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Anonymous wrote:19:20 is our resident nasty entitled granny. She posts on any thread that anything a MIL wants a MIL gets no matter how foolish, irresponsible, outrageous or ridiculous. It’s boomer time and boomers get whatever they want in her world. What a wonderful world when everyone sucks up to bad boomers.

Nope. Wrong person.

My opinion has nothing to do with mothers-in-law. It's about reciprocation.

I'd be pretty irritated if all this time I trusted someone to bring their dog to my house only to be told "oh well no, I certainly don't trust YOU to bring your dog into MY precious house. "

DP. The MIL isn't bringing a dog. MIL wants to bring a puppy. Why do you not get that distinction? Puppy = more excitable, less trained/untrained, more likely to get into everything, more attractive as an attention magnet for the MANY kids present. If you're such an animal lover, you should find this idea nuts--for the poor puppy.

I have a puppy that has none of what you describe, A. B., there are a dozen kids in the house and it's weird to draw the line at the puppy. OP is just flexing.

I agree with the above, if OP is not going to reciprocate, her dog would not longer be welcome at my house. YOu can board him. MIL's compromises are reasonable.

A. If you equate human children with puppies you have big issues
B. OP has reciprocated, just not this time.

I didn't "equate human children with puppies." LOL. Are you that dumb? I'm saying the mess/noise . . . all of the things OP s worried about with a puppy, are already there 10-fold with that many kids. She's making the stand with a puppy simply because she can.

And going forward, she should not expect to bring her dog to MIL's. She wouldn't be bringing it to mine, I can tell you that. You reciprocate both ways, or not at all. A large GSD, and i love large dogs, are challenging in the home, esp. if it's not your own. OP acts like she bring a toy poodle or something. Her MIL does her a BIG favor allowing that dog. And this is how she reciprocates? Um, no.

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Anonymous wrote:Hypocrite. You bring your dog there, but they cannot bring a puppy?

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A german shepherd is a BIG dog and sheds a ton. So, your MIL put up with that for what sounds like numerous visits. She probably has your dog's shedded fur all over her house yet continued to let you bring the dog. OP, you are a hypocrite..

Anonymous wrote:Hypocrite. You bring your dog there, but they cannot bring a puppy?

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Anonymous wrote:19:20 is our resident nasty entitled granny. She posts on any thread that anything a MIL wants a MIL gets no matter how foolish, irresponsible, outrageous or ridiculous. It’s boomer time and boomers get whatever they want in her world. What a wonderful world when everyone sucks up to bad boomers.

Nope. Wrong person.

My opinion has nothing to do with mothers-in-law. It's about reciprocation.

I'd be pretty irritated if all this time I trusted someone to bring their dog to my house only to be told "oh well no, I certainly don't trust YOU to bring your dog into MY precious house. "

DP. The MIL isn't bringing a dog. MIL wants to bring a puppy. Why do you not get that distinction? Puppy = more excitable, less trained/untrained, more likely to get into everything, more attractive as an attention magnet for the MANY kids present. If you're such an animal lover, you should find this idea nuts--for the poor puppy.

I have a puppy that has none of what you describe, A. B., there are a dozen kids in the house and it's weird to draw the line at the puppy. OP is just flexing.

I agree with the above, if OP is not going to reciprocate, her dog would not longer be welcome at my house. YOu can board him. MIL's compromises are reasonable.

A. If you equate human children with puppies you have big issues
B. OP has reciprocated, just not this time.

I didn't "equate human children with puppies." LOL. Are you that dumb? I'm saying the mess/noise . . . all of the things OP s worried about with a puppy, are already there 10-fold with that many kids. She's making the stand with a puppy simply because she can.

And going forward, she should not expect to bring her dog to MIL's. She wouldn't be bringing it to mine, I can tell you that. You reciprocate both ways, or not at all. A large GSD, and i love large dogs, are challenging in the home, esp. if it's not your own. OP acts like she bring a toy poodle or something. Her MIL does her a BIG favor allowing that dog. And this is how she reciprocates? Um, no.

