Anonymous
Post 10/05/2023 21:10     Subject: Not likely to be grandparents until 70
My oldest nephew is in his 20s whereas my youngest nephew is a baby. I notice a big difference in my parents involvement and the amount of help they can provide in those 20 years. My kids are in the middle.

I benefit that my parents are retired but also recognize that keeping my kids more that 24 hours is exhausting at there current age. My sibling who had the oldest kid didn't have as much free weekday babysitting because mt parents weren't retired. It's all a trade off.

I think it's all luck.
Anonymous
Post 10/03/2023 21:06     Subject: Not likely to be grandparents until 70
Anonymous wrote:Boomers can't complain about this especially the ones that won't help their kids at all financially with zero down payment help and making their kids graduate with student loans while they go on foreign vacations. Plus my boomer parents didn't have me until they were mid 30's. Now they are mid 60's and probably won't have grandkids until 70, if ever.


It’s Boomer Hater! She’s baaaack. She hates her parents and blames their entire generation for them.
Anonymous
Post 10/03/2023 21:02     Subject: Not likely to be grandparents until 70
Boomers can't complain about this especially the ones that won't help their kids at all financially with zero down payment help and making their kids graduate with student loans while they go on foreign vacations. Plus my boomer parents didn't have me until they were mid 30's. Now they are mid 60's and probably won't have grandkids until 70, if ever.
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2023 20:34     Subject: Not likely to be grandparents until 70
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Anonymous wrote:Being a grandparent is only enjoyable IMO if you aren't being asked to become the primary caregiver of small children and they aren't in a dire situation. So if that's 70 vs 60 I'm ok with that


+1. While I hope that my kids are married, gainfully employed, and stable enough for kids at 30 I’m fine waiting if it means they are in a better space to have kids later. While I dont mean to disregard OPs feelings as I understand the desire to have grandkids at a younger age, if you had kids at a time when you were ready/able and your kids are, too, that’s the most important win.


I’m confused. Are you saying that they should only have kids when they can afford to stay at home? Otherwise they need caregivers and why wouldn’t it be a grandparent if the grandparent wanted to do it?

DP, but I really don’t see how you got anything like that from the post. She was just saying people, including people like OP’s kids, should have kids when they are ready, even if that is older than 30 and makes OP or anyone else an older grandparent.
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2023 20:31     Subject: Not likely to be grandparents until 70
My grandmother was 75 when I was born and we were supper close and did everything together — she taught me crafts and baking and how to read, I did her hair for her, she bought me my fancy party dresses, etc. when I got my drivers license Id do her grocery shopping and take her out for lunches at the ice cream parkour or out to he movies (I’d drive, she’d pay). She wasn’t hiking Yosemite or anything with me but we had a lot of good times. We even watched golden girls together!
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2023 20:29     Subject: Not likely to be grandparents until 70
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Being a grandparent is only enjoyable IMO if you aren't being asked to become the primary caregiver of small children and they aren't in a dire situation. So if that's 70 vs 60 I'm ok with that


+1. While I hope that my kids are married, gainfully employed, and stable enough for kids at 30 I’m fine waiting if it means they are in a better space to have kids later. While I dont mean to disregard OPs feelings as I understand the desire to have grandkids at a younger age, if you had kids at a time when you were ready/able and your kids are, too, that’s the most important win.


I’m confused. Are you saying that they should only have kids when they can afford to stay at home? Otherwise they need caregivers and why wouldn’t it be a grandparent if the grandparent wanted to do it?
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2023 20:28     Subject: Not likely to be grandparents until 70
Anonymous wrote:Being a grandparent is only enjoyable IMO if you aren't being asked to become the primary caregiver of small children and they aren't in a dire situation. So if that's 70 vs 60 I'm ok with that


