Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

No longer the appropriate time of life to be hosting family events, not on a regular basis. Pass the baton, and the control, to the next generation. They should be living in the bigger houses. If they have a family, they need the bigger homes

I'm thisl poster. I'm 60 with married kids and grandchildren.

At 60, you are not a boomer. If you or your male peers were not eligible for the Vietnam war draft, you are not a boomer. Dealing with the draft was the factor that coalesced the boomer generation. If you were too young for the draft, you just are not a boomer.

Wrong. The baby boomer generation was 1946 to 1964. The defining feature was being born during the massive population spike immediately following WWII.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

No longer the appropriate time of life to be hosting family events, not on a regular basis. Pass the baton, and the control, to the next generation. They should be living in the bigger houses. If they have a family, they need the bigger homes

I'm thisl poster. I'm 60 with married kids and grandchildren.

At 60, you are not a boomer. If you or your male peers were not eligible for the Vietnam war draft, you are not a boomer. Dealing with the draft was the factor that coalesced the boomer generation. If you were too young for the draft, you just are not a boomer.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not 70 yet but I could see wanting space for my kids to come and comfortably stay with their partners and kids.

Be realistic. How often will this happen? How often do your kids want to come stay with you for multiple days? I love my parents but I have no interest in spending more than 2-3 days at their house because it's inconvenient not being in your own bed and kids not in their beds for more than few days unless we're on vacation, but grandma's house is not vacation. It'd be different if you have a summer house by the water but that's not what people are talking about here.

And it is much easier for parents to come stay with us instead of the other way around. I am not sacrificing vacation days to spend a week or two in suburban Maryland. My retired parents come see us. And this is the pattern I see among most of my friends and peers. The parents are the ones who visit the kids and grandkids.

I'm seeing fantasies on this thread. Not reality. Rattling around a great big empty house with multiple bedrooms for most of the year just so that your kids can have their own room over Thanksgiving seems silly to me.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not 70 yet but I could see wanting space for my kids to come and comfortably stay with their partners and kids.

Be realistic. How often will this happen? How often do your kids want to come stay with you for multiple days? I love my parents but I have no interest in spending more than 2-3 days at their house because it's inconvenient not being in your own bed and kids not in their beds for more than few days unless we're on vacation, but grandma's house is not vacation. It'd be different if you have a summer house by the water but that's not what people are talking about here.

And it is much easier for parents to come stay with us instead of the other way around. I am not sacrificing vacation days to spend a week or two in suburban Maryland. My retired parents come see us. And this is the pattern I see among most of my friends and peers. The parents are the ones who visit the kids and grandkids.

I'm seeing fantasies on this thread. Not reality. Rattling around a great big empty house with multiple bedrooms for most of the year just so that your kids can have their own room over Thanksgiving seems silly to me.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a small house 1,300 when kids little. Three kids and lived there 18 years. I now have a big house. I need the big house more now.

My three kids will be visiting with spouses and grandkids. They need a place to stay over.

Kids today are not taking over holidays. My neighbor has a 7,000 sf and five grown kids 20-33. None are married. Only one lives at home. Every holiday there are 7-9 cars in driveway as they all come

How many holidays are there in a year? There's two, possibly three times out of the year when you'd be hosting holiday gatherings. I find it amusing people want to rattle around great big barns for the sake of a few holidays a year.

Xmas
Thanksgiving
Easter
New years
8 birthdays
4th of July
Baby showers
Bridal showers
Christenings
1st communion
Confirmation
Graduations
Sunday dinner every other week
Super Bowl party
Get together just because

Only five out of the long list of events are holidays. I guess your kids don't share the holidays with their inlaws? Most of the events on your list also don't require multiple days/staying overnight.

It's great you must have a family that likes to celebrate but most people manage to celebrate in smaller houses. Do what you want, but it's not a requirement to have 7k sqft to have parties.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Here’s an idea. When someone asks a question, you can answer it or be helpful. The person asking the question might learn something.

Name calling isn’t helpful.

Here’s what I’m asking:
Why do 70 year olds buy into neighborhoods with 4000 sq feet houses, large 2 acre lots.
It’s not a TYPICAL retiree area…I lived in Williamsburg for a long time and it was highly desirable for retirees.

Do I mean that all 70 year olds want the same thing? Surely not!

I would think (and many of you are proving me wrong) that if your kids are grown, you’d want less house, less yard.

If you’re a retiree purchasing a large home in a neighborhood with young families, explain why to me so I can learn.

Because contrary to some posts on here, not all retirees have any desire to be in dense walkable areas with shared walls. They can afford to outsource yard care and house cleaning if they like. They prefer to have privacy and love hosting their family and friends and enjoy their beautiful homes in nice neighborhoods.

The ageism is out of control. Now nice neighborhoods are only for young families? Some days I swear it feels like DCUM thinks the entire region is only supposed to be for young people raising families. That is only one phase of life and in the long run it is a short phase.

No longer the appropriate time of life to be hosting family events, not on a regular basis. Pass the baton, and the control, to the next generation. They should be living in the bigger houses. If they have a family, they need the bigger homes.

Anonymous wrote:I'm not 70 yet but I could see wanting space for my kids to come and comfortably stay with their partners and kids.

Anonymous wrote:I’m just curious as to WHY someone in their 70s would need or want a 4000 sq ft, 4 bedroom, 3 level house.

I know there are outliers: grandkids live with them, frequent visitors, but why would anyone without kids want a house so large?

Anonymous wrote:

No longer the appropriate time of life to be hosting family events, not on a regular basis. Pass the baton, and the control, to the next generation. They should be living in the bigger houses. If they have a family, they need the bigger homes

I'm thisl poster. I'm 60 with married kids and grandchildren.