Anonymous
10/06/2023 08:11
Subject: Rehoming unadoptable dog
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. I’m not going to lie to my daughter and have her dog euthanized behind her back. I’d rather let a dog be unhappy for a week than destroy my relationship with my only child.
We are going to introduce the dogs for a second time tomorrow to see how it goes. If it doesn’t work, I will gently explain that the dog will only think she’s going to sleep, and that will be the end of any stress. Losing her dad is her first major loss in life. I don’t think she will agree to it, but I’ll try again.
You think a ten year old dog will only be in the shelter for a week? Ha!
I like your plan but you should a trainer help you. Personally, I would do everything I coukd to keep the dog but I realize not everyone would.
Maybe you can set it up so its not a failure? Maybe introduce the smell of your dog first? Have them meet at a distance on leash and give them high value treats when they see each other? Get muzzles just in case. The basket ones are good but ideally you need them to get used to wearing it.
If you do it fast and the dogs lunge and snarl it isnt their fault. Things take time.
I would almost think it is better to have your dd break her lease and find another place so she can take the dog.
DP. I think that’s an admission that it would likely be the final week of the dog’s life. I don’t know how long the shelter waits until they euthanize animals who aren’t adopted, but whatever amount of time that is, that’s how long the dog would be unhappy in the shelter.
Anonymous
10/06/2023 08:10
Subject: Rehoming unadoptable dog
Anonymous wrote:Since you don't have a full grown man to lay on the one dog, what is the safety plan if it goes badly? Where is the dog now? If one attacks and the other defends, both could be badly hurt and they may attack a person trying to intervene. What is the plan, OP?
Safety plan: When dogs fight, grab their hind legs and pull their legs up and them away from each other.
Anonymous
10/06/2023 08:09
Subject: Rehoming unadoptable dog
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The dog should be euthanized. Scatter the dog’s ashes at your ex’s gravesite or wherever he was scattered.
That is not a should. The dog is rehomable. Or OP could take the dog and make it work. Or the DD could take the dog without informing the apartment management. There are solutions.
The dog is not rehomable. Shelters would take it if it was. They’re refusing to take it. It would be incredibly irresponsible for OP to risk her dog’s life and her own safety in an attempt to “make it work.” The daughter trying to keep a dog-aggressive, explicitly forbidden dog breed on the down low is unlikely to be successful. You’re posting fantasy nonsense.
Anonymous
10/06/2023 08:08
Subject: Rehoming unadoptable dog
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I’m not going to lie to my daughter and have her dog euthanized behind her back. I’d rather let a dog be unhappy for a week than destroy my relationship with my only child.
We are going to introduce the dogs for a second time tomorrow to see how it goes. If it doesn’t work, I will gently explain that the dog will only think she’s going to sleep, and that will be the end of any stress. Losing her dad is her first major loss in life. I don’t think she will agree to it, but I’ll try again.
You think a ten year old dog will only be in the shelter for a week? Ha!
I like your plan but you should a trainer help you. Personally, I would do everything I coukd to keep the dog but I realize not everyone would.
Maybe you can set it up so its not a failure? Maybe introduce the smell of your dog first? Have them meet at a distance on leash and give them high value treats when they see each other? Get muzzles just in case. The basket ones are good but ideally you need them to get used to wearing it.
If you do it fast and the dogs lunge and snarl it isnt their fault. Things take time.
I would almost think it is better to have your dd break her lease and find another place so she can take the dog.
Anonymous
10/06/2023 08:00
Subject: Rehoming unadoptable dog
Anonymous wrote:Sorry that you are in the position of risking your own dog's life or fearing estrangement, OP. This was all your EX, putting the kid in this position. If the apt did not have a breed restriction it would still have been a phenominally dangerous idea.
Are you saying he died to stick her with the dog?
Anonymous
10/06/2023 07:57
Subject: Rehoming unadoptable dog
Sorry that you are in the position of risking your own dog's life or fearing estrangement, OP. This was all your EX, putting the kid in this position. If the apt did not have a breed restriction it would still have been a phenominally dangerous idea.
Anonymous
10/06/2023 07:56
Subject: Rehoming unadoptable dog
Since you don't have a full grown man to lay on the one dog, what is the safety plan if it goes badly? Where is the dog now? If one attacks and the other defends, both could be badly hurt and they may attack a person trying to intervene. What is the plan, OP?
