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Anonymous wrote:OP you are at a tipping point if not already past it. Something physiological is occurring inside your body and you need a detailed exam and bloodwork to determine what is wrong. Your body is in a negative feedback loop and you need something to break it.

I agree with the ER and/or you need to call your OB and say I am feeling x y and z. It is not resolving. It is increasing. I am requesting evaluation immediately and he/she will most likely refer you to the ER. Be very clear that you are having physical symptoms. Because you are already on anxiety meds it will likely be viewed through psychiatric lens but I need you to be adamant about the doctors also looking for a physical reason and running a wide range of tests to err on the side of caution. It could very well be a mismatch on anxiety meds that can happen but you need to demand a full sweep.

Infection, low iron, thyroid issue- rule them out. Say you cannot continue like this - REGARDLESS OF WHETHER YOU ARE BREASTFEEDING OR NOT. DMER is a possibility, but it sounds like you are experiencing it all day/continuously and I dont know if DMER can manifest as such.

If your mother and wife are resistant please let them know that you are asking for help and feel as if rest/sleep are not sufficient for regaining function. If they refuse to help, you need to take yourself. Dont let your OB say give it 1-2 more days.

Even if it is anxiety, if she is getting literally 1 hour a sleep at a time she could kick into post partum psychosis

Can and WILL. This happened to me after 3 months of surviving on 1-2 broken hours of sleep per night. Almost went Lindsay Clancy on myself and baby and tried to take my husband into surrendering baby at a fire station.

In these situations, why don’t you just let the baby cry a bit? I get tending to a one month old every 2 hours. But at a certain point you have to stop that. Babies cry, it’s what they do. A baby going 4-5 hours in a crib is preferable to a mother about to commit suicide.

This nonstop obsessive parenting is newish and terrible for women. It wasn’t possible for women decades or centuries ago to be up all hours of the night. Mothers being up all night for older babies seems to coincidentally be women who don’t have other children and are at home.

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Anonymous wrote:PS. also - despite PPs saying this is not normal, it's actually incredibly common for new moms to have feelings and symptoms like this. I remember feeling like I had never felt so terrible in my entire life as I felt about a week into being a new mom. I felt physically terrible from the birth, I was exhausted and stressed about breastfeeding and experiencing major anxiety. I think PPs are saying instead that it's important that you get help from your doctor and also a therapist/psychiatrist. Also more moms feel this way than you might think. It's a hard transformation into motherhood. You're just at the hardest part right now - hang in there.

It is absolutely not normal to be exhausted and not be able to shut your brain off for more than an hour to sleep.

I had this problem. It was like adrenaline was pumping and my mind was constantly on. I couldn’t relax enough to sleep, eat, or sit still. I was 106 pounds at my six week checkup and the doctor had absolutely nothing to ask/say. It was my first and I felt like it was normal. I have another now and I know it was PPA. I didn’t treat it but I should have.

OP again. I believe this is my issue. I have lifelong horrible anxiety. I have been checked out and I’m physically fine (will get thyroid checked next week).

Blood pressure fine. No temperature. Heart rate a little elevated but fine. Not anemic.

I think it’s just non-stop adrenaline making me unable to sleep. I’ve upped my medication dose but it takes time to work.

This level of sleep deprivation is just brutal on my physical and mental health. I’m 10 days postpartum and due to nausea I’m back at pre-pregnancy weight.

That’s why I’m afraid I’ll die. But that’s probably anxiety too. My entire pregnancy I was convinced by baby would die inside me.

Anonymous wrote:One thing about breast feeding (that I learned the hard way) is that the first time you get that long stretch of sleep, your boobs are going to get full and they might wake you up. But don't let that discourage you from trying to get more sleep at night. Your milk production will adjust, but you need to give it time.

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Anonymous wrote:PS. also - despite PPs saying this is not normal, it's actually incredibly common for new moms to have feelings and symptoms like this. I remember feeling like I had never felt so terrible in my entire life as I felt about a week into being a new mom. I felt physically terrible from the birth, I was exhausted and stressed about breastfeeding and experiencing major anxiety. I think PPs are saying instead that it's important that you get help from your doctor and also a therapist/psychiatrist. Also more moms feel this way than you might think. It's a hard transformation into motherhood. You're just at the hardest part right now - hang in there.

It is absolutely not normal to be exhausted and not be able to shut your brain off for more than an hour to sleep.

I had this problem. It was like adrenaline was pumping and my mind was constantly on. I couldn’t relax enough to sleep, eat, or sit still. I was 106 pounds at my six week checkup and the doctor had absolutely nothing to ask/say. It was my first and I felt like it was normal. I have another now and I know it was PPA. I didn’t treat it but I should have.