DP.
I don’t think of raising future generations of something that necessarily has to be enjoyable. I have decided to be the primary caregiver if the need arises. Not saying you should do like I do, just stating my position.
So many people do not want or cannot have kids nowadays, I don’t get to pick and choose.
It’s whenever there’s an opportunity
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2023 20:27     Subject: Not likely to be grandparents until 70
I remember my great-grandmother so well I loved sitting in her bed, talking with her, she’d let me do her nails. She was very low energy, but she gave me the best memories of 1:1 quality time.
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2023 20:22     Subject: Not likely to be grandparents until 70
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Anonymous wrote:I’ve been thinking about it, and I think if my son gets a girl pregnant early and if she is ok with keeping the baby I would offer to care for the baby. Of course it’s her decision but if she is at all open I would be willing to raise the baby and let the parents go to college and all.
I was 34 when I had my child and I didn’t think I would want to support a teen pregnancy but here I am. Better than no grandkids at all!


That’s fine so long as it is an offer and not pressure. It may not be childcare that keeps her/them from wanting to start a family before she/they were planning to (I’m not suggesting you would be pressuring, but I can see how some people would say something like this to try). I would not want to be a parent to a child (with my high school boyfriend at that!) who had to be raised by someone else.


I honestly don’t think I would even be in a position to pressure even if I wanted to!
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2023 19:02     Subject: Not likely to be grandparents until 70
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Anonymous wrote:Being a younger grandparent is awesome. I love it. Just sayin’


Nobody likes people who gloat. Are you like this in real life? Stop it


I’m not gloating. I am merely saying that posters claiming it’s not a big deal or it doesn’t matter or who cares are just wrong. It’s cool being a young grandparent. It just is. It doesn’t mean it’s the only thing that’s cool, but it definitely is one of the cool things.


This thread is not about you. Narcissist.


No, the thread is not about me. But it’s also not about bullshit from people who say that being a young grandparent isn’t a cool thing simply because they don’t have the luxury of being one themselves.


Hey just ignore that asshat, being a young grandmother is cool, you and I both know it, and finding opportunities to insult random people on the internet is totally not cool. The PP you are responding to thinks they are in charge of this topic for some reason, but they are not.

Also, keep in mind, pretty much 99% of those on DCUM cannot possibly know what it's like to be a young grandparent because the demographic here doesn't skew that way, mostly. So to them you and I are obviously wrong since they are so right about everything. Who cares?


How do you not get that this thread is about making the older grandparent feel better, not add to their unhappiness? Sheez.


How do you not get that there is no law against stating a different point of view no matter what the thread is about? Check out almost every other thread on DCUM for examples of this.

It’s not that it’s against the law, it’s that it’s unnecessarily mean. So we don’t like you. It’s not the same level of severity, but if someone was sad about having only one leg, some people would try to encourage with how you can still get around and be active and happy with one leg but you would say, “well, 2 legs are the best; I really love having 2 legs” and then act confused when people point out that you suck.


Well said, and nicely articulated. I can't decide if Young Grandma is a troll or truly clueless.


But two legs ARE better than one. So I’m confused.


The vote is in. Troll.


Lol, I think this is someone making fun of Mean Young Grandma.


Hahaha, got it. And agreed!
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2023 18:56     Subject: Not likely to be grandparents until 70
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Nobody likes people who gloat. Are you like this in real life? Stop it


I’m not gloating. I am merely saying that posters claiming it’s not a big deal or it doesn’t matter or who cares are just wrong. It’s cool being a young grandparent. It just is. It doesn’t mean it’s the only thing that’s cool, but it definitely is one of the cool things.


This thread is not about you. Narcissist.


No, the thread is not about me. But it’s also not about bullshit from people who say that being a young grandparent isn’t a cool thing simply because they don’t have the luxury of being one themselves.


Hey just ignore that asshat, being a young grandmother is cool, you and I both know it, and finding opportunities to insult random people on the internet is totally not cool. The PP you are responding to thinks they are in charge of this topic for some reason, but they are not.

Also, keep in mind, pretty much 99% of those on DCUM cannot possibly know what it's like to be a young grandparent because the demographic here doesn't skew that way, mostly. So to them you and I are obviously wrong since they are so right about everything. Who cares?


