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Anonymous wrote:This one’s on you, OP. Pay attention to school notices going forward and stop blaming others.

It's on BOTH OF THE PARENTS, not OP. The kid has two parents.

OP says she is the one who threw away the flyer without reading it, and didn't read the email.

Now, it's possible that her spouse also ignored communications, but a school can't be blamed for being sexist if they sent something home in the backpack and the parent who emptied it was female, or if a family doesn't give a shared email for home/school communication.

I'm also entirely unsure how OP told the difference between singular and plural "you" on the phone.

I'm a teacher. I make an effort to include both parents on communication, but if I've got a kid left behind at the end of the day I have to call someone first, and I'll start with the parent who does pick up.

The plural of you is y’all

OP here. Because she called me and greeted me in the VM with my name. She said Z is alone because you aren't here. She didn't call my husband or mention she would call him in the VM. She also said I was expected to pick him up at 11:30 am, not his parents, not dad, me, me, me. When we are at the gym childcare guess who calls me for diaper changes even when dad is at the gym and dad left his number on the sheet? They call me. Another mom also got it mixed up. Both of us aren't members of the church. I think a lot of the moms are SAHM and most attend the church. They have a mom group at the church. The other mom I spoke to has a similar work schedule. We are both in the medical field and work crazy hours. I wish DH would also keep on on some of the school stuff. Some days like today I am so sleep deprived from work 15 hour days. This morning at 11:30 am I would have rather attended the party. Instead I was answering another call about my older sons IEP and he had an accident at school. The brakes on our car weren't stopping well while I was on the phone with the school. It was scary because we live in a very hilly part of the US. After that call I decided not to take anymore because I wanted to drive super slow back home.

So
Many
Excuses.

Just stop, OP. You’re an adult, not a child. Grow up,

She said they are in the medical field. Buried the lede. In my experience, every school has 1-2 self-important people constantly reminding others that they’re in the medical field as if that is a free pass to not have any of their other sh-t together. My SIL is one of them. One of my DD’s classmates’ parents used her job as an excuse forever and then a kid whose mom was a doctor in the same practice enrolled. The new mom was capable of reading emails and ordering lunches and then the jig was up.

Op here. No one knows. The reason I brought it up is because I work overnights. The notification was also given via the app but unless you open the app everyday you won't see the messages.

The app that notifies about things at school also included information? So they notified three ways?

Op here. The app was the only notification that included info about parents attending.

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Anonymous wrote:This one’s on you, OP. Pay attention to school notices going forward and stop blaming others.

It's on BOTH OF THE PARENTS, not OP. The kid has two parents.

OP says she is the one who threw away the flyer without reading it, and didn't read the email.

Now, it's possible that her spouse also ignored communications, but a school can't be blamed for being sexist if they sent something home in the backpack and the parent who emptied it was female, or if a family doesn't give a shared email for home/school communication.

I'm also entirely unsure how OP told the difference between singular and plural "you" on the phone.

I'm a teacher. I make an effort to include both parents on communication, but if I've got a kid left behind at the end of the day I have to call someone first, and I'll start with the parent who does pick up.

The plural of you is y’all

OP here. Because she called me and greeted me in the VM with my name. She said Z is alone because you aren't here. She didn't call my husband or mention she would call him in the VM. She also said I was expected to pick him up at 11:30 am, not his parents, not dad, me, me, me. When we are at the gym childcare guess who calls me for diaper changes even when dad is at the gym and dad left his number on the sheet? They call me. Another mom also got it mixed up. Both of us aren't members of the church. I think a lot of the moms are SAHM and most attend the church. They have a mom group at the church. The other mom I spoke to has a similar work schedule. We are both in the medical field and work crazy hours. I wish DH would also keep on on some of the school stuff. Some days like today I am so sleep deprived from work 15 hour days. This morning at 11:30 am I would have rather attended the party. Instead I was answering another call about my older sons IEP and he had an accident at school. The brakes on our car weren't stopping well while I was on the phone with the school. It was scary because we live in a very hilly part of the US. After that call I decided not to take anymore because I wanted to drive super slow back home.

So
Many
Excuses.

Just stop, OP. You’re an adult, not a child. Grow up,

She said they are in the medical field. Buried the lede. In my experience, every school has 1-2 self-important people constantly reminding others that they’re in the medical field as if that is a free pass to not have any of their other sh-t together. My SIL is one of them. One of my DD’s classmates’ parents used her job as an excuse forever and then a kid whose mom was a doctor in the same practice enrolled. The new mom was capable of reading emails and ordering lunches and then the jig was up.

