Anonymous wrote:Why men's happiness isn't considered as valuable?

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Anonymous wrote:Why men's happiness isn't considered as valuable?

Are you joking? Traditionally, men have dictated everything in a marriage. Surely you know that. As late as the 70's or so, wives couldn't even get credit in their own names . . . . in short, men have always been valuable.

Also, it's a silly saying. You poor thing.

You are absolutely correct. But would you agree though that today we value women’s mental health more than men’s?

NP. I disagree with your last statement.

Society very much values both women and men's mental health.
Men just don't talk about it or read about it or think about it (mental health of them or anybody). And when asked to consider it, they do not or they get angry at the suggestion.

lol your post shows how much society values men’s mental health. It does not. Men are not to complain or be unhappy. They are just there to be used and discarded when they are used up. Make sure you tell this to your sons.

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Anonymous wrote:Why men's happiness isn't considered as valuable?

Are you joking? Traditionally, men have dictated everything in a marriage. Surely you know that. As late as the 70's or so, wives couldn't even get credit in their own names . . . . in short, men have always been valuable.

Also, it's a silly saying. You poor thing.

You are absolutely correct. But would you agree though that today we value women’s mental health more than men’s?

NP. I disagree with your last statement.

Society very much values both women and men's mental health.
Men just don't talk about it or read about it or think about it (mental health of them or anybody). And when asked to consider it, they do not or they get angry at the suggestion.

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Anonymous wrote:Every woman I know that sings that stupid phrase was a cheater.

Every guy I know who says this and is genuine about it has a very happy wife and a very happy wife.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe counterintuitive, but it's a patriarchal saying. Be a beneficent dictator. By making the peasants happy, you help your own well-being!

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Anonymous wrote:I haven't heard this phrase used by anyone under 50

I’m over 50 and don’t hear it used much either. I find it very misogynistic. I am not depending on someone else for my happiness.

Are you a man?

The expression is that everyone in the family is happy if mama is happy. Generally, it’s because women experience more frequent emotional variance. If she is happy, everyone else can be at peace and be happy. If not, everyone else knows it.

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Anonymous wrote:Every woman I know that sings that stupid phrase was a cheater.

Every guy I know who says this and is genuine about it has a very happy wife and a very happy wife.

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Anonymous wrote:Goodness the men on this thread are so pouty.

Goodness the women on this thread are so dismissive of men's feelings.

On thread about prioritizing women's happiness, man complains women are dismissive of men's feelings.

That pretty much sums it up.

What? Ha ha. Nice reading comprehension. You think the quote “happy wife, happy life” is a positive reference to prioritizing a wife’s happiness?

It’s not. It’s basically “my wife will be nuts around everyone if she isn’t happy and content. So I’ll do whatever it takes for domestic peace.”




“Obviously, you’re not a golfer”.

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Anonymous wrote:Why men's happiness isn't considered as valuable?

Because women shape households the way men don't.

That’s a pretty arrogant and broad take, but sure.

Also, sister, why are you subjugating yourself and perpetuating traditional patriarchal gender roles that equate domestic responsibilities solely to the realm of women?

Anonymous wrote:mens happiness has been at the center of marriages and families for millennia. I think this saying came about because traditionally women have had to do a lot of work to ensure the happiness of their husbands and the care of their children, and it's an acknowledgement that a woman who is really unhappy will do that work poorly or not at all.

Basically: in a system where all emotional labor falls on women, you better make sure that woman is functioning emotionally herself or things are going to go to pieces. If your wife is the one who 100% of the time is dealing with toddler meltdowns or the upset kid who comes home from school angry but non communicative, if she's the one who knows how to make sure all the ILs are happy with the holiday plan, if she's listening to you complain about your brother or your job or politics 6x a week, if she's keeping up relationships in the neighborhood and at church and at school, then you better make sure she's getting enough of her own happiness to fill up her tank so she can do those things.

Now in a marriage where a man takes on an equal or even greater emotional burden, this saying wouldn't apply. But in how many marriages is that true? Many men go their entire lives pretending they don't even have feelings other than anger and indifference. It is WORK to help a person like that function in the world, so yeah, you better hope the person doing that work is reasonably happy in life. Because she's the one ensuring everyone else is reasonably happy.

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Anonymous wrote:Why men's happiness isn't considered as valuable?

Only women, children, and dogs are unconditionally loved. Men have to show what they are worth. That's why most men these days are refusing to get married. There's really no upside for a man. There really isn't.

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Anonymous wrote:Why men's happiness isn't considered as valuable?

Are you joking? Traditionally, men have dictated everything in a marriage. Surely you know that. As late as the 70's or so, wives couldn't even get credit in their own names . . . . in short, men have always been valuable.

Also, it's a silly saying. You poor thing.

You are absolutely correct. But would you agree though that today we value women’s mental health more than men’s?

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Anonymous wrote:Why men's happiness isn't considered as valuable?

Only women, children, and dogs are unconditionally loved. Men have to show what they are worth. That's why most men these days are refusing to get married. There's really no upside for a man. There really isn't.

I think there's a kernel of truth to this (and I'm a woman) but definitely add "young" before women.
Pretty much everyone outside of these categories must prove their worth.

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Anonymous wrote:Why men's happiness isn't considered as valuable?

Because historically, men’s happiness is a given.

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Anonymous wrote:Why men's happiness isn't considered as valuable?

Because women shape households the way men don't.