Anonymous
Post 10/13/2023 14:06     Subject: What happens if they're not accepted anywhere?
Did she add any safeties?
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2023 13:35     Subject: What happens if they're not accepted anywhere?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She does community college and applies again for the sophomore year.


She's a straight-A student. We're not looking for Ivy League, but I'd be pissed if it came to this, to put it mildly.



Then find an acceptable and true safety. There's still time to apply, so I don't see why you are asking this question, OP.

You know the answers.

1. Apply to CC.
2. Take a year off.
3. Apply late to a college that takes 90% of people.

Anonymous
Post 10/13/2023 13:20     Subject: What happens if they're not accepted anywhere?
Anonymous wrote:They will do what all kids do these days, blame you the parent. So hope they get in somewhere. Of course if they don’t like it they will blame you. Ah just get prepared to be blamed for something.


hahaha
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2023 12:29     Subject: What happens if they're not accepted anywhere?
Anonymous wrote:MY kid was aiming pretty high and I told them it was up to them if they wanted to apply to a state school which was a definite safety or take a year off if nothing came through. They ended up applying (but not needing it).


I should say I am fan of gap years but my kid wasn't (so to me it really wasn't a problem if they took a year off)
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2023 12:28     Subject: What happens if they're not accepted anywhere?
MY kid was aiming pretty high and I told them it was up to them if they wanted to apply to a state school which was a definite safety or take a year off if nothing came through. They ended up applying (but not needing it).
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2023 12:25     Subject: What happens if they're not accepted anywhere?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:She does community college and applies again for the sophomore year.


She's a straight-A student. We're not looking for Ivy League, but I'd be pissed if it came to this, to put it mildly.


I didn’t get into UC Berkeley initially so went to community college and transferred. It’s honestly not a big deal and I saved a ton of money. She will be ok “if it came to this”.



An xlnt plan . . .in California. It's a much more popular and sensible route there. My relatives all did it. It is not as accepted a route here in DCUM land. The California system developed differently. Almost all of my public classmates went to the community college, Cal States (not available anywhere else - as in a 3 tier system) and a few in the UC system. Very few had family resources to go SLAC/private.


There was (for me) an eye-opening story how the UVA admissions office looks at transfers from community colleges. While only one article, it did cause me to reconsider my views on the utility of a community college as a stepping stone to a 4-year school.


Can you share the article
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2023 12:21     Subject: What happens if they're not accepted anywhere?
Anonymous wrote:They will do what all kids do these days, blame you the parent. So hope they get in somewhere. Of course if they don’t like it they will blame you. Ah just get prepared to be blamed for something.


This is the truth lol
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2023 12:21     Subject: What happens if they're not accepted anywhere?
Anonymous wrote:Community college would be awesome unless she already know what she wants to do for living. The happiest and most successful people didn't even go to college.
CC is like extension of high school. Gives kids a few years to mature.


Oh really?? 🙄
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2023 12:18     Subject: What happens if they're not accepted anywhere?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:She does community college and applies again for the sophomore year.


She's a straight-A student. We're not looking for Ivy League, but I'd be pissed if it came to this, to put it mildly.


I didn’t get into UC Berkeley initially so went to community college and transferred. It’s honestly not a big deal and I saved a ton of money. She will be ok “if it came to this”.



An xlnt plan . . .in California. It's a much more popular and sensible route there. My relatives all did it. It is not as accepted a route here in DCUM land. The California system developed differently. Almost all of my public classmates went to the community college, Cal States (not available anywhere else - as in a 3 tier system) and a few in the UC system. Very few had family resources to go SLAC/private.


There was (for me) an eye-opening story how the UVA admissions office looks at transfers from community colleges. While only one article, it did cause me to reconsider my views on the utility of a community college as a stepping stone to a 4-year school.