Op here. No one knows. The reason I brought it up is because I work overnights. The notification was also given via the app but unless you open the app everyday you won't see the messages.

The app that notifies about things at school also included information? So they notified three ways?

!

Most of us do want to know what's going on with your young kids. So yes we do open the app (usually way more than one a day! - my daycare has one too).

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Anonymous wrote:This one’s on you, OP. Pay attention to school notices going forward and stop blaming others.

It's on BOTH OF THE PARENTS, not OP. The kid has two parents.

OP says she is the one who threw away the flyer without reading it, and didn't read the email.

Now, it's possible that her spouse also ignored communications, but a school can't be blamed for being sexist if they sent something home in the backpack and the parent who emptied it was female, or if a family doesn't give a shared email for home/school communication.

I'm also entirely unsure how OP told the difference between singular and plural "you" on the phone.

I'm a teacher. I make an effort to include both parents on communication, but if I've got a kid left behind at the end of the day I have to call someone first, and I'll start with the parent who does pick up.

The plural of you is y’all

OP here. Because she called me and greeted me in the VM with my name. She said Z is alone because you aren't here. She didn't call my husband or mention she would call him in the VM. She also said I was expected to pick him up at 11:30 am, not his parents, not dad, me, me, me. When we are at the gym childcare guess who calls me for diaper changes even when dad is at the gym and dad left his number on the sheet? They call me. Another mom also got it mixed up. Both of us aren't members of the church. I think a lot of the moms are SAHM and most attend the church. They have a mom group at the church. The other mom I spoke to has a similar work schedule. We are both in the medical field and work crazy hours. I wish DH would also keep on on some of the school stuff. Some days like today I am so sleep deprived from work 15 hour days. This morning at 11:30 am I would have rather attended the party. Instead I was answering another call about my older sons IEP and he had an accident at school. The brakes on our car weren't stopping well while I was on the phone with the school. It was scary because we live in a very hilly part of the US. After that call I decided not to take anymore because I wanted to drive super slow back home.

So
Many
Excuses.

Just stop, OP. You’re an adult, not a child. Grow up,

She said they are in the medical field. Buried the lede. In my experience, every school has 1-2 self-important people constantly reminding others that they’re in the medical field as if that is a free pass to not have any of their other sh-t together. My SIL is one of them. One of my DD’s classmates’ parents used her job as an excuse forever and then a kid whose mom was a doctor in the same practice enrolled. The new mom was capable of reading emails and ordering lunches and then the jig was up.

Op here. No one knows. The reason I brought it up is because I work overnights. The notification was also given via the app but unless you open the app everyday you won't see the messages.

The app that notifies about things at school also included information? So they notified three ways?

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This one’s on you, OP. Pay attention to school notices going forward and stop blaming others.

It's on BOTH OF THE PARENTS, not OP. The kid has two parents.

OP says she is the one who threw away the flyer without reading it, and didn't read the email.

Now, it's possible that her spouse also ignored communications, but a school can't be blamed for being sexist if they sent something home in the backpack and the parent who emptied it was female, or if a family doesn't give a shared email for home/school communication.

I'm also entirely unsure how OP told the difference between singular and plural "you" on the phone.

I'm a teacher. I make an effort to include both parents on communication, but if I've got a kid left behind at the end of the day I have to call someone first, and I'll start with the parent who does pick up.

The plural of you is y’all

OP here. Because she called me and greeted me in the VM with my name. She said Z is alone because you aren't here. She didn't call my husband or mention she would call him in the VM. She also said I was expected to pick him up at 11:30 am, not his parents, not dad, me, me, me. When we are at the gym childcare guess who calls me for diaper changes even when dad is at the gym and dad left his number on the sheet? They call me. Another mom also got it mixed up. Both of us aren't members of the church. I think a lot of the moms are SAHM and most attend the church. They have a mom group at the church. The other mom I spoke to has a similar work schedule. We are both in the medical field and work crazy hours. I wish DH would also keep on on some of the school stuff. Some days like today I am so sleep deprived from work 15 hour days. This morning at 11:30 am I would have rather attended the party. Instead I was answering another call about my older sons IEP and he had an accident at school. The brakes on our car weren't stopping well while I was on the phone with the school. It was scary because we live in a very hilly part of the US. After that call I decided not to take anymore because I wanted to drive super slow back home.

