Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 16:57     Subject: tell me about your marriage if both spouses have untreated ADHD
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No idea, I think aspergers/ aspergers would be a good nice low key match. Still chaos, but prob live a simple introverted life or focus on work or hyper interests. Kids would probably inherit the same.

Adhd/ adhd prob all the impulsivity, hyperactivity cycles and inattentiveness. Need to sue a lot of tech crutches to stay on time or pay the bills or remember to do stuff.

Don’t have more than 1 kid.


Can you elaborate what you mean by “tech crutches”?


Apps and tech that remind you to do basic $hit.

Like not speed, stay in the lanes, calendar alerts for everything, auto bill pay, oil changes, bdays, doctor appt scheduling, what time it is.

All the stuff NT people do and hold instinctively in their heads.


+1

Thank goodness I also have a job where I just do whatever the last email tells me to do. Repeat. No planning necessary’s just doing. Then leave.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 16:52     Subject: Re:tell me about your marriage if both spouses have untreated ADHD
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I do want to say that we are both creative and good at staying in the moment, so the sex is still very, very good .


Yeah cuz immature deadweights who routinely have temper tantrums are so attractive and sexy.


What’s your deal?
We aren’t deadweights. I’m an ER doc. DH does intensive care. We donate money to charity and are active in our community.
We have good kids who do well in school and have a lot of fun at home.



I don't follow. You both have UNTREATED ADHD?

Tell us about your marriage and how or who runs the household, not about your jobs.

BTW, what's great about ER doc is THERE'S NO HOMEWORK. It's shiftwork, 4 days a week. Work doesn't come home at night, days off shift, or on vacation. Maybe some conference reading, max. No 50 emails an hour to manage.


Bump.
Curious too about treated v untreated.
And who’s at home caring for the children, cooking, cleaning, managing everything.


I posted at 12:14 on the first page.

I don’t really go about my life thinking “I have ADD, and I’m making dinner. I have ADD, and I’m looking at a school email.” I’m trying to look at my life and see what’s impacted by ADD, but it’s not really that easy.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 15:50     Subject: Re:tell me about your marriage if both spouses have untreated ADHD
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I do want to say that we are both creative and good at staying in the moment, so the sex is still very, very good .


Yeah cuz immature deadweights who routinely have temper tantrums are so attractive and sexy.


What’s your deal?
We aren’t deadweights. I’m an ER doc. DH does intensive care. We donate money to charity and are active in our community.
We have good kids who do well in school and have a lot of fun at home.



I don't follow. You both have UNTREATED ADHD?

Tell us about your marriage and how or who runs the household, not about your jobs.

BTW, what's great about ER doc is THERE'S NO HOMEWORK. It's shiftwork, 4 days a week. Work doesn't come home at night, days off shift, or on vacation. Maybe some conference reading, max. No 50 emails an hour to manage.


Bump.
Curious too about treated v untreated.
And who’s at home caring for the children, cooking, cleaning, managing everything.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 15:50     Subject: tell me about your marriage if both spouses have untreated ADHD
Despite being told not to preproduce i did lol. People love to try and control.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 15:47     Subject: Re:tell me about your marriage if both spouses have untreated ADHD
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I do want to say that we are both creative and good at staying in the moment, so the sex is still very, very good .


Yeah cuz immature deadweights who routinely have temper tantrums are so attractive and sexy.


What’s your deal?
We aren’t deadweights. I’m an ER doc. DH does intensive care. We donate money to charity and are active in our community.
We have good kids who do well in school and have a lot of fun at home.


Would you say either of you are immature?


I guess that we are immature in that we still like to smile and have fun and play games and have sex.
We aren’t like the bulk of DCUM posters who seem to be channeling their inner Victorian era matron.

Then me and hubby are also immature lol.


Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 15:37     Subject: Re:tell me about your marriage if both spouses have untreated ADHD
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I do want to say that we are both creative and good at staying in the moment, so the sex is still very, very good .


Yeah cuz immature deadweights who routinely have temper tantrums are so attractive and sexy.


What’s your deal?
We aren’t deadweights. I’m an ER doc. DH does intensive care. We donate money to charity and are active in our community.
We have good kids who do well in school and have a lot of fun at home.



I don't follow. You both have UNTREATED ADHD?

Tell us about your marriage and how or who runs the household, not about your jobs.

BTW, what's great about ER doc is THERE'S NO HOMEWORK. It's shiftwork, 4 days a week. Work doesn't come home at night, days off shift, or on vacation. Maybe some conference reading, max. No 50 emails an hour to manage.


Dp. Isn’t it great we all have different strengths? I’m grateful for the hyper focus of an er doc. Don’t get why you are so angry at Pp?
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 15:34     Subject: Re:tell me about your marriage if both spouses have untreated ADHD
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I do want to say that we are both creative and good at staying in the moment, so the sex is still very, very good .


Yeah cuz immature deadweights who routinely have temper tantrums are so attractive and sexy.


What’s your deal?
We aren’t deadweights. I’m an ER doc. DH does intensive care. We donate money to charity and are active in our community.
We have good kids who do well in school and have a lot of fun at home.



I don't follow. You both have UNTREATED ADHD?

Tell us about your marriage and how or who runs the household, not about your jobs.

BTW, what's great about ER doc is THERE'S NO HOMEWORK. It's shiftwork, 4 days a week. Work doesn't come home at night, days off shift, or on vacation. Maybe some conference reading, max. No 50 emails an hour to manage.


I’ve responded a few times on this thread. I have the third response on the first page.
This string of comments about my being a deadweight is in response to a comment I made about my marital sex life.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 14:26     Subject: Re:tell me about your marriage if both spouses have untreated ADHD
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I do want to say that we are both creative and good at staying in the moment, so the sex is still very, very good .


Yeah cuz immature deadweights who routinely have temper tantrums are so attractive and sexy.


What’s your deal?
We aren’t deadweights. I’m an ER doc. DH does intensive care. We donate money to charity and are active in our community.
We have good kids who do well in school and have a lot of fun at home.



I don't follow. You both have UNTREATED ADHD?

Tell us about your marriage and how or who runs the household, not about your jobs.

BTW, what's great about ER doc is THERE'S NO HOMEWORK. It's shiftwork, 4 days a week. Work doesn't come home at night, days off shift, or on vacation. Maybe some conference reading, max. No 50 emails an hour to manage.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 14:00     Subject: Re:tell me about your marriage if both spouses have untreated ADHD
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I do want to say that we are both creative and good at staying in the moment, so the sex is still very, very good .


Yeah cuz immature deadweights who routinely have temper tantrums are so attractive and sexy.


What’s your deal?
We aren’t deadweights. I’m an ER doc. DH does intensive care. We donate money to charity and are active in our community.
We have good kids who do well in school and have a lot of fun at home.


Would you say either of you are immature?


I guess that we are immature in that we still like to smile and have fun and play games and have sex.
We aren’t like the bulk of DCUM posters who seem to be channeling their inner Victorian era matron.

Then me and hubby are also immature lol.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2024 13:59     Subject: Re:tell me about your marriage if both spouses have untreated ADHD
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I do want to say that we are both creative and good at staying in the moment, so the sex is still very, very good .


Yeah cuz immature deadweights who routinely have temper tantrums are so attractive and sexy.


What’s your deal?
We aren’t deadweights. I’m an ER doc. DH does intensive care. We donate money to charity and are active in our community.
We have good kids who do well in school and have a lot of fun at home.


Would you say either of you are immature?


I guess that we are immature in that we still like to smile and have fun and play games and have sex.
We aren’t like the bulk of DCUM posters who seem to be channeling their inner Victorian era matron.