Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can't know that, PP. A poster who was a state's attorney posted she has been involved in such cases. CPS has a lot of variability across jurisdictions and workers. Which, if OP is real, is why she should seek legal advice before re-homing DD into ex's hoarder home.

It’s fake. You can believe it’s not but it’s fake. Someone who worked with cold told you it was fake and a lawyer who has cases like this told you it was fake. Of course, you’re free to continue posting advice and concern as you deem appropriate.

Other reports were mentioned. So, you can't know. We will see if OP comes back.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a single mom to four. My three other kids are perfectly healthy and no concern. My teen however has a lot of issues.

She will not keep her room clean ever. Under any circumstances. There is rotting food, bugs, clothes everywhere. Her room makes me feel physically ill to walk into.

She herself is very clean so I don't really understand it.

I go in monthly and scrub it down. I struggle to do it more than that.

Unfortunately she also isn't embarrassed and invited a friend over who in turn told her parents who then reported it to CPS. I'm assuming there may have been other reports.

Last week I had a social worker ask to look around. She saw my daughters room and told me it was a hazard to her health and it needs to be cleaned. Basically they'll continue checking in to make sure it's suitable. I tried explaining my daughters behaviour but all she said was it is my "duty of care".

I cleaned it immediately after. Within a week it was full of shit again. I had to call in sick at work to clean it again.

Her room is awful again and I got a call saying they're stopping by on Monday. I plan on cleaning it again on Sunday.

I don't know what to say to them to make them understand that I'm trying but I just can't get to her. She is in therapy (where she just sits in silence), I've sent her to weekend boot camps, I've offered to do it with her, I've taken things away - she tells me she hates me but thats it.

My youngest is sobbing every night because she thinks CPS is going to take her away. She's back in my bed because she won't sleep elsewhere.

What can I say or do here? My oldest keeps telling me to send her to their dads (he is the same with mess, hence me leaving him) but I feel like that's condoning her.

Anonymous wrote:Divorces have consequences, you sound overwhelmed

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can't know that, PP. A poster who was a state's attorney posted she has been involved in such cases. CPS has a lot of variability across jurisdictions and workers. Which, if OP is real, is why she should seek legal advice before re-homing DD into ex's hoarder home.

It’s fake. You can believe it’s not but it’s fake. Someone who worked with cold told you it was fake and a lawyer who has cases like this told you it was fake. Of course, you’re free to continue posting advice and concern as you deem appropriate.

How many times are you going to post this?

Another lawyer said they had had cases like this. It's upthread.

Might want to proofread before hitting "submit."

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What? Her friend’s parents called CPS for a dirty room?

It’s a hoarders room. You have to start by removing almost everything from her room when she’s not home. She should only have a bed, a bureau with a week’s worth of clothes and that’s it. Don’t buy any food that she would want to bring into her room. No snack food. Every night you would need to look around the room. It would be easy without junk in there. This type of hoarding can be a type of mental illness which is hard to stop.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can't know that, PP. A poster who was a state's attorney posted she has been involved in such cases. CPS has a lot of variability across jurisdictions and workers. Which, if OP is real, is why she should seek legal advice before re-homing DD into ex's hoarder home.

It’s fake. You can believe it’s not but it’s fake. Someone who worked with cold told you it was fake and a lawyer who has cases like this told you it was fake. Of course, you’re free to continue posting advice and concern as you deem appropriate.

Anonymous wrote:I get it’s annoying and shouldn’t be necessary and you have a lot on your plate already, OP, but what is preventing you from just doing a daily clean? Just like we do for littler kids that can’t really take care of themselves? Is it because your child won’t let you in the room or freaks out if you go in there?

It seems like the easiest short term solution and if you do it every day it won’t be able to deteriorate. The bug thing in particular would worry me since there’s no way to keep that confined to just the one bedroom.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can't know that, PP. A poster who was a state's attorney posted she has been involved in such cases. CPS has a lot of variability across jurisdictions and workers. Which, if OP is real, is why she should seek legal advice before re-homing DD into ex's hoarder home.

It’s fake. You can believe it’s not but it’s fake. Someone who worked with cold told you it was fake and a lawyer who has cases like this told you it was fake. Of course, you’re free to continue posting advice and concern as you deem appropriate.

Anonymous wrote:You can't know that, PP. A poster who was a state's attorney posted she has been involved in such cases. CPS has a lot of variability across jurisdictions and workers. Which, if OP is real, is why she should seek legal advice before re-homing DD into ex's hoarder home.

Anonymous wrote:You can't know that, PP. A poster who was a state's attorney posted she has been involved in such cases. CPS has a lot of variability across jurisdictions and workers. Which, if OP is real, is why she should seek legal advice before re-homing DD into ex's hoarder home.