Anonymous
Post 01/20/2024 11:09     Subject: UVA rush
Anonymous wrote:I would rather my daughter not join a sorority, but she really would like to be part of the greek system, so here we are, supporting her in this journey. What makes me sad, is that she can do all the right things: get good grades, community service, be outgoing, have leadership skills, yet she will be dropped for things that are completely out of her control: our family’s HHI, where she went to high school, what summer camps she attended (or not!), what her ethnic background is, what clothing brands she can afford, how “attactive” she is, where we “summer” (or not!). I know life is not fair, but I was hoping, as a society, we had moved on from discriminating people for these qualities.


+1. This is life. The true heroes in our society are usually the non-Greek types.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2024 10:27     Subject: Re:UVA rush
Anonymous wrote:Is Greek life less dominant at VT (for social scene) than it is at UVA? Or does the presence feel similar?


VT is about 20% Greek so it does have a lot of these same issues in the Greek system but there is a higher percentage that are non Greek. No idea how their social life is because all of my DD’s friends are Greek.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2024 09:53     Subject: UVA rush
Anonymous wrote:I’ll give UVA this - their top tier ain’t about looks, it’s about money. There are cute, fun, brilliant girls in most of the houses.



+1
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2024 09:50     Subject: UVA rush
I’ll give UVA this - their top tier ain’t about looks, it’s about money. There are cute, fun, brilliant girls in most of the houses.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2024 09:46     Subject: Re:UVA rush
Is Greek life less dominant at VT (for social scene) than it is at UVA? Or does the presence feel similar?
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2024 09:40     Subject: UVA rush
Anonymous wrote:I would rather my daughter not join a sorority, but she really would like to be part of the greek system, so here we are, supporting her in this journey. What makes me sad, is that she can do all the right things: get good grades, community service, be outgoing, have leadership skills, yet she will be dropped for things that are completely out of her control: our family’s HHI, where she went to high school, what summer camps she attended (or not!), what her ethnic background is, what clothing brands she can afford, how “attactive” she is, where we “summer” (or not!). I know life is not fair, but I was hoping, as a society, we had moved on from discriminating
people for these qualities.



That is true but the good news is that there are 14 sororities, not just three, and the others will not drop kids for those shallow reasons. For most, she just needs to be able to hold an interesting conversation.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2024 09:34     Subject: UVA rush
I would rather my daughter not join a sorority, but she really would like to be part of the greek system, so here we are, supporting her in this journey. What makes me sad, is that she can do all the right things: get good grades, community service, be outgoing, have leadership skills, yet she will be dropped for things that are completely out of her control: our family’s HHI, where she went to high school, what summer camps she attended (or not!), what her ethnic background is, what clothing brands she can afford, how “attactive” she is, where we “summer” (or not!). I know life is not fair, but I was hoping, as a society, we had moved on from discriminating people for these qualities.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2024 09:25     Subject: Re:UVA rush
Anonymous wrote:Reading this thread has been a huge turnoff.


oh not, what will they do without you?
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2024 09:22     Subject: UVA rush
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Good luck to any of you who have girls going into pref today. I know it's probably been a stressful week for the girls and there are probably tears this morning. The Friday cuts are the worst at the higher ranked sororities especially because girls felt that they had a shot still if they were there for house tours. My dd had her painful cuts earlier in the week but had many friends who were devastated on pref day. It all worked out though, even if they didn't get their top choices from earlier in the week, they all seem happy where they ended up.


“Devastated” on pref day?

Dear lord. Reality check please.


You have never really wanted something and it didn’t happen? These are 18 and 19 year olds.

Have you always been so callous or is this a learned character defect?


That’s right. And 18-19 years old is about the time most of us start to realize that our perception of ourselves is not necessarily how the rest of the world views us. It’s a wake up and grow up moment.

I would question why membership in a certain sorority is of such consequence to a girls perception of herself, and why parents let it get out of hand to this point.


Of course you would think that way. It’s the way a socially awkward, insufferable bore thinks.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2024 09:16     Subject: Re:UVA rush
Reading this thread has been a huge turnoff.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2024 09:16     Subject: UVA rush
Anonymous wrote:Tougher for boys too as they can’t go to frat parties usually unless a member-girls can still go even if not affiliated.


eh they can go, assuming they have friends who do get into those frats. My DD knows several independent guys and they get into parties because their friends invite them. My DS does the same at his frat. Not hordes of them of course, but if they have a good friend in the frat, they can usually get into alot of them.

By second year, most kids have fake ids and are going out on the Corner so they don't need to get into a frat. The Greek scene is really only dominant for first and second years. After that, it all kinda of goes out the window and they do more bars.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2024 09:09     Subject: Re:UVA rush
30% is too high if you don't want the Greek system to dominate. The figure needs to be much lower, or at least closer to 20% rather than 30%.


For my multiple kids who have completed college at different universities, and were happy their schools did not have a strong Greek system -- they found this figure to be true.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2024 09:05     Subject: UVA rush
Tougher for boys too as they can’t go to frat parties usually unless a member-girls can still go even if not affiliated.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2024 09:04     Subject: UVA rush
30% is too high if you don't want the Greek system to dominate. The figure needs to be much lower, or at least closer to 20% rather than 30%.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2024 08:54     Subject: UVA rush
I think the problem is that even though it’s only around 30% or so Greek, the Greek system dominates social life there. Of course you could be lucky and have a kid that doesn’t care and is into community service, theatre, or other organizations. But that’s not the case for my son.