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Anonymous wrote:If you wan to dress your child you should be able to do so. Why does your wife decide what the baby wears?

Many people dress their babies in clothes, it is normal. If there is an outfit you like or end any to wear (maybe gift giver is visiting), put it on baby.

Is your wife controlling in other ways?

Not usually she’s just very particular about how things are done with him.

She thinks that he doesn’t nurse as well in the outfits with pants because the waistband is too tight on his stomach. It’s not. It fits fine and he doesn’t seem uncomfortable I’m concerned it’s new mom anxiety on a whole new level.

This is funny because you’re describing your new dad anxiety that’s on a different planet.

It sounds like if you want your son in your special outfits all you have to do is dress him and change his diaper. Instead you want to control how your wife dresses your son. That’s a bit much.

Isn't it a bit much that his wife changes the baby out of whatever OP puts on the kid?

Not at all. He says she puts on an easy sleeper after she changes the baby’s diaper.

She probably doesn’t want to spend an eternity buttoning up all the little buttons on the special shirts, pants and socks used earlier in the day. That’s completely normal. What’s not normal is the parent who’s NOT taking care of the baby obsessing about newborn fashion and being this controlling over something so trivial.

Dad needs to get screened for anxiety and find better coping strategies.

Anonymous wrote:Is your wife a first time mom? She sounds like either she may have a lot of anxiety if she is changing the clothes you put them in at the next diaper change or prefers to be the one making all kid decisions. But only you would know how her behavior is towards you.
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I'm the PP. After reading some of the comments, I'm dismissing my prior post. The baby is only 3.5 weeks old! It's hard changing a baby so tiny all the time. Plus if the baby doesn't eat well when wearing pants then listen to the person nursing them.

Is your wife a first time mom? She sounds like either she may have a lot of anxiety if she is changing the clothes you put them in at the next diaper change or prefers to be the one making all kid decisions. But only you would know how her behavior is towards you.
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OMG it’s totally the MIL posting! Pp is right!! She’s hoping the DIL will see and be freaked out? Scandalous! Lol. Epic dcum.

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Anonymous wrote:If you wan to dress your child you should be able to do so. Why does your wife decide what the baby wears?

Many people dress their babies in clothes, it is normal. If there is an outfit you like or end any to wear (maybe gift giver is visiting), put it on baby.

Is your wife controlling in other ways?

Not usually she’s just very particular about how things are done with him.

She thinks that he doesn’t nurse as well in the outfits with pants because the waistband is too tight on his stomach. It’s not. It fits fine and he doesn’t seem uncomfortable I’m concerned it’s new mom anxiety on a whole new level.

This is funny because you’re describing your new dad anxiety that’s on a different planet.

It sounds like if you want your son in your special outfits all you have to do is dress him and change his diaper. Instead you want to control how your wife dresses your son. That’s a bit much.

Isn't it a bit much that his wife changes the baby out of whatever OP puts on the kid?

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Mom feeds baby. Baby poops. Mom changes baby’s clothes. Repeat. It’s actually if not bizarre, at least unusual that Dad cares, and keeps changing the baby’s clothes when he’s not the one nursing the baby. Why are pants on a newborn so vitally important to Dad? I hope he’s at least the one changing the kid and cleaning up the blowouts.

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Anonymous wrote:If you wan to dress your child you should be able to do so. Why does your wife decide what the baby wears?

Many people dress their babies in clothes, it is normal. If there is an outfit you like or end any to wear (maybe gift giver is visiting), put it on baby.

Is your wife controlling in other ways?

Not usually she’s just very particular about how things are done with him.

She thinks that he doesn’t nurse as well in the outfits with pants because the waistband is too tight on his stomach. It’s not. It fits fine and he doesn’t seem uncomfortable I’m concerned it’s new mom anxiety on a whole new level.

This is funny because you’re describing your new dad anxiety that’s on a different planet.

It sounds like if you want your son in your special outfits all you have to do is dress him and change his diaper. Instead you want to control how your wife dresses your son. That’s a bit much.

Isn't it a bit much that his wife changes the baby out of whatever OP puts on the kid?

Nope. Isn’t it a bit much that instead of taking care of his child and his wife who VERY RECENTLY GAVE BIRTH Pops is complying to strangers about a newborn’s wardrobe?

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Anonymous wrote:Does she have other signs of postpartum anxiety?