How do you not get that this thread is about making the older grandparent feel better, not add to their unhappiness? Sheez.


How do you not get that there is no law against stating a different point of view no matter what the thread is about? Check out almost every other thread on DCUM for examples of this.

It’s not that it’s against the law, it’s that it’s unnecessarily mean. So we don’t like you. It’s not the same level of severity, but if someone was sad about having only one leg, some people would try to encourage with how you can still get around and be active and happy with one leg but you would say, “well, 2 legs are the best; I really love having 2 legs” and then act confused when people point out that you suck.


Well said, and nicely articulated. I can't decide if Young Grandma is a troll or truly clueless.


But two legs ARE better than one. So I’m confused.


The vote is in. Troll.


Lol, I think this is someone making fun of Mean Young Grandma.
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2023 18:54     Subject: Not likely to be grandparents until 70
Anonymous wrote:I’ve been thinking about it, and I think if my son gets a girl pregnant early and if she is ok with keeping the baby I would offer to care for the baby. Of course it’s her decision but if she is at all open I would be willing to raise the baby and let the parents go to college and all.
I was 34 when I had my child and I didn’t think I would want to support a teen pregnancy but here I am. Better than no grandkids at all!


That’s fine so long as it is an offer and not pressure. It may not be childcare that keeps her/them from wanting to start a family before she/they were planning to (I’m not suggesting you would be pressuring, but I can see how some people would say something like this to try). I would not want to be a parent to a child (with my high school boyfriend at that!) who had to be raised by someone else.
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2023 18:51     Subject: Re:Not likely to be grandparents until 70
My grandmother had my mom at 45, and my mom had me at 27 - so I guess my grandmother was 72 when she was a grandmother for the first time. As far as I know she didn't let her age bother her!
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2023 18:48     Subject: Not likely to be grandparents until 70
Anonymous wrote:Being a grandparent is only enjoyable IMO if you aren't being asked to become the primary caregiver of small children and they aren't in a dire situation. So if that's 70 vs 60 I'm ok with that


+1. While I hope that my kids are married, gainfully employed, and stable enough for kids at 30 I’m fine waiting if it means they are in a better space to have kids later. While I dont mean to disregard OPs feelings as I understand the desire to have grandkids at a younger age, if you had kids at a time when you were ready/able and your kids are, too, that’s the most important win.
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2023 17:56     Subject: Not likely to be grandparents until 70
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Nobody likes people who gloat. Are you like this in real life? Stop it


I’m not gloating. I am merely saying that posters claiming it’s not a big deal or it doesn’t matter or who cares are just wrong. It’s cool being a young grandparent. It just is. It doesn’t mean it’s the only thing that’s cool, but it definitely is one of the cool things.


This thread is not about you. Narcissist.


No, the thread is not about me. But it’s also not about bullshit from people who say that being a young grandparent isn’t a cool thing simply because they don’t have the luxury of being one themselves.


Hey just ignore that asshat, being a young grandmother is cool, you and I both know it, and finding opportunities to insult random people on the internet is totally not cool. The PP you are responding to thinks they are in charge of this topic for some reason, but they are not.

Also, keep in mind, pretty much 99% of those on DCUM cannot possibly know what it's like to be a young grandparent because the demographic here doesn't skew that way, mostly. So to them you and I are obviously wrong since they are so right about everything. Who cares?


How do you not get that this thread is about making the older grandparent feel better, not add to their unhappiness? Sheez.


How do you not get that there is no law against stating a different point of view no matter what the thread is about? Check out almost every other thread on DCUM for examples of this.

It’s not that it’s against the law, it’s that it’s unnecessarily mean. So we don’t like you. It’s not the same level of severity, but if someone was sad about having only one leg, some people would try to encourage with how you can still get around and be active and happy with one leg but you would say, “well, 2 legs are the best; I really love having 2 legs” and then act confused when people point out that you suck.


Well said, and nicely articulated. I can't decide if Young Grandma is a troll or truly clueless.


But two legs ARE better than one. So I’m confused.


The vote is in. Troll.