Anonymous wrote:I am not OP but I have done this once — got too excited about meeting a bunch of people I work with daily who were in town for a conference, overdrank, crashed with a coworker, came home at 6am. Super embarrassing more than anything else, but my husband was (surprisingly) not bothered by it at all.

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Anonymous wrote:My theory is OP is writing a mystery and wanted to tee up the premise to see what ideas it might generate here.

I’m convinced that all the juiciest posts on this forum are just writers trolling us for material.

Pp here. I mean really - your husband goes missing and before you call the cops you post for advice on DCUM? No.

I could totally see doing this while going from feeling like you’re overreacting to not wanting to believe there is really a good reason to worry to total freakout. I also could see abandoning DCUM as shyt got real. And I probably wouldn’t be back to give updates unless he showed up fine with a sketchy story.

I posted on DCUM years ago, when my husband didn't come home to our apartment for dinner. He was in the attic of our new house at 2am, with his phone dead, intent on finishing up the insulation up there and hadn't seen the time fly. The police arrive to check on him and he was a little annoyed I'd called them...

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Anonymous wrote:My theory is OP is writing a mystery and wanted to tee up the premise to see what ideas it might generate here.

I’m convinced that all the juiciest posts on this forum are just writers trolling us for material.

Pp here. I mean really - your husband goes missing and before you call the cops you post for advice on DCUM? No.

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Anonymous wrote:My theory is OP is writing a mystery and wanted to tee up the premise to see what ideas it might generate here.

I’m convinced that all the juiciest posts on this forum are just writers trolling us for material.

Pp here. I mean really - your husband goes missing and before you call the cops you post for advice on DCUM? No.

I could totally see doing this while going from feeling like you’re overreacting to not wanting to believe there is really a good reason to worry to total freakout. I also could see abandoning DCUM as shyt got real. And I probably wouldn’t be back to give updates unless he showed up fine with a sketchy story.

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Anonymous wrote:My theory is OP is writing a mystery and wanted to tee up the premise to see what ideas it might generate here.

I’m convinced that all the juiciest posts on this forum are just writers trolling us for material.

Pp here. I mean really - your husband goes missing and before you call the cops you post for advice on DCUM? No.

Anonymous wrote:My theory is OP is writing a mystery and wanted to tee up the premise to see what ideas it might generate here.

I’m convinced that all the juiciest posts on this forum are just writers trolling us for material.

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Anonymous wrote:You all are way too naive. If he’s not in a hospital and the police haven’t arrested him, he went home with a coworker. Period. Grown man didn’t get kidnapped.

Seriously, who wants a grown man??

You're as naive as the PP to whom you're responding. Neither of you seems to have any street smarts. No one might want to kidnap a grown man, but there are people who would want his car, his wallet, his PIN number for the bank card, his phone, and he would only be an easily threatened, then easily removed, obstacle between them and those things.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband did this once in 20 years, also after a work dinner. He never drinks and for some reason decided to keep up with his coworkers so after dinner they went to the bar next door until it closed at 2am. He could hardly walk so he go in the back seat of his car and slept it off. I was absolutely panicked. His phone was dead. I had a 3yo and was pregnant with our second. This was pre-uber days though so idk if this would be likely to happen now that it's so easy to get a ride home on demand.

I once fell to the ground leaving a bar and having drank only 3 drinks. I was unable to move and pick up the phone that was ringing. I woke up about 3 hours later. I have no medical conditions and I can drink a lot more than I did that night.
I have no idea what happened that night.
I have had two people disappear like that. One I found at home and completely out of it, but sobered up.

This exact thing has happened to me. I also had 3 drinks over several hours and when I got up and walked out, my mind was totally coherent, but my legs literally did not work. My mind was telling me to do things like call out for help or get up off the ground, but my body would not respond. It was terrifying and has never happened to me other than that one time 15+ years ago.

You both probably had your drinks drugged. It happens.

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This happened to my sister. A coworker drugged her drink at a work happy hour, and it was like she was paralyzed (but she said her brain was also a little hazy too). It was terrifying. She left the org, and now avoids places that have a heavy drinking culture.

It’s sort of amazing the different worlds people live in. I have no idea of where or how to buy these drugs. Didn’t stop me being accused of drugging a girls drink (who didn’t go home with) during study abroad 20+ years ago. I have no idea now and definitely no idea then in a foreign country of how to procure these substances. What circles do you have to run in to both have these and bring them to a work HH!? But I agree, the PPs sound like they were drugged.

As an aside, I think the girl, who was visiting a group from her college from another program/country, was drugged by one of the guys in the group she was visiting. But wow, that was uncomfortable - that whole group probably still thinks I’m a rapist.

Anyway, not to derail the thread - I’m just sitting here like everyone else waiting for an update from the OP.

It was a large, big-name trade association. It’s very likely some DCUMs work there.

BIO?

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Anonymous wrote:You all are way too naive. If he’s not in a hospital and the police haven’t arrested him, he went home with a coworker. Period. Grown man didn’t get kidnapped.

Seriously, who wants a grown man??

You're as naive as the PP to whom you're responding. Neither of you seems to have any street smarts. No one might want to kidnap a grown man, but there are people who would want his car, his wallet, his PIN number for the bank card, his phone, and he would only be an easily threatened, then easily removed, obstacle between them and those things.

You are easily excited, aren’t you?

Not excited. Just glad I'm not as oblivious as you and that other PP seem to be. Have fun getting mugged. You'll make an easy target.

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Anonymous wrote:You all are way too naive. If he’s not in a hospital and the police haven’t arrested him, he went home with a coworker. Period. Grown man didn’t get kidnapped.

Seriously, who wants a grown man??

You're as naive as the PP to whom you're responding. Neither of you seems to have any street smarts. No one might want to kidnap a grown man, but there are people who would want his car, his wallet, his PIN number for the bank card, his phone, and he would only be an easily threatened, then easily removed, obstacle between them and those things.

You are easily excited, aren’t you?

Anonymous wrote:If I ever get kidnapped and hauled off to Belarus, I guess nobody will believe me when I manage to check DCUM.

Anonymous wrote:So I guess we are back to waiting for the OP to resurface.