So
Many
Excuses.

Just stop, OP. You’re an adult, not a child. Grow up,

She said they are in the medical field. Buried the lede. In my experience, every school has 1-2 self-important people constantly reminding others that they’re in the medical field as if that is a free pass to not have any of their other sh-t together. My SIL is one of them. One of my DD’s classmates’ parents used her job as an excuse forever and then a kid whose mom was a doctor in the same practice enrolled. The new mom was capable of reading emails and ordering lunches and then the jig was up.

Op here. No one knows. The reason I brought it up is because I work overnights. The notification was also given via the app but unless you open the app everyday you won't see the messages.

The app that notifies about things at school also included information? So they notified three ways?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This one’s on you, OP. Pay attention to school notices going forward and stop blaming others.

It's on BOTH OF THE PARENTS, not OP. The kid has two parents.

OP says she is the one who threw away the flyer without reading it, and didn't read the email.

Now, it's possible that her spouse also ignored communications, but a school can't be blamed for being sexist if they sent something home in the backpack and the parent who emptied it was female, or if a family doesn't give a shared email for home/school communication.

I'm also entirely unsure how OP told the difference between singular and plural "you" on the phone.

I'm a teacher. I make an effort to include both parents on communication, but if I've got a kid left behind at the end of the day I have to call someone first, and I'll start with the parent who does pick up.

The plural of you is y’all

OP here. Because she called me and greeted me in the VM with my name. She said Z is alone because you aren't here. She didn't call my husband or mention she would call him in the VM. She also said I was expected to pick him up at 11:30 am, not his parents, not dad, me, me, me. When we are at the gym childcare guess who calls me for diaper changes even when dad is at the gym and dad left his number on the sheet? They call me. Another mom also got it mixed up. Both of us aren't members of the church. I think a lot of the moms are SAHM and most attend the church. They have a mom group at the church. The other mom I spoke to has a similar work schedule. We are both in the medical field and work crazy hours. I wish DH would also keep on on some of the school stuff. Some days like today I am so sleep deprived from work 15 hour days. This morning at 11:30 am I would have rather attended the party. Instead I was answering another call about my older sons IEP and he had an accident at school. The brakes on our car weren't stopping well while I was on the phone with the school. It was scary because we live in a very hilly part of the US. After that call I decided not to take anymore because I wanted to drive super slow back home.

So
Many
Excuses.

Just stop, OP. You’re an adult, not a child. Grow up,

She said they are in the medical field. Buried the lede. In my experience, every school has 1-2 self-important people constantly reminding others that they’re in the medical field as if that is a free pass to not have any of their other sh-t together. My SIL is one of them. One of my DD’s classmates’ parents used her job as an excuse forever and then a kid whose mom was a doctor in the same practice enrolled. The new mom was capable of reading emails and ordering lunches and then the jig was up.

Op here. No one knows. The reason I brought it up is because I work overnights. The notification was also given via the app but unless you open the app everyday you won't see the messages.

Anonymous wrote:OP, this happened to me once with a public school event. We got one notice of the event via Class Dojo (app for communicating with parents) but it was just a PDF of a flyer and it didn't say parents were invited, just that the event was happening at school on Friday. I saw it, but thought it was for a school assembly. I was like "have fun at your assembly today" at drop off.

Turns out it was a performance and parents were invited. When it started and neither DH or I were there, DC got upset and refused to participate. I got a text message (not call) that this was happening and they asked if I could come to the school. I was in the middle of project with an immediate deadline (like two hours) and dropping it to run to the school would have been very challenging. I asked some questions about DC to ascertain how urgent it was, but they said DC was calming down. I apologized profusely for misunderstanding but said I could not leave work at that moment (even if I left immediately, I would not have been there in time anyway).

They never contacted my DH at all. We are both listed as contacts. When I arrived at school for pick up, the teacher told me I "deserved a spanking."

Anyway OP, I'm on your side. Schools need to be crystal clear about this stuff, need to communicate with both parents, and should not assume that a parent will read between the lines or just know what is going on when they've made almost no effort to tell us that there's been a significant change in schedule or that we're expected at the school in the middle of the day.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This one’s on you, OP. Pay attention to school notices going forward and stop blaming others.

It's on BOTH OF THE PARENTS, not OP. The kid has two parents.

OP says she is the one who threw away the flyer without reading it, and didn't read the email.

