Anonymous
Post 02/02/2024 09:54     Subject: Re:The men who get the attractive women
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Of course we check out men, duhhh.


But we care waaaaay less than men do. Attraction is only partially based on appearance. We a rule, its always better to be funny than muscular.

My husband of 16 years has always been ripped. I appreciated his abs when we were dating, for sure, but his eyes, his smile, his sense of humor, and his confidence were what actually attracted me to him.


You know actually his biceps, and the way t shirts are tight around them and then loser around the stomach, are very hot. But for me humor is a must and biceps are not.


Its funny, as a guy I was pretty invisible to women. Its almost like they would walk through me if I didn’t move out of their way. About 7-8 years ago I had bodybuilder put together a lifting and nutrition plan. I followed it to the letter snd ended up putting on about 20lbs of muscle the first year. For reference I’m 6’1” - so it was s noticeable amount for my frame. This made all the difference with being noticed snd having interest in me.
Anonymous
Post 02/02/2024 07:35     Subject: The men who get the attractive women
Anonymous wrote:I'm hotter than my BF- I know this because my guy friends and some of my girl friends have told me this. Lol. I have dated hotter guys but I'm dating him because he's nice to me, he's easygoing, he's really smart, he has the engineer thing where his love language is problem solving and fixing things, and he lets me be me. He's quieter than I am, but I'm an extrovert who likes chatting with random people, and he never gets jealous. Some guys have. He's just easy to be with. So he doesn't need to be hot or rich.


We are dating the same man.
Anonymous
Post 02/02/2024 00:44     Subject: The men who get the attractive women
Anonymous wrote:I'm hotter than my BF- I know this because my guy friends and some of my girl friends have told me this. Lol. I have dated hotter guys but I'm dating him because he's nice to me, he's easygoing, he's really smart, he has the engineer thing where his love language is problem solving and fixing things, and he lets me be me. He's quieter than I am, but I'm an extrovert who likes chatting with random people, and he never gets jealous. Some guys have. He's just easy to be with. So he doesn't need to be hot or rich.


Is his name Luigi?
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 21:56     Subject: The men who get the attractive women
I'm hotter than my BF- I know this because my guy friends and some of my girl friends have told me this. Lol. I have dated hotter guys but I'm dating him because he's nice to me, he's easygoing, he's really smart, he has the engineer thing where his love language is problem solving and fixing things, and he lets me be me. He's quieter than I am, but I'm an extrovert who likes chatting with random people, and he never gets jealous. Some guys have. He's just easy to be with. So he doesn't need to be hot or rich.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 17:27     Subject: Re:The men who get the attractive women
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Of course we check out men, duhhh.


But we care waaaaay less than men do. Attraction is only partially based on appearance. We a rule, its always better to be funny than muscular.

My husband of 16 years has always been ripped. I appreciated his abs when we were dating, for sure, but his eyes, his smile, his sense of humor, and his confidence were what actually attracted me to him.


You know actually his biceps, and the way t shirts are tight around them and then loser around the stomach, are very hot. But for me humor is a must and biceps are not.


We men don’t realize how lucky we are in the sense that women are not as critical to our physical appearance the way we are go theirs.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 17:10     Subject: Re:The men who get the attractive women
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Of course we check out men, duhhh.


But we care waaaaay less than men do. Attraction is only partially based on appearance. We a rule, its always better to be funny than muscular.

My husband of 16 years has always been ripped. I appreciated his abs when we were dating, for sure, but his eyes, his smile, his sense of humor, and his confidence were what actually attracted me to him.


You know actually his biceps, and the way t shirts are tight around them and then loser around the stomach, are very hot. But for me humor is a must and biceps are not.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 17:08     Subject: Re:The men who get the attractive women
Anonymous wrote:Of course we check out men, duhhh.


But we care waaaaay less than men do. Attraction is only partially based on appearance. We a rule, its always better to be funny than muscular.