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Anonymous wrote:19:20 is our resident nasty entitled granny. She posts on any thread that anything a MIL wants a MIL gets no matter how foolish, irresponsible, outrageous or ridiculous. It’s boomer time and boomers get whatever they want in her world. What a wonderful world when everyone sucks up to bad boomers.

Nope. Wrong person.

My opinion has nothing to do with mothers-in-law. It's about reciprocation.

I'd be pretty irritated if all this time I trusted someone to bring their dog to my house only to be told "oh well no, I certainly don't trust YOU to bring your dog into MY precious house. "

DP. The MIL isn't bringing a dog. MIL wants to bring a puppy. Why do you not get that distinction? Puppy = more excitable, less trained/untrained, more likely to get into everything, more attractive as an attention magnet for the MANY kids present. If you're such an animal lover, you should find this idea nuts--for the poor puppy.

I have a puppy that has none of what you describe, A. B., there are a dozen kids in the house and it's weird to draw the line at the puppy. OP is just flexing.

I agree with the above, if OP is not going to reciprocate, her dog would not longer be welcome at my house. YOu can board him. MIL's compromises are reasonable.

A. If you equate human children with puppies you have big issues
B. OP has reciprocated, just not this time.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here - it’s 13 kids actually. So yes - I told her this is too much. Either crate her puppy while in the house or don’t bring it. She wants to put it into a carrier and wear her (I said that’s fine), but no free running around my house. She is bringing a playpen for it too and wants it set up on the main floor since there a hallway with wood floor. With pads down for when it goes. I’m not a fan of this either, but maybe I’m being difficult here. I also feel like our shepherd is going to go nuts trying to get into the soft, collapsible sided pen….

Yes, you're being difficult. This is an excellent compromise.

And if you're going to say no, which is your right, you had best be prepared to be told you can't bring your dog next time. She does you a solid on saving boarding fees (not to mention potential dog viruses) by letting you bring your BIG dog to her home.

+1 The safest place for the puppy would be your MIL’s compromise suggestion - main floor, large puppy playpen, using pads down. Amazon has a ton of waterproof puppy pads that you can lay down that will protect you floor and can be laundered. This way the puppy is safely supervised and isolated.

No. Put it in a large breed crate with a crate pan. Old newspaper under old clothes. Throw away accidents and take it out in harness and leash at least every 2 hours. Why get a hard to housetrain breed in the habit of eliminating in the house. MIL's daughter has daschunds that eliminate all over in MIL house. So OP needs to set a precedent on this now or she could get 10+ years of it. And afficiondos of that breed often get 2-3 of them.

No. It/s inhumane to crate a puppy that long (total hours in the day) and it would backfire on the family because timing matters. The time to socialize a puppy is while he is young especially when in fear periods. By allowing him to be contained in the play pen, he is getting socialization, being exposed to noise and people, while being safe - his accidents are contained on the pads if he has any, and he can’t wander the house or eat stray toys, and the other animals can’t access him.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here - it’s 13 kids actually. So yes - I told her this is too much. Either crate her puppy while in the house or don’t bring it. She wants to put it into a carrier and wear her (I said that’s fine), but no free running around my house. She is bringing a playpen for it too and wants it set up on the main floor since there a hallway with wood floor. With pads down for when it goes. I’m not a fan of this either, but maybe I’m being difficult here. I also feel like our shepherd is going to go nuts trying to get into the soft, collapsible sided pen….

Yes, you're being difficult. This is an excellent compromise.

And if you're going to say no, which is your right, you had best be prepared to be told you can't bring your dog next time. She does you a solid on saving boarding fees (not to mention potential dog viruses) by letting you bring your BIG dog to her home.

+1 The safest place for the puppy would be your MIL’s compromise suggestion - main floor, large puppy playpen, using pads down. Amazon has a ton of waterproof puppy pads that you can lay down that will protect you floor and can be laundered. This way the puppy is safely supervised and isolated.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here - it’s 13 kids actually. So yes - I told her this is too much. Either crate her puppy while in the house or don’t bring it. She wants to put it into a carrier and wear her (I said that’s fine), but no free running around my house. She is bringing a playpen for it too and wants it set up on the main floor since there a hallway with wood floor. With pads down for when it goes. I’m not a fan of this either, but maybe I’m being difficult here. I also feel like our shepherd is going to go nuts trying to get into the soft, collapsible sided pen….