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This nonstop obsessive parenting is newish and terrible for women. It wasn’t possible for women decades or centuries ago to be up all hours of the night. Mothers being up all night for older babies seems to coincidentally be women who don’t have other children and are at home.

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Anonymous wrote:Many of us breast-fed, who are responding to you. You will still have a good breast-feeding relationship if you introduce a bottle. It is really hard when your body won’t let you sleep, but if someone can give over to taking care of baby overnight, that would be really helpful. It’s important that that is a shared activity (yes, even if your wife works during the day). You need sleep to heal. You need sleep to heal. You need sleep to heal. You need sleep to heal.

Agree with this. Is your wife a morning person or night person? If she's a night person she gets to have the baby from 7pm to midnight. If the baby has regained birthway s/he can last one 5 hour span. You put in ear plugs, white noise, take a rapid dissolve benadryl. The baby can cluster feed on a bottle. Baby needs to learn night and day so don't give baby prime boobie all night. The solution to every fussy baby problem is not your boob, at least not for those 5 hours. You will feel waaaay better if you can string together a couple of REM cycles.

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Anonymous wrote:OP you are at a tipping point if not already past it. Something physiological is occurring inside your body and you need a detailed exam and bloodwork to determine what is wrong. Your body is in a negative feedback loop and you need something to break it.

I agree with the ER and/or you need to call your OB and say I am feeling x y and z. It is not resolving. It is increasing. I am requesting evaluation immediately and he/she will most likely refer you to the ER. Be very clear that you are having physical symptoms. Because you are already on anxiety meds it will likely be viewed through psychiatric lens but I need you to be adamant about the doctors also looking for a physical reason and running a wide range of tests to err on the side of caution. It could very well be a mismatch on anxiety meds that can happen but you need to demand a full sweep.

Infection, low iron, thyroid issue- rule them out. Say you cannot continue like this - REGARDLESS OF WHETHER YOU ARE BREASTFEEDING OR NOT. DMER is a possibility, but it sounds like you are experiencing it all day/continuously and I dont know if DMER can manifest as such.

If your mother and wife are resistant please let them know that you are asking for help and feel as if rest/sleep are not sufficient for regaining function. If they refuse to help, you need to take yourself. Dont let your OB say give it 1-2 more days.

Even if it is anxiety, if she is getting literally 1 hour a sleep at a time she could kick into post partum psychosis

Can and WILL. This happened to me after 3 months of surviving on 1-2 broken hours of sleep per night. Almost went Lindsay Clancy on myself and baby and tried to take my husband into surrendering baby at a fire station.

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Anonymous wrote:PS. also - despite PPs saying this is not normal, it's actually incredibly common for new moms to have feelings and symptoms like this. I remember feeling like I had never felt so terrible in my entire life as I felt about a week into being a new mom. I felt physically terrible from the birth, I was exhausted and stressed about breastfeeding and experiencing major anxiety. I think PPs are saying instead that it's important that you get help from your doctor and also a therapist/psychiatrist. Also more moms feel this way than you might think. It's a hard transformation into motherhood. You're just at the hardest part right now - hang in there.

It is absolutely not normal to be exhausted and not be able to shut your brain off for more than an hour to sleep.

I had this problem. It was like adrenaline was pumping and my mind was constantly on. I couldn’t relax enough to sleep, eat, or sit still. I was 106 pounds at my six week checkup and the doctor had absolutely nothing to ask/say. It was my first and I felt like it was normal. I have another now and I know it was PPA. I didn’t treat it but I should have.

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Anonymous wrote:PS. also - despite PPs saying this is not normal, it's actually incredibly common for new moms to have feelings and symptoms like this. I remember feeling like I had never felt so terrible in my entire life as I felt about a week into being a new mom. I felt physically terrible from the birth, I was exhausted and stressed about breastfeeding and experiencing major anxiety. I think PPs are saying instead that it's important that you get help from your doctor and also a therapist/psychiatrist. Also more moms feel this way than you might think. It's a hard transformation into motherhood. You're just at the hardest part right now - hang in there.

It is absolutely not normal to be exhausted and not be able to shut your brain off for more than an hour to sleep.

Anonymous wrote:PS. also - despite PPs saying this is not normal, it's actually incredibly common for new moms to have feelings and symptoms like this. I remember feeling like I had never felt so terrible in my entire life as I felt about a week into being a new mom. I felt physically terrible from the birth, I was exhausted and stressed about breastfeeding and experiencing major anxiety. I think PPs are saying instead that it's important that you get help from your doctor and also a therapist/psychiatrist. Also more moms feel this way than you might think. It's a hard transformation into motherhood. You're just at the hardest part right now - hang in there.