My husband of 16 years has always been ripped. I appreciated his abs when we were dating, for sure, but his eyes, his smile, his sense of humor, and his confidence were what actually attracted me to him.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 17:07     Subject: Re:The men who get the attractive women
Anonymous wrote:Be the best version of yourself as is possible with respect to your physical appearance. And be styled in a way that matches the sort of women you want to attract. (If you want professional women, dress like a professional man while you're out socializing. Don't dress like a wanna-be rapper if you want to get with a DC lawyer.)

I'm dating a man I met at a friend's party who didn't hit on me explicitly but managed to spend enough time around me over the evening that I felt comfortable giving him my number by the time we left. He is about 5'7" and has a working class job that pays decently but not nearly what I earn. But he was dressed appropriately, he was well groomed, he has really toned and thick arms and a thick chest (not crazy big, it's just clear he goes to the gym), and he was friendly and easy to chat with. I later learned that he attracts women like crazy. I've seen it happen at shops and other places when I wander away from him and women think he's there alone. He walks around with a twinkle in his eye and smiles at people, which seems to charm women, and that's probably what got me talking to him at the party when we met. He also is very confident and proud about how good he is at his work even though it's not a big money-making career (he's done construction for over 2 decades) and I think this self-love comes across as attractive.


That’s impressive from a 5’7 man. I am 6’0 and I don’t get half the attention this man gets. He has “it”. Take care of him before some other lady snatches him lol.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 17:04     Subject: The men who get the attractive women
💰
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 16:48     Subject: Re:The men who get the attractive women
Be the best version of yourself as is possible with respect to your physical appearance. And be styled in a way that matches the sort of women you want to attract. (If you want professional women, dress like a professional man while you're out socializing. Don't dress like a wanna-be rapper if you want to get with a DC lawyer.)

I'm dating a man I met at a friend's party who didn't hit on me explicitly but managed to spend enough time around me over the evening that I felt comfortable giving him my number by the time we left. He is about 5'7" and has a working class job that pays decently but not nearly what I earn. But he was dressed appropriately, he was well groomed, he has really toned and thick arms and a thick chest (not crazy big, it's just clear he goes to the gym), and he was friendly and easy to chat with. I later learned that he attracts women like crazy. I've seen it happen at shops and other places when I wander away from him and women think he's there alone. He walks around with a twinkle in his eye and smiles at people, which seems to charm women, and that's probably what got me talking to him at the party when we met. He also is very confident and proud about how good he is at his work even though it's not a big money-making career (he's done construction for over 2 decades) and I think this self-love comes across as attractive.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 14:11     Subject: The men who get the attractive women
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Confidence can make an unattractive guy sexy! Too many men think arrogance is confidence but arrogance is the biggest turnoff.


This. Arrogance is gross; true confidence (quiet self-assuredness) is one of the most attractive features in both genders IMO.


This. One of the men I've been most attracted to was probably a 2 or 3 on the looks scale. I met him in an LSAT prep class he was teaching; his confidence and humor and command of the room knocked me off my feet and I pursued him like crazy.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 14:02     Subject: Re:The men who get the attractive women
Of course we check out men, duhhh.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 14:02     Subject: The men who get the attractive women
-chests and arms are amazing because we don’t have the same. No one likes skinny legs, but they happen in some body types.

Abs are amazing (I have them too!)
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 14:00     Subject: The men who get the attractive women
No, we do.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 13:48     Subject: The men who get the attractive women
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t care much about your face as long as you have a kind smile, you are funny and you work out.

A handful of muscle can go a long way.

Anyone can build muscle with effort.


I don’t think women care about muscles else I wouldn’t be single. Sadly I kind fit into the meathead stereotype but working on it lol


It depends. I was married to a cutie with no muscles. He is incredibly charismatic and smart. Now I want the muscular type. It’s really nice! Once you’ve tried it…


The thing I like about DHs muscles is going to the beach and watch other woman blatantly check him out. Turns me on so much. Those nights are the best.


How muscular are we talking about? Big chest, biceps? Big butt? As a guy I always thought women don’t really check out men’s physique the way we check out women’s physique. For instance, if a woman has a beautiful ass and she is flaunting it, look at the men around her 99% of them will check her out married or not. If married unless they have dark sunglasses on they will do some incredible head gymnastics to quickly glance because you bet their wives saw her before them and are waiting to see how their husbands reacts lol.