Anonymous
10/06/2023 07:48
Subject: Rehoming unadoptable dog
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I’m not going to lie to my daughter and have her dog euthanized behind her back. I’d rather let a dog be unhappy for a week than destroy my relationship with my only child.
We are going to introduce the dogs for a second time tomorrow to see how it goes. If it doesn’t work, I will gently explain that the dog will only think she’s going to sleep, and that will be the end of any stress. Losing her dad is her first major loss in life. I don’t think she will agree to it, but I’ll try again.
Best of luck. You've had almost 100 responses telling you this is a dangerous and poorly thought out idea, helping you get some rational feedback to counterbalance the emotional decision-making. I hope this works out safely for you, the dogs and the community around you. Again, condolences to your daughter.
Anonymous
10/06/2023 07:31
Subject: Rehoming unadoptable dog
OP here. I’m not going to lie to my daughter and have her dog euthanized behind her back. I’d rather let a dog be unhappy for a week than destroy my relationship with my only child.
We are going to introduce the dogs for a second time tomorrow to see how it goes. If it doesn’t work, I will gently explain that the dog will only think she’s going to sleep, and that will be the end of any stress. Losing her dad is her first major loss in life. I don’t think she will agree to it, but I’ll try again.
We are going to introduce the dogs for a second time tomorrow to see how it goes. If it doesn’t work, I will gently explain that the dog will only think she’s going to sleep, and that will be the end of any stress. Losing her dad is her first major loss in life. I don’t think she will agree to it, but I’ll try again.
Anonymous
10/06/2023 02:26
Subject: Re:Rehoming unadoptable dog
BE yesterday. It's a mercy vs a shelter. 10 years is a good run. It's not a dog fit to be out around people and other dogs. Ie, society.
Anonymous
10/06/2023 01:27
Subject: Rehoming unadoptable dog
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Anonymous
10/06/2023 00:19
Subject: Rehoming unadoptable dog
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Dog went to a nice lady with a "farm." Alan put the dog down. Do us all a favor.
This. I would tell dd I will take care of it and put down.
This is her dad's dog. You think she will take it well if her mom puts down her dad's dog?
Poor girl. She's not getting much empathy from some posters.
Anonymous
10/06/2023 00:11
Subject: Rehoming unadoptable dog
Anonymous wrote:Dog went to a nice lady with a "farm." Alan put the dog down. Do us all a favor.
This. I would tell dd I will take care of it and put down.
Anonymous
10/05/2023 23:10
Subject: Rehoming unadoptable dog
Dog went to a nice lady with a "farm." Alan put the dog down. Do us all a favor.
Anonymous
10/05/2023 23:05
Subject: Rehoming unadoptable dog
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you’re not willing to pay to have the dog ehttps://www.homewardtrails.org/resources/pets/giving-up-a-pet-2/uthanized, surrender it to the county. It’s sad but it is what it is.
op could find a breed specific rescue instead of the general shelter. Here is one in the Dc area
https://www.homewardtrails.org/resources/pets/giving-up-a-pet-2/
My daughter has been trying to work with them for 2 weeks. It is painfully slow, and they haven’t been very helpful. We’ve been talking to a whole bunch of foster-based rescues. They aren’t responsive. I assume that’s because they have limited space for new dogs, especially those who aren’t likely to be adopted. The reality is that they can use those resources to help other dogs with fewer problems who aren’t elderly. Resources are finite. We’re running out of time.
She was adopted from the Fx Co shelter. I’m pretty sure I explained this earlier in the thread. They will take her back, but it will be very stressful for the dog. She has an appt with them on Sunday. I’ll be coming to town tomorrow to do what I can to help, and to offer emotional support.
Since you are an experienced pitt owner already and have a bigger, stronger, younger pitt mix, I would take your ex’s dog and gradually introduce the two of them.
They've had years to get to know each other and it doesn't work. This is basically advocating for a fight ring. Forget it. 10 years in and this dog reactive? Behavioral Euthanasia is the kindest option here.
Are you the OP? It was stated that the dogs only met once when one dog was a puppy - both dogs are adults now.