Now, it's possible that her spouse also ignored communications, but a school can't be blamed for being sexist if they sent something home in the backpack and the parent who emptied it was female, or if a family doesn't give a shared email for home/school communication.

I'm also entirely unsure how OP told the difference between singular and plural "you" on the phone.

I'm a teacher. I make an effort to include both parents on communication, but if I've got a kid left behind at the end of the day I have to call someone first, and I'll start with the parent who does pick up.

The plural of you is y’all

OP here. Because she called me and greeted me in the VM with my name. She said Z is alone because you aren't here. She didn't call my husband or mention she would call him in the VM. She also said I was expected to pick him up at 11:30 am, not his parents, not dad, me, me, me. When we are at the gym childcare guess who calls me for diaper changes even when dad is at the gym and dad left his number on the sheet? They call me. Another mom also got it mixed up. Both of us aren't members of the church. I think a lot of the moms are SAHM and most attend the church. They have a mom group at the church. The other mom I spoke to has a similar work schedule. We are both in the medical field and work crazy hours. I wish DH would also keep on on some of the school stuff. Some days like today I am so sleep deprived from work 15 hour days. This morning at 11:30 am I would have rather attended the party. Instead I was answering another call about my older sons IEP and he had an accident at school. The brakes on our car weren't stopping well while I was on the phone with the school. It was scary because we live in a very hilly part of the US. After that call I decided not to take anymore because I wanted to drive super slow back home.

So
Many
Excuses.

Just stop, OP. You’re an adult, not a child. Grow up,

She said they are in the medical field. Buried the lede. In my experience, every school has 1-2 self-important people constantly reminding others that they’re in the medical field as if that is a free pass to not have any of their other sh-t together. My SIL is one of them. One of my DD’s classmates’ parents used her job as an excuse forever and then a kid whose mom was a doctor in the same practice enrolled. The new mom was capable of reading emails and ordering lunches and then the jig was up.

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They never contacted my DH at all. We are both listed as contacts. When I arrived at school for pick up, the teacher told me I "deserved a spanking."

The comment about deserving a spanking is way out of line.

Are you saying that as a teacher in the middle of an event that is being disrupted by a child's behavior, if I call one (the one listed first, the one who has done the most communicating in the past, the one who the kid is asking for, etc . . . ) and reach them, I'm supposed to then call the other parent? I can't assume that two adults who are married to each other would communicate with each other?

I get that if I can't reach one, I should try the other, and that it's sexist when people don't do that. But if I call a parent and they answer, I can't turn it over to the one I spoke to?

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They never contacted my DH at all. We are both listed as contacts. When I arrived at school for pick up, the teacher told me I "deserved a spanking."

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This one’s on you, OP. Pay attention to school notices going forward and stop blaming others.

It's on BOTH OF THE PARENTS, not OP. The kid has two parents.

OP says she is the one who threw away the flyer without reading it, and didn't read the email.

Now, it's possible that her spouse also ignored communications, but a school can't be blamed for being sexist if they sent something home in the backpack and the parent who emptied it was female, or if a family doesn't give a shared email for home/school communication.

I'm also entirely unsure how OP told the difference between singular and plural "you" on the phone.

I'm a teacher. I make an effort to include both parents on communication, but if I've got a kid left behind at the end of the day I have to call someone first, and I'll start with the parent who does pick up.

The plural of you is y’all

OP here. Because she called me and greeted me in the VM with my name. She said Z is alone because you aren't here. She didn't call my husband or mention she would call him in the VM. She also said I was expected to pick him up at 11:30 am, not his parents, not dad, me, me, me. When we are at the gym childcare guess who calls me for diaper changes even when dad is at the gym and dad left his number on the sheet? They call me. Another mom also got it mixed up. Both of us aren't members of the church. I think a lot of the moms are SAHM and most attend the church. They have a mom group at the church. The other mom I spoke to has a similar work schedule. We are both in the medical field and work crazy hours. I wish DH would also keep on on some of the school stuff. Some days like today I am so sleep deprived from work 15 hour days. This morning at 11:30 am I would have rather attended the party. Instead I was answering another call about my older sons IEP and he had an accident at school. The brakes on our car weren't stopping well while I was on the phone with the school. It was scary because we live in a very hilly part of the US. After that call I decided not to take anymore because I wanted to drive super slow back home.

So
Many
Excuses.

Just stop, OP. You’re an adult, not a child. Grow up,