Anonymous wrote:I knew someone who was raised by her Aunt and Uncle here in the states (from another country). Her own parents were selfish jerks. Aunt and Uncle were super nice and generous, and loved their niece. After college, the niece (who became a selfish jerk like her parents) rejected ties with Aunt and Uncle. I noticed her choosing to spend time with her a-hole parents instead.
So you might take on this extra child only to be rewarded with rejection.

Anonymous wrote:Are they legitimate refugees?

If not, then no, I would not entertain this idea.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm an immigrant from Asia where this type of ask is pretty common. My parents bore the brunt of it. One of my cousins sent her son to a school near my parents, with the understanding that my parents would keep an eye on him. It did not go well. The son was very disrespectful and ungracious, whereas my mom went out of her way to do things for him. After that they said never again.

Short of truly dire situations (war zone or parental death), I would not take in a child of a relative. You can barely keep your head above water; you have no bandwidth to take on another dependent.

Relatives overseas often have some really unrealistic views of life in America. Do not give in to family pressure. It can get really insidious.

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Hard pass