was quite unhealthy. So there's that. Two sides to this issue for sure.
Wow. Sounds like your problem was recklessness not sex.
Nope. My "problem" was not recklessness or sex. I've had good relationships and ones that end up problematic. You might want to try not to be so judgmental.
So the herpes was from you being safe?
Absolutely, and if you think only reckless people get herpes you are in serious denial. I was in a monogamous relationship with a man I loved. I got it one year into a three year relationship. I eventually realized he must have cheated on me but it was not in any way apparent during the relationship. Just so you know, one in eight people in the US have genital herpes and 90% do not even know they have it.
I Really wish the moderator would permanently ban people who post fake statistics. This is not even a little true.
So, you're asking the moderator to ban you?
https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jama/fullarticle/896698
Anonymous
04/13/2024 23:18
Subject: What has a lack of sex done to you?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Disconnection from myself, my life energy, my creativity, my light.
You really hold orgasms in high regard eh?
You don’t get it.
Yes, tha'ts what this post thread is about. Nice job keeping up!
Anonymous
04/13/2024 23:17
Subject: What has a lack of sex done to you?
Anonymous wrote:I'm trying to understand my sexually unsatisifed friends.
Have sex with them.
Anonymous
04/13/2024 20:05
Subject: What has a lack of sex done to you?
Anonymous wrote:Disconnection from myself, my life energy, my creativity, my light.
Thank you for posting this. I hope you can get these back- this is life
Anonymous
04/13/2024 19:36
Subject: What has a lack of sex done to you?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
Not having it is not good for a person. I truly believe people who are healthy all through their lives are having plenty of sex. It’s good for you.
Why don’t you speak for yourself and stop condemning a significant portion of the human population that doesn’t require regular sex to be healthy both mentally and physically?
DP, but the PP has a point that there are people who do require regular sex to be mentally/emotionally/physically healthy. For them, sex is a need.
NP, I might put it this way: exercise is not really a need per se but we are all
aware that the human body and mental health are better with exercise.
Exercise doesnt bring mommy wounds and sti’s. Pleasing yourself brings the physiological release. And after many years, some people just prefer the company of friends (which is the most sustaining kind of love anyway, as studies are finding).
Exercise can cause injuries. Some people prefer working out with others.
You got me with mommy wounds. I don’t know what that is to respond.
Anonymous
04/13/2024 19:26
Subject: What has a lack of sex done to you?
Lack of sex kept me safe from unwanted pregnancy and STDs. It also kept me free from manipulative boyfriends and unsatisfying sexual encounters and sexual violence.
Anonymous
04/13/2024 19:22
Subject: What has a lack of sex done to you?
Made me bitter and angry. And has made me think back to insecurities I had in my 20s.
Anonymous
04/13/2024 18:33
Subject: What has a lack of sex done to you?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
Not having it is not good for a person. I truly believe people who are healthy all through their lives are having plenty of sex. It’s good for you.
Why don’t you speak for yourself and stop condemning a significant portion of the human population that doesn’t require regular sex to be healthy both mentally and physically?
DP, but the PP has a point that there are people who do require regular sex to be mentally/emotionally/physically healthy. For them, sex is a need.
NP, I might put it this way: exercise is not really a need per se but we are all
aware that the human body and mental health are better with exercise.
Exercise doesnt bring mommy wounds and sti’s. Pleasing yourself brings the physiological release. And after many years, some people just prefer the company of friends (which is the most sustaining kind of love anyway, as studies are finding).
What is "mommy wounds"?
Imagine if this was everyone’s thought process. “I’m too afraid of Sti’s to ever have sex.”
Also just like the other commenter-what the heck is a mommy wound?
Anonymous
04/13/2024 18:13
Subject: What has a lack of sex done to you?
Anonymous wrote:Lack of sex has made me want to bend most women over. 🤷‍♂️
Ha ha
Anonymous
04/13/2024 18:09
Subject: What has a lack of sex done to you?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
Not having it is not good for a person. I truly believe people who are healthy all through their lives are having plenty of sex. It’s good for you.
Why don’t you speak for yourself and stop condemning a significant portion of the human population that doesn’t require regular sex to be healthy both mentally and physically?
DP, but the PP has a point that there are people who do require regular sex to be mentally/emotionally/physically healthy. For them, sex is a need.
NP, I might put it this way: exercise is not really a need per se but we are all
aware that the human body and mental health are better with exercise.
Exercise doesnt bring mommy wounds and sti’s. Pleasing yourself brings the physiological release. And after many years, some people just prefer the company of friends (which is the most sustaining kind of love anyway, as studies are finding).
What is "mommy wounds"?