Yes, you're being difficult. This is an excellent compromise.

And if you're going to say no, which is your right, you had best be prepared to be told you can't bring your dog next time. She does you a solid on saving boarding fees (not to mention potential dog viruses) by letting you bring your BIG dog to her home.

+1 The safest place for the puppy would be your MIL’s compromise suggestion - main floor, large puppy playpen, using pads down. Amazon has a ton of waterproof puppy pads that you can lay down that will protect you floor and can be laundered. This way the puppy is safely supervised and isolated.

No. Put it in a large breed crate with a crate pan. Old newspaper under old clothes. Throw away accidents and take it out in harness and leash at least every 2 hours. Why get a hard to housetrain breed in the habit of eliminating in the house. MIL's daughter has daschunds that eliminate all over in MIL house. So OP needs to set a precedent on this now or she could get 10+ years of it. And afficiondos of that breed often get 2-3 of them.

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Anonymous wrote:19:20 is our resident nasty entitled granny. She posts on any thread that anything a MIL wants a MIL gets no matter how foolish, irresponsible, outrageous or ridiculous. It’s boomer time and boomers get whatever they want in her world. What a wonderful world when everyone sucks up to bad boomers.

Nope. Wrong person.

My opinion has nothing to do with mothers-in-law. It's about reciprocation.

I'd be pretty irritated if all this time I trusted someone to bring their dog to my house only to be told "oh well no, I certainly don't trust YOU to bring your dog into MY precious house. "

DP. The MIL isn't bringing a dog. MIL wants to bring a puppy. Why do you not get that distinction? Puppy = more excitable, less trained/untrained, more likely to get into everything, more attractive as an attention magnet for the MANY kids present. If you're such an animal lover, you should find this idea nuts--for the poor puppy.

I have a puppy that has none of what you describe, A. B., there are a dozen kids in the house and it's weird to draw the line at the puppy. OP is just flexing.

I agree with the above, if OP is not going to reciprocate, her dog would not longer be welcome at my house. YOu can board him. MIL's compromises are reasonable.

Anonymous wrote:If you want to keep bringing your dog, you need to let her bring hers. We had the opposite issue. I DON’T want my sisters German Shephard at our house so I stopped bringing my small non shedding dog to hers, just to not be a hypocrite.

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Anonymous wrote:19:20 is our resident nasty entitled granny. She posts on any thread that anything a MIL wants a MIL gets no matter how foolish, irresponsible, outrageous or ridiculous. It’s boomer time and boomers get whatever they want in her world. What a wonderful world when everyone sucks up to bad boomers.

Nope. Wrong person.

My opinion has nothing to do with mothers-in-law. It's about reciprocation.

I'd be pretty irritated if all this time I trusted someone to bring their dog to my house only to be told "oh well no, I certainly don't trust YOU to bring your dog into MY precious house. "

DP. The MIL isn't bringing a dog. MIL wants to bring a puppy. Why do you not get that distinction? Puppy = more excitable, less trained/untrained, more likely to get into everything, more attractive as an attention magnet for the MANY kids present. If you're such an animal lover, you should find this idea nuts--for the poor puppy.

Anonymous wrote:Op here - yes I spoke to her about the safety. We didn’t realize what the breed was or how old it was initially. When we found it would be a tiny dachshund... She wants it sleeping in our guest bed to help them bond 😬.

Anonymous wrote:So, the puppy isn’t even born yet?

It’s a bad idea to take a puppy out where other dogs hang out before it gets vaccinated.

Anonymous wrote:Op here - yes I spoke to her about the safety. We didn’t realize what the breed was or how old it was initially. When we found it would be a tiny dachshund, I reminded her that there will be kids as young as 1 here…. I told her it’s going to be chaotic with all the kids running around as is, so I wouldn’t suggest letting it roam around. Outside and the basement where they will be is where the kids run around and play. I offered them an upstairs guest room, but they like the privacy of the basement despite it being the main play area for the kids. We will definitely contain our pets for their safety if things get crazy. I think she has romanticized everything and is treating her dog like it’s a baby. She wants it sleeping in our guest bed to help them bond 😬.