Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Who cares? Tell them they have until 1/31 and on 2/1 when they haven't done it, call the junk haulers.
I will have to deal with character defamation and screaming and 10 phone calls a day so I care.
OP
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:As a daughter of a hoarder I can tell you that your relative will never ever empty the house.
In fact, he is making it more hoarded as we speak.
Make of it what you will.
+1
Same here.
And expect that when you try to address the hoarding in even a small way, you will be attacked- hoarding is a mental disorder. Tread carefully.
I hear you. I’m not seeing new junk taking up space.
However, hoarder pulls papers and books out of drawers and off shelves and spreads them all over the floor. Maybe that is their way of making the space more hoarded. They didn’t even bother cleaning that up before we had people come in.
It’s crazy we will miss out on $150,000 or so for the home’s sale price because we no longer have the time to spruce up the house due to the hoarder.
This thread is making me brave.
And thank you, PP, I tried to tread carefully and hoarder has already yelled at me. Sadly, I also yelled back, which I do not want to do.
They said I would not “let them” move because I asked them not to move one one certain day last year. There were another 300 days or so that were fine…
OP
Change the locks and full speed ahead. I know it’s exhausting but try to disregard sibling’s manipulation right now. Your mom designated you POA and your responsibility is to her. If there’s anything left specifically designated for sibling, make sure it’s set aside. Junk haul the rest.
This. There shouldn’t be the opportunity for your sibling to be there taking tax forms, spreading papers, etc. They should have no access to the house. Get a locksmith out there tomorrow and stop delaying.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:As a daughter of a hoarder I can tell you that your relative will never ever empty the house.
In fact, he is making it more hoarded as we speak.
Make of it what you will.
+1
Same here.
And expect that when you try to address the hoarding in even a small way, you will be attacked- hoarding is a mental disorder. Tread carefully.
I hear you. I’m not seeing new junk taking up space.
However, hoarder pulls papers and books out of drawers and off shelves and spreads them all over the floor. Maybe that is their way of making the space more hoarded. They didn’t even bother cleaning that up before we had people come in.
It’s crazy we will miss out on $150,000 or so for the home’s sale price because we no longer have the time to spruce up the house due to the hoarder.
This thread is making me brave.
And thank you, PP, I tried to tread carefully and hoarder has already yelled at me. Sadly, I also yelled back, which I do not want to do.
They said I would not “let them” move because I asked them not to move one one certain day last year. There were another 300 days or so that were fine…
OP
Change the locks and full speed ahead. I know it’s exhausting but try to disregard sibling’s manipulation right now. Your mom designated you POA and your responsibility is to her. If there’s anything left specifically designated for sibling, make sure it’s set aside. Junk haul the rest.
Anonymous wrote:
However, hoarder pulls papers and books out of drawers and off shelves and spreads them all over the floor. Maybe that is their way of making the space more hoarded. They didn’t even bother cleaning that up before we had people come in.
Anonymous wrote:Okay.
Do I tell the hoarder the date for the junk haulers? If not, they will call me multiple times a day to scream at me.
And do I care at all if sibling tracks down the junk haulers to get the stuff back? They might try that.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:As a daughter of a hoarder I can tell you that your relative will never ever empty the house.
In fact, he is making it more hoarded as we speak.
Make of it what you will.
+1
Same here.
And expect that when you try to address the hoarding in even a small way, you will be attacked- hoarding is a mental disorder. Tread carefully.
I hear you. I’m not seeing new junk taking up space.
However, hoarder pulls papers and books out of drawers and off shelves and spreads them all over the floor. Maybe that is their way of making the space more hoarded. They didn’t even bother cleaning that up before we had people come in.
It’s crazy we will miss out on $150,000 or so for the home’s sale price because we no longer have the time to spruce up the house due to the hoarder.
This thread is making me brave.
And thank you, PP, I tried to tread carefully and hoarder has already yelled at me. Sadly, I also yelled back, which I do not want to do.
They said I would not “let them” move because I asked them not to move one one certain day last year. There were another 300 days or so that were fine…
OP
Anonymous wrote:
I hear you. I’m not seeing new junk taking up space.
However, hoarder pulls papers and books out of drawers and off shelves and spreads them all over the floor. Maybe that is their way of making the space more hoarded. They didn’t even bother cleaning that up before we had people come in.
It’s crazy we will miss out on $150,000 or so for the home’s sale price because we no longer have the time to spruce up the house due to the hoarder.
This thread is making me brave.
And thank you, PP, I tried to tread carefully and hoarder has already yelled at me. Sadly, I also yelled back, which I do not want to do.
They said I would not “let them” move because I asked them not to move on one certain day last year. There were another 300 days or so that were fine…
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:As a daughter of a hoarder I can tell you that your relative will never ever empty the house.
In fact, he is making it more hoarded as we speak.
Make of it what you will.
+1
Same here.
And expect that when you try to address the hoarding in even a small way, you will be attacked- hoarding is a mental disorder. Tread carefully.
Anonymous wrote:As a daughter of a hoarder I can tell you that your relative will never ever empty the house.
In fact, he is making it more hoarded as we speak.
Make of it what you will.
Anonymous wrote:THaNK YOU, everyone, for helping me. I am not sure I would have taken these steps so well without you guys telling me not to put up with this situation.
I needed an outside voice like yours who is not locked in this dysfunctional family.