Anonymous wrote:If the husband is truly acting immature why wouldnt a punishment of no sex fit?

Who knows.

Men don’t have that kind of leverage when women act unreasonably. They’re usually allowed wide latitude for anger that men aren’t afforded. If a man “punished” his wife with no sex, in most cases, sadly, it would probably be a welcome respite.

That’s because thousands of years of history have taught us traditional human behavior. The difference is that these days men are just told to “suck it up” if their wife loses interest in sex.

No wonder why so many young men would rather just sleep around without the complications of a long term marriage.

If a husband expresses sadness, or even anger, at a decline in sex in their marriage, they are expressing “toxic masculinity”. Feminism has won. Congrats, ladies. Enjoy the continued polarization between the sexes as it grows.

If the husband is truly acting immature why wouldnt a punishment of no sex fit?

Anonymous wrote:Is there an age limit on this? At what age, if any, is it OK for a spouse to say, I am past that stage of life and not going back to having sex - not even intimacy/expression of affection. Is it reasonable to quit a marriage that has historically otherwise been mutually rewarding over this issue?

I would get divorced. I don’t push sex, but if it’s just off the table, and not because of a physical issue, I’m out. Life’s too short.

Anonymous wrote:Never. I’m always begging him for it. Plus we’re not into emotional blackmail.

You’re an outlier.

Anonymous wrote:DH verbally abuses me on a regular basis and then complains I’m never in the mood anymore. I wonder why?

Do you nag or criticize him unduly? Do you instigate conflict and is he responding harshly as a result of that? Or is he just rude?

Anonymous wrote:Is there an age limit on this? At what age, if any, is it OK for a spouse to say, I am past that stage of life and not going back to having sex - not even intimacy/expression of affection. Is it reasonable to quit a marriage that has historically otherwise been mutually rewarding over this issue?

Is this withholding? I would assume that withholding is not engaging in sex that you would otherwise want to have in order to manipulate your partner. If it was never actually on the table, that’s not withholding.

I mean, you can withhold rent or withhold evidence in court only when you actually have it to give. If you aren’t paying your rent because you want your landlord to fix something first, that’s withholding. If you don’t have the money, that’s a different issue.

If my husband threw a tantrum over me getting my period early there would be no sex going forward.

Anonymous wrote:I have had discussions with my wife and she has admitted she withholds. One instance was me throwing a tantrum she started her period early. I went 2 weeks no sex over that.

Dude, wtf. My wife tried to mess around with her birth control to avoid her period on our honeymoon, and totally screwed it up and had like a 7-day period. You know what I didn't do, throw a f-ing tantrum. Jesus.

Anonymous wrote:Is there an age limit on this? At what age, if any, is it OK for a spouse to say, I am past that stage of life and not going back to having sex - not even intimacy/expression of affection. Is it reasonable to quit a marriage that has historically otherwise been mutually rewarding over this issue?

Of course

Is there an age limit on this? At what age, if any, is it OK for a spouse to say, I am past that stage of life and not going back to having sex - not even intimacy/expression of affection. Is it reasonable to quit a marriage that has historically otherwise been mutually rewarding over this issue?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have had discussions with my wife and she has admitted she withholds. One instance was me throwing a tantrum she started her period early. I went 2 weeks no sex over that.

She should have left you over that. You are ridiculous.

You threw a tantrum because she started her period early are you kidding me. You are to immature to be having sex!

Never. I’m always begging him for it. Plus we’re not into emotional blackmail.