What does this mean? Are you suggesting that UVA does not look fondly upon community college?


https://www.washingtonpost.com/education/2022/05/05/community-college-transfer-admissions-uva/
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2023 13:49     Subject: What happens if they're not accepted anywhere?
Suggest she add to her list. As someone else mentioned, high schools have deadlines for application lists and sending supporting documentation so that is one issue with trying to add schools late in the game.

My DC applied last year to 13 schools with a robust mix of reaches, matches, and safeties. DC was waitlisted at all his EA matches/reaches. If we had been waiting for 1 safety decision, panic would have certainly set in. Just because you apply EA does not mean you'll get the decisions early, so many applications are punted to RD.
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2023 12:59     Subject: What happens if they're not accepted anywhere?
They will do what all kids do these days, blame you the parent. So hope they get in somewhere. Of course if they don’t like it they will blame you. Ah just get prepared to be blamed for something.
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2023 12:32     Subject: What happens if they're not accepted anywhere?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She does community college and applies again for the sophomore year.


She's a straight-A student. We're not looking for Ivy League, but I'd be pissed if it came to this, to put it mildly.


I didn’t get into UC Berkeley initially so went to community college and transferred. It’s honestly not a big deal and I saved a ton of money. She will be ok “if it came to this”.



An xlnt plan . . .in California. It's a much more popular and sensible route there. My relatives all did it. It is not as accepted a route here in DCUM land. The California system developed differently. Almost all of my public classmates went to the community college, Cal States (not available anywhere else - as in a 3 tier system) and a few in the UC system. Very few had family resources to go SLAC/private.


There was (for me) an eye-opening story how the UVA admissions office looks at transfers from community colleges. While only one article, it did cause me to reconsider my views on the utility of a community college as a stepping stone to a 4-year school.


What does this mean? Are you suggesting that UVA does not look fondly upon community college?
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2023 12:32     Subject: What happens if they're not accepted anywhere?
Community College
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2023 12:30     Subject: What happens if they're not accepted anywhere?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She does community college and applies again for the sophomore year.


She's a straight-A student. We're not looking for Ivy League, but I'd be pissed if it came to this, to put it mildly.


If that's the case, than she needs to add some safeties that wouldn't make you pissed.
Also, she wouldn't be the only straight A student at community college.


Depends. Huge difference between A's in AP classes and A's in remedial ones.




It's true, and that's how there are straight A students at community colleges. You honestly think 2-year schools are filled with straight-A honors students? Come on.


Tell me you never attended a community college without telling me you never attended a cc.

I know someone who graduated hs at 16yo with over a year's worth of college credits but ended up at the cc because they chose to study a health career. Several of them (nursing, xray tech, ultrasound) require very high gpas.

I know a man who attended a cc, transferred to a top-20 lac and earned an ivy league PhD in a science field. He went to cc because his parents divorced his senior year of hs ruined his financial aid chances.

I know someone who attended cc for financial reasons and transferred to a top-30 university.

There are plenty of very bright people at Montgomery College and Northern VA CC who are there for financial reasons or because they're changing careers.


I know both a Rhodes scholar and a Fulbright scientist who started out at community college.
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2023 12:26     Subject: What happens if they're not accepted anywhere?
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Anonymous wrote:If it were my kid, I'd say, "humor me ... I need this. I need for you to apply to a few more schools. Pick 3 from this list." I would, already, have a list. At this point, schools that you think might be a good fit. And you know you can afford. Downplay you went to much effort. But on the contrary, I think it is imperative to have taken this chore seriously.

You're not saying they have to go. I do think it's ok to recognize that this whole process is stressful to parents. And lessening our stress is a reasonable ask. As parents, we each have thresholds so we feel like good-enough parents. For many of us, one of those is, that the student gets into college.

Why, so many commas?

Not PP but when I use voice to text with my iPhone lately it’s adding commas even when I don’t tell it to. Chill.


DP, but SAME! Mine adds tons of commas and capitalizes random letters.


There’s a setting to turn that off. Type “punctuation” into the search bar when you open settings and it’ll get you there.


Thank you! I will now look less insane.