Anonymous
01/06/2024 18:51
Subject: WWYD husband’s affair partner posted video melange from 2023
DH tasted 36 year old fruit, and knows he can get it. No way he's going to be loyal to OP until he's too old to chase and just needs a nursemom.
Anonymous
01/06/2024 18:50
Subject: WWYD husband’s affair partner posted video melange from 2023
Anonymous wrote:OP, do your children know who the identity of the OW? If so, if they are late teens, they are likely swift enough to see her social media postings. No matter what, the video should come down. You do not want your children to see it or any mutual friends who might not know. If it is posted on social media, you can anonymously report the post and say something like "this person is using my voice/images/recordings of me without my consent" and often that is enough to get something taken down.
If the cheater is truly trying to do the work to heal, OP shouldn't be covering up his adultery.
OP needs to stop enabling him.
Anonymous
01/06/2024 14:11
Subject: WWYD husband’s affair partner posted video melange from 2023
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The video includes dates together and other things (flowers) etc from my husband including his voice in one. No clear pictures of him but notes with his name on it… She’s not married. The affair is well over and my husband and I are in a good place, but feel like I should say something? WWYD? I guess she has the right to post whatever she wants to. Still hard.
And you know this, how?
? I saw it and I know the dates he shared everything with me whenever asked post discovery
Anonymous
01/06/2024 14:11
Subject: WWYD husband’s affair partner posted video melange from 2023
Anonymous wrote:This sucks OP.
But you need to do two things:
1. Acknowledge to yourself that the video is only possible because of choices your husband made (letting himself be videoed with/by the OW?!) and that therefore
2. Let yourself off this psychological fishhook. This has **nothing** to do with you. Nothing. It’s a video that includes someone behaving badly and that person is not you. Stop giving it power over you and DEFINITELY tell your therapist about it.
Op here. Agree. Yes have discussed with therapist
Anonymous
01/04/2024 08:22
Subject: WWYD husband’s affair partner posted video melange from 2023
This sucks OP.
But you need to do two things:
1. Acknowledge to yourself that the video is only possible because of choices your husband made (letting himself be videoed with/by the OW?!) and that therefore
2. Let yourself off this psychological fishhook. This has **nothing** to do with you. Nothing. It’s a video that includes someone behaving badly and that person is not you. Stop giving it power over you and DEFINITELY tell your therapist about it.
But you need to do two things:
1. Acknowledge to yourself that the video is only possible because of choices your husband made (letting himself be videoed with/by the OW?!) and that therefore
2. Let yourself off this psychological fishhook. This has **nothing** to do with you. Nothing. It’s a video that includes someone behaving badly and that person is not you. Stop giving it power over you and DEFINITELY tell your therapist about it.
Anonymous
01/04/2024 07:44
Subject: WWYD husband’s affair partner posted video melange from 2023
Anonymous wrote:The video includes dates together and other things (flowers) etc from my husband including his voice in one. No clear pictures of him but notes with his name on it… She’s not married. The affair is well over and my husband and I are in a good place, but feel like I should say something? WWYD? I guess she has the right to post whatever she wants to. Still hard.
And you know this, how?
Anonymous
01/04/2024 07:43
Subject: WWYD husband’s affair partner posted video melange from 2023
Let that b have him. Go talk to a lawyer. Know your options as far as divorce. You didn't deserve this, and you don't have to live with a man who hurt you so badly. Or stay with your husband, but know that the ground rules have changed. Feel free to date, since he did. You aren't stuck there with that loser man and his AP's social media posts (BLOCK HER FOR YOUR SANITY!). You don't owe your husband anything.
Anonymous
01/03/2024 23:23
Subject: WWYD husband’s affair partner posted video melange from 2023
OP, good for you for working on your marriage if that is something you still want for your future. I wish the best for you.
Agree with PP is who said you need to stay off of SM. I also agree that OW sounds unhinged.
Agree with PP is who said you need to stay off of SM. I also agree that OW sounds unhinged.
Anonymous
01/03/2024 23:07
Subject: WWYD husband’s affair partner posted video melange from 2023
Anonymous wrote:OP, do your children know who the identity of the OW? If so, if they are late teens, they are likely swift enough to see her social media postings. No matter what, the video should come down. You do not want your children to see it or any mutual friends who might not know. If it is posted on social media, you can anonymously report the post and say something like "this person is using my voice/images/recordings of me without my consent" and often that is enough to get something taken down.
This is a good point.
