Your family - that's not a reason to stay. The man is not a reason to go. Op, get a grip on what YOU want and empower herself. If you would like to be married, admit that you'e like to me married. And you'd like to be married to this man. How about you say this, "I would like to be married to you but if you don't want to be married, than I'm not going to leave the life I have here."

It's on him to: soul search and decide. Maybe he''ll be ready soon. If he waits too long, you may or may not feel as you do now. You will be dating other guys if he's not around. Ring & A Date. That means you are engaged. That means you will move since you two will have a commitment to build a life together.

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Anonymous wrote:Notice how only old people are saying they did this and it worked out, OP.

Sorry, hit send before finishing. Even 30 years ago, men were still far more willing to marry. It was less culturally acceptable to waste a woman’s time, and both the culture at large families were less tolerant of these low-commitment relationships.

I would never do this with a Gen Z or younger man. If you’re young enough for this to be an “adventure”, you’re young enough to find a guy you don’t have to move your whole life to be with too. Never shut off all your options for a guy who won’t marry you!

Never shut off your options. Period. a Man is not a plan.

This is not an issue of seeing a man as a plan here but being in love and trying to align it with life. There is no shortage of men or plans or jobs.

You wrote never shut off your options for a man that won't marry you that is the very definition of making a man your plan..

Life is short, love is rare, derp friendship is valuable, letting go of all that without a solid reason is a difficult decision.

Yes if she kind of wants to leave wherever she currently is and this new city is a place she’s interested in living in anyway.

IME this kind of thing tends to work out more for in your 30s when many people are really zeroing in on settling down and starting families.

If either of them are not sure they want to be engaged next year, then they need to know this before she does a x-country move. He also needs to be willing to move for her in the future, for whatever reason.

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Anonymous wrote:I would do it if it’s a nice location. I think 20s is a great time to experience new cities.
If the location sucks then I would stay out and see how distance goes.
I don’t know your type of social circle but in mine 24 is very young for a ring.

Yes! Take every opportunity at your age to do something new!

+1 marriage is hard and dating a bf/gf is so much fun. Enjoy your 20s