Weird, this is not a sign of postpartum anxiety.

And I've never met a dad who cares about this.

Yes, claiming all the pants are too tight is definitely an anxiety red flag and I’m surprised more people aren’t picking upon this. Obviously wearing only rompers isn’t the end of the world but it sounds like she is not coping well right now.

Nope. The flag is “Dad’s” controlling attitude and behavior — which seems designed Yo induce anxiety in the mother of a newborn.
The second flag is in your comment assuming that you magically know how clothes you haven’t seen fit a baby you have never met. You know nothing about the size of the baby, the size of the clothes, or the design of the clothes. Lots of babies never fit newborn clothes, for example.


Dad sounds like a lot to cope with. I hope the Mom has some support with that.

Sorry but no - what exactly is the dad doing that’s controlling?? Be specific.

And nice try but the “my baby can’t wear pants” thing is not a thing. So it does not take magic to know that mom is seriously anxious if she thinks the baby can’t handle wearing pants.

No, but my baby can’t wear THESE pants because they’ve too tight — might actually mean that all the cute newborn clothes his mom bought are indeed too tight. In any case, the woman just had a baby less than a month ago, and dad is bothering mom about outfits. That’s controlling. And it doesn’t take “magic” to see that.

If my DH cared about this I would be so annoyed and turned off.

My baby wore pjs all the time until 4 months or so, besides the odd outfit for a photo op or special outing. Even then it was only for a few hours. Mostly they wore sleepers but some 2 piece pajama sets that looked outfit like.

Why not? My first baby was fussy, they did genuinely seem happier in non-constricting 100% cotton clothing. My second - it didn't seem to make much difference.

I have an old nag nag nag naggedy nag nagger husband like OP. I hate him.

If she is nursing this baby the clothes the baby wears matter to the mom because their bodies are so close so much of the time.

I do agree about elastic waistbands on bellies as a possible irritant (and if you are watching someone 24/7 you can notice those tiny differences)

OP - a LOT of people call the first 3ish months of a baby’s life the “4th trimester” because it fits. Especially when nursing. It’s very……clinical…. So many fluids and bodily functions getting on new schedules

Fashion isn’t the top priority

Give it a few seasons

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Anonymous wrote:Does she have other signs of postpartum anxiety?

Weird, this is not a sign of postpartum anxiety.

And I've never met a dad who cares about this.

Yes, claiming all the pants are too tight is definitely an anxiety red flag and I’m surprised more people aren’t picking upon this. Obviously wearing only rompers isn’t the end of the world but it sounds like she is not coping well right now.

Uh, she says the baby doesn’t eat well while wearing the pants. That sounds like a really easy observation to make for the person nursing the baby and a really stupid one to question by the person not nursing the baby.

I would rather that poop spray be contained in a onsie. Just saying.

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Anonymous wrote:If you wan to dress your child you should be able to do so. Why does your wife decide what the baby wears?

Many people dress their babies in clothes, it is normal. If there is an outfit you like or end any to wear (maybe gift giver is visiting), put it on baby.

Is your wife controlling in other ways?

Not usually she’s just very particular about how things are done with him.

She thinks that he doesn’t nurse as well in the outfits with pants because the waistband is too tight on his stomach. It’s not. It fits fine and he doesn’t seem uncomfortable I’m concerned it’s new mom anxiety on a whole new level.

Is she usually anxious? How old is the baby? If she starts to get anxious about regular everyday things or starts to try to control you and the environment, that is definitely worth a talk with the doctor.

3.5 weeks. I will keep that in mind to bring up at 6 weeks Appointment

Wait you are going to her obstetrician appointments? Does she not speak English? You seem very controlling for a DH.

This is concerning honestly. Mine came to most of my appts when I was pregnant and even drove me to postpartum appts but those postpartum conversations with my doctor were personal. I can't imagine any DH attending.

Beyond what others have said re: convenience (which I agree with)

Newborns sleep most of the time…it simply seems logical to keep them in pajama-type items most of the time unless it is a special occasion or outing. I mean- do you prefer to sleep in jeans and a sweater? Or comfy PJs? Same thing. A lot of these outfits are scratchy, or ride up, or have elastic waist that can dig in, socks fall off etc. Just not comfortable. A cotton one piece of some sort is easy/foolproof and one less thing for a new mom to think about.