Anonymous
01/03/2024 23:01
Subject: WWYD husband’s affair partner posted video melange from 2023
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The video includes dates together and other things (flowers) etc from my husband including his voice in one. No clear pictures of him but notes with his name on it… She’s not married. The affair is well over and my husband and I are in a good place, but feel like I should say something? WWYD? I guess she has the right to post whatever she wants to. Still hard.
OP, I'm sorry this happened but I can guarantee you your DH still gets hard for AP.
Every ow loves to believe she had that kind of impact.
I know men that can’t even remember the name or much else about former women they banged/had relationships with.
Nah. Once it ends. if they care about their wives and healing their marriage, they find the OW a disgusting reminder of their mistakes
DP. The saving grace in my situation was there was zero question. He absolutely hated her at the end—pretty much said some awful things and assured there was no coming back from. He was disgusted. This happened before I learned of it and she was pretty bitter about how it went down when she talked to me.
For some cheating men and women —the ap represents them at their absolute lowest as a human and they resent them when all is said and done and light is shown on it and they can’t compartmentalize anymore.
The acting out by this ow reeks of vying for attention—and vindication, revenge. It’s not a good look. Anyone still in a relationship would be hiding this not blasting it across Instagram to try and force someone’s hand or create drama.
Ignore, OP. And don’t look anymore. Living well is the best revenge.
Makes a lot of sense. Agree
Anonymous
01/03/2024 23:00
Subject: WWYD husband’s affair partner posted video melange from 2023
OP, do your children know who the identity of the OW? If so, if they are late teens, they are likely swift enough to see her social media postings. No matter what, the video should come down. You do not want your children to see it or any mutual friends who might not know. If it is posted on social media, you can anonymously report the post and say something like "this person is using my voice/images/recordings of me without my consent" and often that is enough to get something taken down.
Anonymous
01/03/2024 22:43
Subject: WWYD husband’s affair partner posted video melange from 2023
Anonymous wrote:He probably hasn’t moved on…
That’s exactly what I’m thinking
Anonymous
01/03/2024 22:24
Subject: Re:WWYD husband’s affair partner posted video melange from 2023
Ignore. They can’t handle not getting a response. If you block, don’t look on SM she will eventually get bored and go look for another married man.
But—this reeks of “crazy” and escalation. Make sure you have a Ring or Nest camera—front and back entrances. This chick is unstable.
But—this reeks of “crazy” and escalation. Make sure you have a Ring or Nest camera—front and back entrances. This chick is unstable.
Anonymous
01/03/2024 22:17
Subject: WWYD husband’s affair partner posted video melange from 2023
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The video includes dates together and other things (flowers) etc from my husband including his voice in one. No clear pictures of him but notes with his name on it… She’s not married. The affair is well over and my husband and I are in a good place, but feel like I should say something? WWYD? I guess she has the right to post whatever she wants to. Still hard.
OP, I'm sorry this happened but I can guarantee you your DH still gets hard for AP.
Every ow loves to believe she had that kind of impact.
I know men that can’t even remember the name or much else about former women they banged/had relationships with.
Nah. Once it ends. if they care about their wives and healing their marriage, they find the OW a disgusting reminder of their mistakes
DP. The saving grace in my situation was there was zero question. He absolutely hated her at the end—pretty much said some awful things and assured there was no coming back from. He was disgusted. This happened before I learned of it and she was pretty bitter about how it went down when she talked to me.
For some cheating men and women —the ap represents them at their absolute lowest as a human and they resent them when all is said and done and light is shown on it and they can’t compartmentalize anymore.
The acting out by this ow reeks of vying for attention—and vindication, revenge. It’s not a good look. Anyone still in a relationship would be hiding this not blasting it across Instagram to try and force someone’s hand or create drama.
Ignore, OP. And don’t look anymore. Living well is the best revenge.
Anonymous
01/03/2024 22:09
Subject: WWYD husband’s affair partner posted video melange from 2023
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The video includes dates together and other things (flowers) etc from my husband including his voice in one. No clear pictures of him but notes with his name on it… She’s not married. The affair is well over and my husband and I are in a good place, but feel like I should say something? WWYD? I guess she has the right to post whatever she wants to. Still hard.
OP, I'm sorry this happened but I can guarantee you your DH still gets hard for AP.
Every ow loves to believe she had that kind of impact.
I know men that can’t even remember the name or much else about former women they banged/had relationships with.
Nah. Once it ends. if they care about their wives and healing their marriage, they find the OW a disgusting reminder of their mistakes
Did Ashley Madison ever close down?