Anonymous wrote:Agree. I’m son is 12 and his friends and even their parents think it fine to comment on his height. I do believe they don’t intend to be mean spirited, but it is still unkind. These same people would never comment on someone’s weight- but height seems to be fair game. Which makes zero sense as one has no control over how tall they will be and at what rate they will grow.

Omg. My younger one used to get that sh@t—even in preschool !!! We had a neighbor say something about our oldest being short in middle school (he was about 50% height). We are late growers.

I love my kid now towers over the most obnoxious mom who’s done stayed the same 5’7” he was in 6th grade.

Senior is now 6’1” was 5’4” in 9th.

Sophomore looks very young, very very skinny (15years old)— just starting to grow now. 5’2”-3 last year. He’s around 5’7” with a baby face and voice hasn’t dropped. I think he is going to end up taller than older sibling. And this kid took so much abuse about his height—even from ahole coaches in 6th-7th grade (not basketball).

Anonymous wrote:My MIL is obsessed with height. She’s tall (5’9”) and married to DH (6’2”). For years, she’s had to tell me how she loves to see tall women marry tall men and how unfortunate that shorter women marry tall when they should stick to their own height or slightly taller.

I’m 5’3” married to 6’ DH for 25 years.

She still makes her grandchildren line up by height and constantly makes comments, “almost as tall as X relative,” “are you still growing?” “Are you the tallest in your class?”

Does she think races should stick to their own kind, too? Does she think short people would poison the gene pool?

I'm like 5' on a good day, and DH is 6'2", and we are a biracial couple. I guess we didn't stick to our own kind.

Anonymous wrote:To each their own, but I personally think that women generally look best between 5’2” and 5’6” and men between 5’6” and 5’10”. Outside of that range you’ve got to be extremely good looking to make it work.

? lots of women like men who are closer to 6".

Anonymous wrote:Kids are hitting puberty earlier these days- boys too- which makes late bloomers all the more noticeable. Honestly, I think that is the largest part of this.

My 15yo son is also a very late bloomer and it has been extremely hard on him- so I totally understand where you are coming from. The late bloomers are a really small percentage of boys it seems- I think it used to be a lot more common. Most of the boys we know seemed to hit big growth spurts at 12 and look very much like men at 14-15.

At this age, I honestly don’t see it as being so much about height. There are plenty of more developed boys who are on the shorter side- it isn’t that big of an issue among peers. It is more about the physical maturity piece (and shorter height makes this more noticeable….the immature taller boys blend in better).

Agree. DS didn't hit puberty till 15/16. He was all of 5' 1.25" when he started HS. Not athletic. He passed his friends in height at 16/17 when they stopped growing, but he was still growing. But, they still see him as "short" even though he is now 5' 10.5" and taller than most of his friends. And he is still growing, albeit, much more slowly now.

To each their own, but I personally think that women generally look best between 5’2” and 5’6” and men between 5’6” and 5’10”. Outside of that range you’ve got to be extremely good looking to make it work.

Anonymous wrote:Bottom line is that for many women tall men are a lot more attractive than shorter men. Personally, being with a big, tall man makes me feel smaller and more feminine. I am 5’7”.

Well maybe that’s because you’re a few inches taller than the average woman.

I’m 5’3” and a half. I feel feminine because I’m a woman.

My ideal height in a man is about 5’8”. I have dated men as short as 5’4” and it was fine. I’ve also dated men taller than 5’9” and hated it. I’d look absolutely ridiculous with someone over 6’.

"this generation"

The US has not had a President under 5'8" in over 100 years.

The average white male in the US is 5’10”. The lower “average” you hear of 5’8” is when you average all ethnic groups. Lots of people of Hispanic decent in the US and they tend to be shorter.

This makes it sound like you consider men from certain ethnic groups to be something other than (and less than) actual men.

My white male son only grew to be 5'9.5" so I guess I failed as a parent.

Women care about how tall a man is. So do teenage girls. The taunting may not start there, but that dynamic fuels it while hormones are raging.

My MIL is obsessed with height. She’s tall (5’9”) and married to DH (6’2”). For years, she’s had to tell me how she loves to see tall women marry tall men and how unfortunate that shorter women marry tall when they should stick to their own height or slightly taller.

I’m 5’3” married to 6’ DH for 25 years.

She still makes her grandchildren line up by height and constantly makes comments, “almost as tall as X relative,” “are you still growing?” “Are you the tallest in your class?”

Taller Height for men is like looks for women— think it is just something that is more desirable overall. Most women - obviously not all- prefer a man who is taller- so that’s one aspect.
Only have 1 friend whose husband is shorter than her. I have no idea where that comes from- who knows- but I would never date a guy shorter than me- that wouldn’t be something I’m attracted to- maybe ( thinking out loud) I don’t want to be “bigger” than the man.
In sports, it can be a an advantage. Some Sports for sure.
Most short men would want to be tall- just like most heavy set women would like to be slimmer. In our society that’s just the way it is. No one can reasonably argue against that.

My son did take growth hormone oddly enough. Nothing even on our radar and I was very opposed once pointed out by Pediatrician. But he went from 48% height to 11th and stopped growing 6-8th grade. We are both tall (husband and I)—- they did an about 5 tests to determine his GH level/ including two all day hospital stays with hours long testing. It worked and he is now 6”3. But the reasoning from CHOP in Philly was the hormone interplay - not his height. We would never ever consider for height alone.

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Anonymous wrote:Since when is 5'9" short for a guy?

It isn’t. Only on DCUM. 5’9” isn’t tall, but it isn’t short either.

5’9” is pretty short for a guy

What gives is "UMC suburban high school" OP.

I was tall in the 80s as a girl and went to private school. Tall girls and short boys were made fun of constantly. UMC people want things to be perfect, like small to average size girls and average to tall boys.

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I am not obsessed with height. I am reminded of this everyday that I can get any girl I want if I have the talents, regardless of my height.

I can't believe anyone actually says stuff like this. Narcissist alert.

How do you explain Stephanie Seymour dated the Midget Axl Rose?

To say that height doesn't matter to some women is one thing. To say that "I can get any girl I want" is a narcissist thing. No, you can not get any girl you want. Some girls don't like arrogant men, for example.

Have you ever been to gun and rose or even Shawn Mendes concerts? The number of women that throw themselves at those guys?

Ok so not any girls but most of them

Shawn Mendes is 6’1”

Axl Rose is 5”9

I’m a 5’10 woman. It would take a lot for me to go for a 5’5 guy.

The fact is that women are getting taller on average over time, and most women want a man who is at least the same height. So it is harder for really short guys.

I dated a few shorter guys, though. It isn’t completely something I would rule out. And I think taller-female couples are getting more common (like Zendaya and Tom Holland.).