Anonymous
Post 03/03/2024 16:19     Subject: Walking dates complaints
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:As a woman, I would want to know a guy is interested in me. Not putting something out there (whether its a thoughtful gesture or spending some money on a date-doesn't have to be a lot) bothers me. Going on walks is cheap in many ways. He can be taking multiple walks a day, multiple days a week...


I mean, if he’s going on this many dates, you can see his viewpoint about not wanting to spend money every time, right?


The point is the they need to filter online options out better BEFORE meeting. No one (save someone with zero social life) should be going on so many first dates that they can’t afford it. One might ask why they don’t get beyond the first date so often…


It’s not really for you to tell someone else how to date or spend their money. Accept the date or don’t.


Definitely don’t. Thanks.


I didn’t ask you out, hon. I’m a married woman. Thanks.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2024 16:17     Subject: Walking dates complaints
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:As a woman, I would want to know a guy is interested in me. Not putting something out there (whether its a thoughtful gesture or spending some money on a date-doesn't have to be a lot) bothers me. Going on walks is cheap in many ways. He can be taking multiple walks a day, multiple days a week...


I mean, if he’s going on this many dates, you can see his viewpoint about not wanting to spend money every time, right?


The point is the they need to filter online options out better BEFORE meeting. No one (save someone with zero social life) should be going on so many first dates that they can’t afford it. One might ask why they don’t get beyond the first date so often…


It’s not really for you to tell someone else how to date or spend their money. Accept the date or don’t.


Definitely don’t. Thanks.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2024 16:03     Subject: Walking dates complaints
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:As a woman, I would want to know a guy is interested in me. Not putting something out there (whether its a thoughtful gesture or spending some money on a date-doesn't have to be a lot) bothers me. Going on walks is cheap in many ways. He can be taking multiple walks a day, multiple days a week...


I mean, if he’s going on this many dates, you can see his viewpoint about not wanting to spend money every time, right?


The point is the they need to filter online options out better BEFORE meeting. No one (save someone with zero social life) should be going on so many first dates that they can’t afford it. One might ask why they don’t get beyond the first date so often…


It’s not really for you to tell someone else how to date or spend their money. Accept the date or don’t.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2024 16:02     Subject: Walking dates complaints
Anonymous wrote:As a woman, I would want to know a guy is interested in me. Not putting something out there (whether its a thoughtful gesture or spending some money on a date-doesn't have to be a lot) bothers me. Going on walks is cheap in many ways. He can be taking multiple walks a day, multiple days a week...


Right! Men like this are a HUGE turn off for women with options.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2024 16:01     Subject: Walking dates complaints
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:As a woman, I would want to know a guy is interested in me. Not putting something out there (whether its a thoughtful gesture or spending some money on a date-doesn't have to be a lot) bothers me. Going on walks is cheap in many ways. He can be taking multiple walks a day, multiple days a week...


I mean, if he’s going on this many dates, you can see his viewpoint about not wanting to spend money every time, right?


The point is the they need to filter online options out better BEFORE meeting. No one (save someone with zero social life) should be going on so many first dates that they can’t afford it. One might ask why they don’t get beyond the first date so often…
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2024 15:25     Subject: Walking dates complaints
Anonymous wrote:As a woman, I would want to know a guy is interested in me. Not putting something out there (whether its a thoughtful gesture or spending some money on a date-doesn't have to be a lot) bothers me. Going on walks is cheap in many ways. He can be taking multiple walks a day, multiple days a week...


I mean, if he’s going on this many dates, you can see his viewpoint about not wanting to spend money every time, right?
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2024 15:23     Subject: Walking dates complaints
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:All of you married people who have never had to do OLD - stop adding your opinions. In general men who ask you on walking or coffee dates are dating so many women at a time that you’re just another number. They’re literally treating these dates like a job interview and it’s a huge turn off. No woman with options would agree to this

That's pretty much the point of a first date isnt it? Why would you be upset about this?


Umm, no? It’s not.


NP. Of course it is! It’s an interview for the role of boyfriend/girlfriend.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2024 15:19     Subject: Re:Walking dates complaints
What if the “walking date” is in a place where you have to pay admission, like a lovely botanic garden? Does that appease the naysayers? Admission to such places is usually more than the price of a cup of coffee.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2024 15:06     Subject: Re:Walking dates complaints
Why not grab a cup of coffee together and go for a walk?

Why either or?
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2024 14:48     Subject: Walking dates complaints
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Pp again. I have a single BIL who often vents about OLD. He makes very good money (over 1m) and he will say some women try to only pick expensive places. I asked why he is being so cheap. He said he had no problem taking a girl out that he is actually dating but that is not where he wants to go on a first date with someone he has never actually met. He prefers coffee so it can be very quick. If first meeting goes well, he will take her out on a real date.

My friend said her brother did the same thing. He would pick casual cheap places even though he is rich to weed out gold digger types.



Your BIL and your friend's brother are both incels. This is where this whole walking date/coffee date stuff originates from. Unfortunately, many women don't realize this and cosign it thinking they are being feminist.


I highly disagree as a woman. It’s not even about the money. It’s about my time. Have you ever sat through a multi course meal in a quiet, romantic setting with someone who is boring or obnoxious? I prefer a short, casual meetup before I commit to investing several hours of my time getting ready and going on a date.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2024 14:46     Subject: Walking dates complaints
As a woman, I like a walking date or a coffee date. It removes the awkwardness of paying. Plus if you plan it right, a walking date can turn into coffee or coffee can turn into a dinner date.

I met my now husband for early brunch, around 10am, when he was stopping through my city. We had brunch, went for a walk, went to a museum, got an afternoon coffee, and had dinner. He didn’t leave until 9 or 10pm to continue on his trip.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2024 14:43     Subject: Walking dates complaints
Anonymous wrote:My girlfriend and I met via online dating and we are deeply in love. However, we have an ongoing debate about walking dates as a first date and I would like to hear some opinions.

She believes it is a sign of disrespect and that the man who invites her on a walking date just doesn't want to spend any money.

I on the other hand believe it is just fine as a first date, as you get to know someone in a casual way.

Deeply in love and you’re stubbornly posting this crap because you want to show her up?!

Troll. Lamer than ever. Get a real job.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2024 14:39     Subject: Walking dates complaints
As a woman, I would want to know a guy is interested in me. Not putting something out there (whether its a thoughtful gesture or spending some money on a date-doesn't have to be a lot) bothers me. Going on walks is cheap in many ways. He can be taking multiple walks a day, multiple days a week...
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2024 13:48     Subject: Walking dates complaints
Anonymous wrote:Middle aged man here. One reason I like walks for first dates is that we can talk about things we see, and conversations usually flow really well even if we don't see anything interesting. Meeting for coffee also can be nice. Drinking alcohol on the first date isn't ideal in my opinion. Women sometimes say crazy stuff when they drink. I'll happily pay for a nice dinner but I don't usually have good experiences with fancy dinners as first dates.


It doesn’t have to be fancy! Why is it so hard for people to see that there’s an area in between a walking/coffee date and an expensive dinner out. Plenty of fun, mid-priced restaurants out there. Creativity goes along way with women. A walking or coffee date is not it.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2024 13:46     Subject: Walking dates complaints
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:All of you married people who have never had to do OLD - stop adding your opinions. In general men who ask you on walking or coffee dates are dating so many women at a time that you’re just another number. They’re literally treating these dates like a job interview and it’s a huge turn off. No woman with options would agree to this

That's pretty much the point of a first date isnt it? Why would you be upset about this?


Umm, no? It’s not.